"Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open" (Shaw). According to the Random House Webster's College Dictionary, a marriage is "the social institution under which a man and woman live as husband and wife by legal or religious commitments" (812). These theories shape how people behave and what they expect from a marriage. There is some accuracy in these definitions, but there are also misinterpretation, myths, and exaggeration. More people tend to think twice before they get married. Couples enter into their first marriage at a later age than in the past. A considerable percentage of couples live together for a period of time before getting married. Marriage is important because it provides an environment for raising children. Many relationships go wrong in the United States; almost fifty percent end up in divorce (The State of Matrimony). This paper will argue that marriages crumble, because men and women have pre-assigned roles, no communication skills and myths they believe in.
American women today not only raise their children and clean the house, but they also have a career and a goal in life. Women are more likely to be on their own than any other time in history (Jacobs 2). Since the founding of America, women have always worked in this country. "Being married and having children still affects whether a woman works or not" (Jacobs 13). There are more women with young children that do not work, than there are women with older children. There are terms such as "stay at home mom", but there are none that refer to men. Women have more jobs than men do. "The National Survey of Families and Households" published that on average women d...
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