I had the privilege of interviewing my partner. I met him in college (orientation to be specific), as Ms. Lynn Hamilton did. We spent about two years together, and dated for year and half. As I have been interacting him on daily basis, it was fascinating to learn what he had deep in his mind, and to learn about how he has been socialized until this day (or before he met me). When I started interviewing him, he started by talking about his parents, because he is sure that his ideas about marriage and family were heavily influenced by them. He told me that his parents are both working and have their own businesses. He added that, even though they run their own businesses, they like to take time off to enjoy their life and take care of children; …show more content…
His plan was loud and clear: he would like to have at least two kids, no more than three, by the first three years after the wedding, and bring them up in a single-family house (at least 4 bedroom) in University Town area or La Jolla, San Diego. He said that the most of childcare and household duties (especially cooking) would be on his partner, in other words me, if he makes enough money to support the family on his own. He had specific figure: around or above 200,000 dollars a year. Before that, he wants his partner to also work; however, he mentioned that he is “more open," because he would be also willing to be a stay-home dad, or divide the household and child rearing duties with his partner depending on the his and the partner’s career (though he mentioned that he never seriously considered being a stay-home dad). If both are working in stellar careers, he said that he is fine with employing maids to do the domestic work, and caregiver to look after the children. When faced with a hypothetical question of “What are you going to do if your partner has a stellar career, but is not as rapidly promoted as you are and does not bring as much money as you do to the house, due to the glass ceiling and gender pay gap?”, he answered: It’s your choice, which was the exact quote from Stone article. As Stone said in her article, “It’s your choice was code for …show more content…
Because he is majoring in economics and his grandfather served as the president of a bank back in the days, he is seriously considering to go into finance, but he is only “considering”, stressing on the word. His ultimate dream is to have his own business, just as his parents do. He wants the flexible work hours, and the fact that he will be his own boss or just “the boss," with “no one telling [him] to do anything (verbatim)”. I could read that his longing of ‘an authority to do anything he desires’ stems from his arrogance as upper-middle class to upper class background, but also his will to spend more time with his children and his hobby. But he realizes that the dream of having his own business will come true only many years after he gets married. Before that, he is willing to work in company-settings, even though he despise to admit the fact he needs to do so. Because he is in the process of getting college education, he does not want to work in any job other than the white collar jobs, car shops being the only exception (it is tightly related to his hobby of racing); however, at the same time, he does not want to work in white collar jobs, because “it is boring, I need to be nice to people even though I don’t like them, and I need to do stuff that you are doing for me like stapling my papers and cleaning after myself
“His [my husband’s] participation in the family is less than ideal. There’s a lot of single parenting going on which wasn’t really what I signed up for when I got married [laughing] and was like I don’t want to do this on my own I’m gonna have babies with someone who I’m married to. Yeah I’m still single parenting.”
He lives by the “Blue-collar Rules” (Lubrano 342). The rules basically state: “When it all comes down to it, only money makes you happy”(Lubrano 343). The father wanted his son to not have to be a bricklayer like himself, so he sent him to a pricey school hoping it would land him a high paying job. Instead the author chose to be a writer, which his “father had a tough time accepting” (Lubrano 342). He believed only money can make you happy and his son did not think that way. As a result of the fathers views, he does not enjoy what he does for a living. He often reprimands his son and tries to convince him to do something that will bring in higher income, but his son sticks to writing. His father finally admits to his son that he “envies” (Lubrano 345) him, for doing something that he loves to do and making a living out of
I interviewed one of my best friends from high school because we grew up in similar cultures and I wanted to see how her views aligned with mine. She’s also in a nursing program so I thought that would make it interesting.
I had the opportunity to interview with the school psychologists on our campus. She currently holds a master’s level degree in psychology and has worked for the district for 10 years now with 3 of those years at this location. Discussing what she does on a regular bases she explained how she reaches out to contacts within the community to help parents and children with unresolved issues to help them find answers. She creates activities that help to nurture a better lifestyle for these families. I discussed with her in length about these events and she described them as a social environment conducive to a higher quality in learning, social interaction and family lifestyle. The reason for planning these events in our campus is because of the lower demographics and the campus considered a special class of schools which are known as Title 1 which receives more aid than other campuses.
he Importance Of Reflecting On Changes In Children’s Behaviour Regarding Abuse And Strategies Children Have To Protect Themselves
For that, I interviewed my boss, Karen. I see her almost every work day but there were still many things I wanted to ask her about. I knew that she had been married to a man before she met her wife, and that she still had his last name even after separating and remarrying. I also knew that her father was a Methodist minister and performed her marriage ceremony back when he could’ve gotten in a lot of hot water for doing so. I knew that she was adopted, too. But the rest of her life, the in-between moments, were still a mystery to me. So, I really enjoyed that interview. As you can tell from the transcription, we laughed a lot and got along well. I think she felt comfortable and she told me later that she had enjoyed talking with me. I also came more prepared and with more questions. It was hard to do my initial research on my student interviewee because there wasn’t a lot of prior information that I could find about her. With Karen, I not only had my own prior information, but she is also easily found on the internet. A lot of that has to do with her age and the businesses she has been involved
This paper will explore my findings of my observation of a young boy, age 28 months, named Jax. Jax is fun little man and happens to be my nephew. I will discuss the attributes and characteristics of Jax that I witnessed in the few hours that I had observed him. Starting with motor development skills, I observed that Jax is a very favorable walker. He is well coordinated, and loves to run. Still, just like any two-year-old, he still stumbles frequently. He loves to play with his toys and can pick up and grasp his toys well. He is great at maneuvering his toys and putting them where he wants them. I did notice that he did favor his right hand regularly. Jax did love to throw things, and catch them as well. However, he seemed to be a bit better at catching things, more so than he was at throwing
Dave Armstrong is about to graduate from Harvard Business School and is facing three career options. The decision problem that Armstrong should be considering is not which of these three jobs should he take, but rather what job will satiate his career goals. By asking this, Armstrong can gain a complete perspective of his options instead of being confined to three career options that may not be in his best interests. His objectives are not clearly outlined in the case; however, we can infer from the manner in which he is describing the jobs that he would like to have ownership in a company, enjoys thrilling non-office jobs, and wants to grow his network. Also, he has to take into consideration his wife’s objectives for him of having a job
I interviewed a woman who has a child with special needs. The child is now in kindergarten. The mother reported having a normal pregnancy with no complications. This was the second child for the mother, who has another child who was five years old at the time. The mother disclosed that during the pregnancy, she was in the process of separating from the child’s father and that this caused a moderate level of stress. At the time of the pregnancy, the mother was also working full time as a waitress in a local restaurant. The mother reported that her job required her to be on her feet for long periods of time. She was able to work until around a week before her child was born. The mother reports that the child was born around two weeks early but that labor was easy and the child was born healthy.
I used rephrasing as a part of understanding the reason for the client’s visit and repeated the information in a way that we both could understand. The client was able to respond through the questions that I asked her in regards to her situation. I want to get a clear understanding without leaving out valuable information. In the three sessions my intentions were to make sure that what she gave me over the phone matches what she says in the interview. I made sure that when my client was speaking, I took notes on the new information or the information that was not covered in any of the previous sessions. Each session was based upon reflection because I had to make sure progress was being made or not. When my client began to discuss things in a way in which I could not understand, I was able to interpret the information in a way that she and I both understood and agreed upon. The moment an initial contact was made, I started giving my client information on informed consent forms, who I was and the number of years of my social work profession, policies and
They haven’t really changed my thoughts in regards to divisions of labor in families; however, I have learned that each arrangement has pros and cons. In addition, these pros and cons may be differently individualized according to each family’s needs. One arrangement that specifically stood out to me was the modern breadwinner/housewife couple because these are the strategies that my parents had adopted before they divorced. The authors mentioned how these types of marriages end in divorce more often than any other. There reasoning behind this was that studies show that mothers who stay at home are less happy than those who work. In fact, once my mother started working again when I was in high school I noticed she was much happier. Now, in my mother’s new marriage, her and my step-dad work less to be able to spend time with the younger kids, which is working out just great. On the other hand, my father and step-mom are both highly invested in their careers and rely on domestic outsourcing. Although, they have chosen different family arrangements, they are both functioning just as well as the other, all while meeting the family
The author points out that there is a thing such as the “Rat Race” and it happens to well-meaning people whose main goal in life is to make money instead of allowing money to work for them. This was shown clearly as young Robert is shown by Rich Dad the endless cycle people go through of waking, working and paying taxes. This cycle never stops, but only grows the longer one stays on it (Kiyoski, 2001). After reading the first lesson, I began looking at areas in my life where I can improve so that I can avoid entering the never ending “Rat Race”. I started analyzing my job and what it means to me in the long run. Will I be here in 5 years? Can I see myself being promoted? One theme that counteracts those questions is fact that the author strongly pushes the belief that working for oneself is the only way to obtain true wealth. I disagree as in this age and time it is possible to gain wealth by rising through corporate ranks. Again, this reverts back understanding money and allowing it to work for
In regards to demanding him to stay away from ball busting business, it can be interpreted as protection for him, his political stance, and every working citizens in the United States. The father doesn’t want him to turn into an antagonist, but rather strive for an occupation that ignites passion from the man. The father once said, “I’m just saying, remember what brought you here” to allude to the hardship he fought against with the help of the union to ensure proper employee care. By becoming a ball-buster, the man completely disregarded his father’s hardship and strength to raise him to become the man he is present, which cause the strain between the
Throughout this course I have learned a lot about psychology. I will talk about how it affected me personally, socially, organizationally/societal, and the lasting impact it had in my life.
As I personally take the time to have a reflection over the course of “Child and Adolescent Development” I find myself intrigued with the amount of knowledge I gained during this course this semester. I wanted to take the time to concentrate on three specific areas in which I felt I had the most growth, but also came as a challenge to me as well. It is important when reflecting over a course that I look at what I found to be challenging, as this was an opportunity of growth for me individually. In this paper I will review some of the main topics that I found to be interesting but also resourceful for my future aspiration not only as a family life educator but also a mother one day.