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In 1998, Judith Rich Harris became famous since she made a point on the cause of children’s behavior, that “in some key sense, parents don’t much matter—that what’s important is not what children learn inside home but what they learn outside the home (peer influence)” (Malcolm Gladwell, 1998). This point does make sense, because children always have a need to “fit-in”, to have friendships and to gain a sense of belonging from their peer groups. Apparently, learning from their peers can make the process much easier, since people who have common hobbies and share similar values tend to stay together, and that’s usually how a peer group is formed. Considering the generation gap between parents and children, copying the behaviors and thoughts of parents can do no benefit to fulfill the need of peer relationships.
I once had a hard time to join in peer groups since there were not many common topics between my peers and me. My father was fond of politics and history, so we always went to historical sites for trips, while my peers spent time with their parents in different fairgrounds. What they always talked about was different roller coasters and how exciting it was, but I have no experience in roller coasters. Of course I could talk with my peers about my experiences in different historical sites, but who cares? What my peers cared were always pop culture and fun and complaints about teachers.
Peer groups can be essential to help develop social skills of children (teenagers or younger are all influenced by peer culture and rules of peer groups). Clique is one of the main forms of socialization among teenagers, which is defined by common activities or simply friendship (Steinberg, 2013, p. 158) (But how to start a friendship? In many...

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...ncome factor and relocation caused by divorce disrupts kids relationships with peers and make them feel difficult to fit in. And I think compared to peer influence, parents are more important considering kin relationship between generations.

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Carlson, Amber. (2012). How Parents Influence Deviant Behavior among Adolescents: An Analysis of their Family Life, their Community, and their Peers - Tags: PARENTAL influences DEVIANT behavior. Retrieved April 1, 2014, from
Gladwell, Malcolm. (1998). Do Parents Matter? Malcolm Gladwell. Retrieved April 1, 2014, from
Steinberg, L. (2013). Adolescence (10 edition.). McGraw-Hill Humanities/Social Sciences/Languages.

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