I benefited from having authoritarian parents as they taught me about the importance of rules and boundaries, but there are more cons than pros for the authoritarian style. What I dislike most about this style is that my parents did not provide emotional support to me as I was growing up. They believed in setting standards, rules and regulations that were too punitive. My parents were too caught up in demanding complete obedience, and they did not take int... ... middle of paper ... ...en using the authoritative style and avoid the authoritarian style. I want to raise my children using this style because I am able to administer fair and consistent discipline while also being responsive and supportive towards my children, allowing my children to know there are limits, consequences and expectations on their behaviors.
One of life’s mysteries to me has always been the topic of child abuse. As a victim of child abuse myself, I quiet, never understood why child abuse, especially sexual abuse is, a subject that our society doesn’t want to discuss and try to improve the laws to stop child abuse from happening. As a survivor myself, my eyes are more open to this matter compared to the average person who hasn’t experience any type of mistreatment. I can see how child abuse influences our society and makes our civilization dysfunctional. The impact of child abuse is very destructive mentally and physically to a child, which carries out into adulthood.
“The rules we know, even the ones we intuitively feel, are by no means the rules we always follow.” This implies that a good judgment is pretty reliable starting with man on man. However, those standards we know, and the ones we understand, are in no way shape or form those standards we take after. I agree with Kluger, our parents could teach us morality, but doesn’t simply mean we going to follow what we have learned as soon as we walk out the house. We may know it’s bad or good but the environment or your mood will determine how that day will go. My mom has always taught my siblings and me to respect people doesn’t matter the age or gender, to treat people the way you want to be treated.
As much as you want to kill your mom sometimes, Don’t. Our mom’s hate to see us suffer yet they have to did value prioritization over her affection and our future sake’s. There has always been a debate whether it is right or wrong in our eyes how people are treated and educating their children. I am also one of those people. As children, we do not choose our parents nor how they want to teach us.
And when they do not get it they will use physical assertion to get it. They are not motivated to teach the child through love and kindness. The angrier the parent gets because of lack of control the more intense the abuse will be (Child Abuse and Neglect Recognizing and Preventing Child Abuse). Using fear to control behavior. Parents who are physically abusive may believe that their children need to fear them in order to behave, so they use physical abuse to keep their child in line.
Here is what they have to say about “Respect” and the role of a teacher: “I am tough as nails. But they know I love them…They don’t have to love me, but they do have to respect me. And have to respect themselves. They have to learn something that they cam take with them because they can’t take me with them, and they can’t take mom with them and they can’t take the neighbor with them. They can only take what’s inside their head.
People would have to understand the consequences of raising a child under the permissive parenting style. The PSA would have to seriously get the message across that it is not okay for parents to just love their child with no discipline. The parents have to be strict and loving for the child to be raised properly. Parents need to understand that the child needs both discipline and love to be a well-rounded child. Too much discipline and force towards a child problems too, but also too little discipline can cause problems, there has to be an equal amount of love and control when raising a child.
My husband and I shared the housework, cooking, and raising of our kids. I was a stay-at-home mom, but that was by my choice because I believed that God gave us precious gifts to raise. I am proud to say that my kids were raised seeing their parents share responsibilities. I hope that my kids feel confident in their selves to not be pigeon-holed into stereotypes for certain
A constant troublemaker at school, Chang-Min was shocked that I stood up to him and looked at me surprised. He thought I was always introspective and would never stand up for myself, and he could sense his hard-earned notoriety slipping away. Looking at his ridiculous, surprised face, I grew even angrier. Ironically, to defend a teacher who didn't hit students, I resorted to violence to deal with Chang-Min. Suddenly, I kicked him in the stomach, and we started fighting.
The reason morality falls into play is because the child may feel that strict parenting is because the parents “hate” the child. Growing up, most children rebel against their authoritative parents while their brains are still developing. The only thing the parent can do is demonstrate to their children that their actions have repercussions. This may result in physical discipline for the child, or verbal discipline for the child. Typically a parent would not endure in such actions, but it varies from parent to parent.