While the answer may seem obvious, not many people know what discipline truly is. They end up confusing the concept of discipline with that of punishment. Discipline is simply the process of guiding your child on the right path. "Discipline should not be a punishment, but a lesson
Raising a child is a challenging life task that is given over to individuals all over the world without an instruction manual. People must learn by experience how to nurture, care for, and provide for miniature versions of themselves for almost two decades in most cultures! Discipline plays a major role in raising a child because most parents truly want what is best for their children and want them to grow up to be responsible, respectable, and successful adults; however, in some unfortunate cases, parents misinterpret the term discipline and in turn end up abusing their children. The question becomes, is there truly a difference between discipline and abuse? And if so, what is it? With education, individuals can learn how to properly distinguish between discipline and abuse and realize that there is a clear black and white difference between the two. The origin of the word discipline stems from the Latin word disciplina, which means “instruction [or] knowledge” (“Definition of discipline”, n.d.). As stated in the Oxford Dictionary, the definition of the word discipline is “the practice of training people to obey rules or a code of behavior, [or] using punishment to correct disobedience” (“Definition of discipline”, n.d.). According to WebMD, a website that is visited and seen by millions of people in the United States every day, discipline is “the process of teaching your child what type of behavior is acceptable and what type is not acceptable. In other words, discipline teaches a child to follow rules” (“Child Discipline Methods”, n.d.). It even goes on to state that “it sounds so straightforward, yet every parent becomes frustrated at one time or another with issues surrounding children and discipline” (“Child Discipline Metho...
In the documentary Babies, babies from across the world were filmed interacting with their mothers and the new world. One of the babies was from Namibia. This baby was given little guidance and attention while parents seemed absent at times. At one point, the viewers see the infant smashing rocks together, by himself, which isn’t exactly the safest activity for a toddler (4). The children raised by this type of passive parenting with “few rules, expectations, and demands, tend to struggle with self-regulation and self-control” (5). Without someone teaching children morals and with no form of structure in a child's life, they will have trouble depicting right and wrong decisions. The under the involved parenting style may often seem neglectful, however, there is a fine line between the two. In the memoir The Glass Castle, Rex and Rose are the parents of four kids. Throughout the book, Jeanette is the victim of several sexual misconducts. When confronting her mom about her Uncle Stanley groping her, Rose says “"Poor Stanley," she said. "He's so lonely.”.... “sexual assault was a crime of perception. If you don't think you're hurt, then you aren't,"” (6). Normally a mother, even a passive parenting mother, would immediately stick up for their child and recognize the inappropriate behavior. The walls parents failed to provide their
The idea of physical punishment has been visible throughout our nation’s history. The 30’s, 40’, 50’s all encouraged the use of strong physical discipline towards children, it wasn’t until the 60’s and 70’s that this idea became taboo. “Many of us in the room had been smacked, whipped, or beaten as children...
Imagine being beaten every time one makes a mistake. Imagine not being beaten and to only later be killed for committing one of these mistakes. Imagine loving this individual. Now imagine being the one to beat this person for their protection. This is the complex situation of many in the African American community. Consisting of using physical discipline as a method of protection and discipline. Many parents with children of color often go through great lengths to make sure that their child is well disciplined. Discipline, is the practice of training one to obey rules or a code of behavior, using punishment to correct disobedience. The method of discipline many in colored societies opt for is physical discipline. However, there are some who
Physical discipline is commonly thought of when the word discipline is mentioned. Many people find this punishment acceptable and effective. On the contrary, some view it as brutal and unnecessary. Physical punishment is used to discourage certain actions. The thought is that if a child is spanked, for instance, they will remember the spanking the next time they consider replaying the act that caused the punishment. Fear is a large factor here. The human race normally does not repeat actions that have negative consequences. I...
I believe that physically disciplining children is not an effective form of punishment. I was spanked when I was little and it only instilled fear and loathing in my developing mind. According to AAP, “spanking models aggressive behavior as a solution to conflict and has been associated with increased aggression in preschool and school children”. Although most parents believe that spanking is an appropriate form of discipline, it has been thoroughly proven that there are much more effective and less destructive ways to punish children.
European American families who use physical discipline within the first five years of a child 's life, has found those children exhibit higher negative external behaviors with their teachers and their peers. Mothers of both European, and African American children reported higher levels of negative external behaviors (Landsford, Deater-Deckand, Dodge, Bates, & Pettit, 2004). The research would conclude that the use of physical discipline with any cultural ethnic background would have a negative impact of the external behaviors of a
Charles Foran’s “Kids R Hell” presents an array of experts’ analysis on parenting values concerning child discipline (with Foran’s input on the inaccuracy of each one). He postulates, “To approach every disciplinary decision with the thought that it may prove permanently injurious to your child's wellbeing or your own self-worth is to invite madness into your house.” Ridiculing parents who condemn ever physically punishing children, Foran espouses that a slap on the face when a child misbehaves displays severe implausibility of traumatizing that child or labeling the parent as a child abuser; in addition, he finds the notion of never using corporal punishment preposterous and a sure way not to succeed in disciplining children. Of course, for some parents, such as Okonkwo from Chinua Achebe’s Thing Fall Apart, the line between necessary physical force and child abuse becomes blurred, while for others, such as Reb Saunders from Chaim Potok’s The Chosen, the use of more creative methods of parenting seem favorable. Their unconventional means of parenting—either stemmed or influenced by their occupations—cease in effectiveness when each son becomes older; however, because Reb ultimately dissipates his clearly faulty imposition of silence, while Okonkwo stubbornly keeps his narrow-minded bigotry, one father redeems himself, whereas the other never speaks to his son again.
Do you believe in using physical punishment with your children? Did your parents use physical punishments on you when you had made one simple mistake? “Out of 720 adults forty-five percent found that a left mark on a child from a physical punishment was acceptable” (Time for an End to Parental Tough Love). That means 324 adults leave marks on their children on a daily basis. People over the years have been using belts and whips to punish their child so that they never make the same mistake again. Children having to come home to their parents with their hands held high for years until they were old enough to move out of the house. Other children were abandoned or just sent to war to be soldiers so that their parent would not want to take care of them. Some children were even left at the hospital for not looking the way the parent wanted them to look. “Tough Love” is a corrupt habit that affects how a child’s life may be in their future; from how the parents handle the situation at hand, to the physical punishment they receive, it all negative contributes to the life the child is going to live.