She believes that a child’s feeling and personal goals is locked away, and instead is replaced with their parent’s expectations and desires. The child soon begins to develop narcissistic traits, in which the parent should allow the child to express feelings such as jealously and anger. In the novel Miller (1996) states “he develops something the mother needs…but it nevertheless may prevent him, throughout his life, from being himself” (p. 34). Allowing children to experience feeling such as anger and jealously provides an understanding on the child is not always perfect. However narcissistic disturbance occurs when a parent projects their own narcissistic desires onto their child, unfortunately suppressing their desires and acquiring their parents. Incidentally several students from Princeton University conducted a research in order demonstrate how narcissism is cultivated by the parents’ overvaluation and parental warmth. Eddie Mrummelman and colleagues (2014) stated, “When parents overvalue their child, they see their child as “God’s gift to man”…children might internalize the belief that they are special individuals who are entitled to privileges” (p 2). The article suggested that parents, who prevent their child from experiencing failure, encourage narcissistic attitudes. The important implication from this study demonstrates how a parent can overly evaluate their child’s
In conclusion, parents who hover over their children and do not give them space to breathe and lead more independent lives harm their kids while thinking that they are helping them. These parents might, in the real sense, be creating new long lasting problems for their kids, which could potentially be transferred to their grandchildren. Children need to learn to interact and engage in college and beyond while parents should stop hovering and give their children some space to experience life. In fact, it is said that love and independence are what every child needs to succeed in life, too much or too little of either and no child prospers. Therefore, parents should stop hovering in their children affairs and allow them to learn through experience.
The father’s upbringing was such that financial stability was the priority. The child learned that dads are busy and do not have time to spend with their children. What a devastating realization for a child to conclude. Yet like most little boys, this one wanted to grow up to be like his role model, no matter the example. During the time from childhood to adolescent, parental influence can be either beneficial or detrimental. If the parents have a stable home, clear boundaries and open communications with their teens, the transition could flow easier. The perfect father does not guarantee the child will not rebel.
The author, Gregston, has a good ethos for this topic. Gregston is the founder and director of a residential counseling center for struggling teens, Heartlight. He is also a radio host for Parenting Today, a radio talk show on parenting. Gregston is also a author of parenting books such as “Parenting Today’s Teens”, “Tough Guys and Drama Queens”, and “Parenting Teens in a Confusing Culture”. Moreover, the way in which Gregston explains why he believes his methods of parenting teens work is very reasonable. While there are not any facts or studies, nevertheless, his reasoning is compelling and effective. He uses experiences from his life that are very relatable. Accordingly, the article’s reasoning seems conceivable to work because of how easy his examples are able to be compared to the reader 's life.
In order to avoid possible punishment or confrontation, children with strict parents avoid discussing their personal life all together. The vast majority of the population believe withdrawal during teenage years is inevitable; however most families actually remain close. Problems arise when “adolescents want more independence and parents want more closeness and communication.”(Russell and Bakken). These problems are easily resolved through a mutual understanding of each other; however a process of separation begins when parents inflict harsh rules with no empathy to their kid’s constantly changing needs. To put things into perspective, Lewis Carroll’s Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland illustrates a similar scenario. After enduring several chimerical height fluctuations, Alice vents to the caterpillar that she can’t understand herself because “being so many different sizes in a day is very confusing.”(Carroll 60). Carroll uses Alice’s struggle of never being her ideal size as a symbol for the frustration puberty afflicts on young-adults. Upon the caterpillar invalidating her troubles, Alice grows irritated and walks away from his advice. (Carroll 61). If adults do not take a child’s problems in consideration, why should a child take an adults advice in consideration? Two youth development specialists explain that “If adults are flexible and good listeners, adolescents will be more likely to turn to them for advice and guidance.”(Russell and Bakken). Feeling comfortable to seek advice from adults is extremely necessary especially when a child needs advice that is not tendentious. Allowing autonomy in childhood mutually benefits the parent as much as the child by satisfying both parties’
When children grow up where they get what they want when they want, it’s hard for parents to take responsibility because the child might cry or whinge for days on end trying to get their way. Parents have to stand up to children and teach them they can’t get ...
More specifically, Kopko determines that neglectful parenting (which most researchers believe) is the most ineffective because it’s rates of adolescent delinquency is much higher than under any other parenting style. Kopko expresses what the neglectful parents show and feel towards their child(ren). The parents who seem to be neglectful or uninvolved with their children often “minimize their interaction time” with the child, inflicting neglect. The author emphasizes that the parents either are “overwhelmed by their circumstances or they may be self-centered” thus creating a child who demo...
Does one agree, the lifestyle he/she follows and decisions they made as a child affects their future relationship with his/her parents? Feminist author Alison Bechdel indeed does and from her own life experiences she came to a conclusion that the aspect of how close a parent and child are, can change that child’s live. A parent’s role in a child’s life is affective, and a child is affected by the absence or presence of a parent. Emmy award winning playwright and poet, Susan Griffin believes the relationship between parenting correlates to the selves we become. Susan Griffin believes that all life is influenced and parenting shadows a child’s future.
In America, the society runs on what teenagers want. From Nicki Minaj to the junior section at Sears, most of what the people see, hear, or touch is aimed at the teenagers. Being an adolescent is probably the most exciting and most popular time period in a person’s life. The teens seem to have it all, but what about the parents who raise them? The parents of the teenagers never get any credit during this time period, although they have every right to. Parents and teenagers should strive for a strong, lasting relationship for these years, though most times there isn’t one. The relationship between teenagers and parents is the most vital bond in the family because this relationship should and will prepare them for the next step in life.
A parent’s parenting styles are as diverse as the world we live in today. Nowadays, parents only want what is best for their children and their parenting styles plays a crucial role in the development of children which will in the long run, not only effect the child’s childhood years, but later prolong into their adult life as well.