The relationship breakdown between me and my closest friend, Marcy (a pseudonym). Best friends. This breakdown occurred a little more than a month ago. Lots of issues were going on for both of us, tensions were high and had been for about a month. I felt like she’d been distant, or bored. In an attempt to rekindle the friendship, we'd hung out and afterward, I messaged about how grateful I was having her as a friend since we were so close. The following day we'd met for lunch and she explained she felt it was in her best interests if we took a break being friends, and I did not respond appropriately and retorted a strong and hurtful message. One that was mean and attacked parts of her I knew would make her upset. I was hurt and I wanted her …show more content…
We did not work together to meet any sort of benign roles. The power distribution between Marcy and I was near equal, we both shared being stubborn and usually did not let the other influence us too greatly, and for the bulk of our camaraderie what we wanted was mutual. The discussion began with the source as assertive but quickly escalated to aggressive from the receiver. The climate was certainly defensive due to my response being hostile and changing the entire purpose of the message. The feedback given was the response that attacked her character and personal faults and blaming those characteristics as her inability to keep up with our friendship through a trying time. I had not listened to the message in its entirety and only heard that she wanted to foment a break from being friends because of choices I was making, and out of feeling hurt and the majority of reasons given by her and to her came off …show more content…
The communication components Listen & Respond, and Verbal were the largest source of creating the breakdown. Although I would say that my response was the largest issue in the breakdown, Marcy had not done a perfect job communicating either and interpreted my message as hate instead of hurt. After receiving my response, she refused to resolve any misunderstandings from my point of view and accepted my words as the entire message, not hearing in between them or considering the weight of what she had just told me and how that impacted me. We both used a confrontational conflict management style and we were without fault and passed the blame to the other person, not considering their emotions and external factors happening simultaneously. In the future, this situation can be avoided by not attacking the other person, using effective listening skills, and perception checking. Had both of us considered what the other was feeling and going through the discussion could have taken an incredibly different, and more positive turn, which may have resulted in an easier and less painful
Then on January 18th we started texting about our issues. My friend had not been very nice lately, and she had changed since she was my buddy in crime in elementary school. So, we started texting about our issues. I was about to send the text, “Gtg”, and go downstairs for dinner, when she sent a text saying, “I don’t think we should be best friends anymore.” As soon as the text lit up on my phone screen, I started sobbing. I was heartbroken, destroyed, and most of all, disappointed. My best friend since 2nd grade had told me she didn’t want to be my best friend anymore, and ever since then, it really did feel like that. I was lucky if I ever felt that we were just acquaintances. This text devastated me. In most situation, if you make a friend in early elementary school, usually you’re friends and you stay friends forever, and get closer year by year. But, in my case, that fate did not happen. My best friend turned around on me and said she didn’t want to be my best friend anymore. So I realized that even though friends can promise things, you never know what will happen to a friendship five years in the future, but if friends are loyal to you, a friendship could last a
In life we have different types of personal relationship that were we communicate differently in order to fit their need. Such as people with low self-esteem, or just people who are going through some hardships in their lives. Communications is the way to get through to them.
In this assignment, I will be discussing an interpersonal conflict between me, and my best friend Celine, due to lack of time for each other. The goal of this paper is to present possible conflict resolutions and carry out a strategy to resolve the conflict. I will discuss multiple strategies, as possible options to resolve the conflict, including escapist, challenging, and cooperation. I will be using the text, Communication and You: an introduction by O'Hair, and Wiemann to use for information about the triggers, factors in the conflict, strategies, and the type of outcomes that occurs like Win-Win and Loose-Loose.
I'd challenge anyone to speak out if he or she has not argued over trivial matters with his or her loved ones and closest friends. These relationships cannot be broken, just like a coastline never really disappears, even though both are subject to terrible pressures. I had been studying for the past three hours and felt in need of some refreshment. I saw that my brother was passing the room and called out and asked if he could get me a drink. He shouted back, "Why should I? Get it yourself, you lazy so and so." This, for some reason aggravated me quite a lot as I was beginning to be frustrated by the difficulties of the study material. I did not say anything, but my anger smoldered. For the next two days, I did not speak or communicate with my brother, a feat in itself considering we lived in an apartment. I look back and am ashamed of the way I treated my brother. I also look back and remotely see myself as a desperate Green peace kid trying with one last throw of the dice to save his sanity, by throwing his anger towards them, those who obviously couldn't see the predicament - although that would be a purpose altogether too important to imagine. However, as we all know, this is not an isolated incident. Arguments and fights happen again and again. Just like Kurt Vonnegut's Billy Pi...
For her privacy, I'll refer to her as Rin. I was happy for the first few months, but the relationship became suffocating later on. Rin wanted my undivided attention at all times of the day. In addition, Rin had severe anxiety. My love for Rin slowly died and obligation took its place. I felt obliged to stay with her. It's nauseating that I felt this way, but what else could I do? I thought that I had to stay with Rin to keep her safe from herself. As a result, I stayed with her, not as a lover, but a caretaker. One evening with friends, Rin demanded we leave, for Rin didn't like that she had to share me. I couldn't deal with her distancing me from friends anymore. I called Rin and cut all ties between us and our mutual friends. I gave her neither chance for dialogue nor reprisal, just like Paul Neruda. In hindsight, I didn't love her. Because I am a loser who has no chance in love, I was more in love with the idea of a girlfriend. As a result, I didn't love Rin, I loved my girlfriend. If I had truly had feelings for Rin, I would've resolved my problems through dialogue, not by running away like a
What causes people to be abusive in their relationship? Do people learn to be abusive from what they see? Does our environment play a part? Do physical punishments as a child have something to do with it? How does cognitive learning fit in? Throughout this part, I’m going to explain some potential causes of people being abusive towards their partner.
When I began to comprehend the faults within our relationship, I knew it was time to act. Focusing on the Struggle Spectrum by the National Communication Association, I noticed that we were repeatedly climbing the struggle ladder and falling off the edge only to repeat it again. My younger, less educated version of myself would never have seen the problems but now, after years of college and my Interpersonal Communications class, I could see what needed to be done. I b...
For generations, traditional families consisting of a husband and wife raising children together has been a mainstay of civilization. Even the term “nuclear family” was coined, just earlier this century, to describe and promote such an arrangement. With current divorce rates increasing in the United States, negative implications of breaking up family units is starting to be seen on a much more visible scale. Often, parents who consider divorce do not foresee the long term effects it may have, specifically the effects on individual children and the adults they will grow to be. Although divorce may seem like an easy opt out for unhappy parents, it opens a door to the tragedies inside their children’s mental and social health causing damaging changes in their academic achievement, relationships with parents, and their emotional and physical behavior.
When I was in 5th grade, a boy threw dirt on me. When I complained to my teacher, she simply said, “Boys will be boys.” When I was in 7th grade, a neighborhood boy repeatedly tackled me to the ground. I let him continue hurting me because I thought this was a sign that he liked me. From a young age, small things like that instilled it into my mind that abuse was a part of love. It was implied to me that it was normal for boys to be aggressive towards others; that it was ‘cute’. Thankfully, I realized this way of thinking was wrong. Later on, I learned that love and relationships were built on respect. From a photo quote I read online, “A healthy relationship doesn’t drag you down. It inspires you to be better” (Hale). Abusive relationships come in a myriad of different forms and as a society we should educate ourselves about it by knowing the root causes of it and the lasting effects it can have.
As humans, we are constantly building relationships with others and meeting new people, but sometimes it 's hard to maintain a relationship with another person, when only one person is engaged in it. All healthy relationships or friendships should be based upon the concepts of caring, supporting, and spending time with each other, and if one person is not able to provide these concepts towards the other person, then the relationship quickly becomes one-sided.
This phenomenon is triggered by trust issues. This began with an argument of me hanging out with my friends drinking, as well as her use of social media. I went out and had two drinks more than I said I will. We got into a phone argument and the next day her Instagram feed was filled with subliminal messages that were directed to me. On top of that she was “single.” I shared with her some of my past drinking experiences. So I understood why she’d be uptight about me going out and drinking. But going on social media as “single” in one night, on our first argument stunned me. She lost trust in me because I drank two more than I said. I lost trust in her because she claimed single in a heartbeat. The worst part is I had to find out a couple days later from someone else, because I didn’t have an Instagram. Interestingly, relational disintegration and relational renegotiation took place so quick that I couldn’t distinguish the starting and ending point of each. Long story short, after a few months of smooth sailing, the Instagram gimmick happened again. So there was another case of relational renegotiation. I suggested that we should be friends because we were both unhappy most of the time. For her it was all or nothing. We were either in an intimate relationship, or enemies. After a year later, she came around and we to this day we are civil. I explained to
As we start to grow, we begin to build relationships that can be temporary or last a lifetime. These relationships help us learn more about ourselves and also about others. We learn how to build friendships and relationships from a young age, and we learn to cherish the people who stay for the long run. Then again, we also learn about the emptiness that is felt once someone dearly decides to no longer be in your life. With this being said I will be writing about my interpersonal relationship that I have with my boyfriend Jorge. Not only about our history and how we communicate, but as well as how we overcome conflict and the power that we each hold.
“Relationships are what make up our world today, they shape the ways we see things and the way that we do things, relationships affect how we see the world today”. I believe supporting what your partner does, having a great sum of trust and showing your affections towards your partner is what will make a healthy relationship great.
Throughout most of my life I have gained friendships and relationships with others that have turned into long term, but others which only lasted a short while. The friendship that has greatly impacted my life significantly over the last eight years is someone who means so much to me. This meaningful friendship all started back when I was in middle school, which has grown stronger over the years. I met Brooke in middle school because we had some of the same classes and were in homeroom together. Our friendship developed quickly and lasted throughout our high school years. We became really close our Junior and Senior year of high school. But, maintaining our friendship hasn’t always been so easy. Today, we text and call each other on our free time, but I know I can count and rely on her when I need someone to talk too. I call her my second sister and vice versa. And when we go home on breaks we see one another as much as we can. The best part of our relationship is that if one is in need of advice or in need of a shoulder to cry on, we are always there for one another. Keeping in contact is very important in our relationship and communication has played a key role in our relationship.
Relationships are intricately complex. Made up of several interactions that are full of verbal and non-verbal communication, a relationship between any two people is completely and utterly unique. There are so many dynamics that are at play in relationships and several opportunities for both good and bad communication. In my life, I have experienced all kinds of people and relationships: friends, acquaintances, brothers, parents, teammates, lab-partners, peers, teachers, mentors. The list goes on and on. Three examples of my personal relationships are my relationship with my brother Caleb, my friend Kennedy, and my high school teacher Mrs. Antwine. In all three relationships, we communicate verbally and non-verbally. However, because of different circumstances, atmospheres, and backgrounds, each relationship differs from the others.