According to research done by Williams (2007) the majority of premarital counseling today is offered through churches. Some churches require couples to participate in some type of counseling that uses skill-base programs that incorporate scriptural guidelines before getting married. Couples also encounter other forms of premarital counseling such as: premarital counseling with clergy, engaged encounter, mentor couples, and day-long workshops.
The most common premarital counseling within a church is for the couple to meet privately with a clergy person this is known as premarital counseling with clergy. The clergy decides the number of meetings the couple has to go through. For instance a clergy can have one session with couple and discuss wedding plans, but some may have several sessions to marriage preparation to explore several areas in the relationship such as communication, conflict resolution, egalitarian roles, sexuality, commitment, finances, and personality issues.
The Catholic Church uses two types of approaches: the engaged encounter and day-long workshops. Engage encounter gives different presentations on marriage by a team of married couples or a clergy person. After the presentation, individuals have time to reflect and write about their feelings, and share privately with their partner. In a day-long workshop engaged couples attend an entire day were they have multiple speakers such as married couples, clergy, or experts within an area that present on a number of different topics, including building effective communication, developing and nurturing spiritually within the marriage, dealing with financial matters.
In mentor couples approach; couple meets with a married couple that provide mentoring. The ...
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...e and relationship. Second section couples focus on self exploration: love, myths, family origin rules, relationship, and love. Third section couples teaches couples to build empathy for partner, shows couple how to differ the need for bonding and the need for sex. Couples identify caring behaviors they would like from their partners, and identify “turn-ons/turn-offs.” Fourth section couples explore the pleasure of physical bounding and touch. It also addresses early sexual decisions, sexual myths, and jealousy are also addressed. Fifth section is use to clarify expectations and goals. After completing the five sessions couples use the skills and insights learned to help negotiate a contract or set of expectations for their relationship.
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Most weddings are done in church. The newly wedded couple is supposed to hold on to their faithfulness in God. Praying and fasting are major activities that are recommended for the couples. Church, best maids and the altar are a symbol of holiness in marriage and that still applies in today’s life. Church weddings are upheld in the society and people take pride being associated with weddings.
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When embarking on any new venture in your life you need to follow steps that lead up to that instant, so below is a checklist that you and your future spouse should follow in order to secure that you’ve chosen the right individual help in this big step. Before you and your spouse chose any individual to help you on your course to matrimony, please research all of the types of counseling approaches that are offered. Then from that point chose an individual that offers that approach you and your spouse are seeking. Be sure to know whether or not the individual you chose is licensed or not. You may also want to see how many years this individual has been in practice. It is also important to ask for references or referral in today’s community word of mouth still exists and goes a long way in many cases. Be sure to look at the logistics of office locations and office hours. Have a treatment plan worked out on paper with you therapist or whomever you and your spouse chooses to go with. Know exactly how many sessions at what length of time and at what cost to you and your spouse. You may also want to check into what your insurance charges of you chose to go through your insurance for payment. You may also check on what deals you state or county offers individuals if they attend premar...
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