Physical Boundaries Are you wondering what a physical boundary is? Or do you think it’s a fence surrounding a homeowner’s yard to keep intruders out? In a sense, physical boundaries are similar to a fence, instead it protects our bodies. Here is my personal definition of what boundaries are from my book Psychic Wisdom on Love and Relationships - individuals set boundaries to feel safe, respected, and heard. The following are ways a person could violate your physical boundary: standing too close during a conversation, touching any part of your body, punching you in the face, or forcing you in an unwanted sexual act. Nobody has a right to touch you without your permission or that makes you feel uncomfortable; however, it is your job to enforce
I was able to relate to when Jessie said that borders are symbols of the divisions we make of each other. These borders are made up by people to keep each other apart from one another. Whether it is for social, economic, or cultural reasons, the division remains. As Brooke pointed out, these borders prevent freedoms and deny opportunities.
The childhood days is not only the influences to build the nature of a person, but also define the character of the human being with respect to the people around. The theory of Erik Erikson clearly defines the stages the infant goes through to achieve his adolescence maturity, Erikson had projected a lifespan model of growth, bringing in five stages up to the age of 18 years and three further levels beyond, well into adulthood. Erikson suggests that there is even enough of room for continued increase and development throughout one’s lifetime. He puts a heavy deal of stress on the adolescent period, feeling it was a crucial point for breaking a person’s individuality(McLeod, 2013).
Desperately, people turn to use some words loosely. Take note when you are talking with people and you hear them using reminiscent words such as smart, pretty, beautiful, intelligent, or love in sentences. For the purpose of this paper, I will focus on the word Love due to the fact that love turns to apply in all the other words that people use loosely. There are numerous definitions of the word love, but I will pick one from Dictionary.com that states: A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. It’s obvious that a large majority of people are content when they hear the phrase “I Love You”. On the other hand, when a person says I love you, it can be misinterpreted effortlessly. One question I
Love is portrayed in numerous mediums: song, history, rhythmic dance, or poetry. These four instruments of love typically identify the notion as subjective, lifeless, and static. Song writer of this age often convey love as a goal in life not as an element of living. While people from different periods in history used love to gain power giving love a bare and emotionless personnel. And lastly dance and poetry perceives love as inaudible and plain, because the vary performers and authors have not experienced love on an intimate or divine level. However William Shakespeare is one of few to frequently incorporate simple, yet complex terminology in sonnets to convey different concepts of love. The comprehensive
Physical abuse is recognised as a person making contact with their victim, causing pain or
In the poem Love is Not All the quote “meat nor drink” (Millay, 2004). Means to me that a person can’t live on love alone. A person has to have food and water for the body to survive and love can’t do that. Let’s examine another quote “slumber nor a roof against the rain” (Millay, 2004). these two observations recognized that love will not substitute the need to sleep and love can’t keep you safe from the rain. Another important line “Not a floating spar to men that sink/and rise and sink and rise and sink, and sink again” (Millay, 2004). Which symbolizes a drowning man that goes under water and rises above a couple times. The third time the man sinks in a defeating war and in the end sinks forever into the gulf of death (Millay, 2004). Millay figuratively portraying that in life people struggle and they also have highs. Love won’t stop misery and it won’t stop someone from eventually dying.
“Love and Psychotherapy are fundamentally incompatible. A good therapist fights darkness and seeks illumination, while romantic love is sustained by mystery and crumbles upon inspection” (use citation) This is the overall theme that is prevalent throughout the first story of Yalom’s book that is also titled, “Loves Executioner”
Personality is defined as the distinct variances in individual patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving. (Rathus, 210) Personality study can be divided into two extensive areas. The first is understanding individual dissimilarities in certain personality characteristics, such as amiability or petulance. The other is understanding how the various parts of a person come together as a whole. There are five general perspectives in psychology, each of which emphasizes different factors in an attempt to understand how a personality develops and relates to others. These are the biological, psychodynamic, social and cultural (or sociocultural), learning, and cognitive perspectives. This paper outlines how each of these perspectives would describe the development and maintenance of a traditional (husband and wife) marital relationship.
“Physical abuse is any intentional and unwanted contact with you or something close to your body. Sometimes abusive behavior does not cause pain or even leave a bruise, but it’s still unhealthy” (e.g., “types of abuse,” n.d., para. 1).
Ono (2012) reminds us that while we often consider “the border” to be a figural “strip,” “edge,” “limit,” and “boundary,” each of these terms has a different emphasis. “Strip” implies three-dimensionality, “edge” denotes a dividing line between realms or that which cuts, “limit” suggests a point not to go beyond, and “boundary” meaning an enclosure of the outer extremity of a container. Instead of acting as synonyms, each one represents an attitude toward and about the border. Oto argues that what constitutes a border are relative to the practices that create that create conditions for exclusion. Therefore, the border should not only be understood in geographic terms but “also in terms of effect and effect: how borders affect lives, both materially and spiritually.” Instead borders go beyond borders, contrary to one no longer being present at a border once it has been crossed.
Love has been the cause of some of the greatest feats, discoveries, and battles in the history of man. It has driven men to insanity and despair, while it has lead others to happiness and bliss. This idea that love has a strong influence on man’s decisions can be seen in the poem, “Love is not all” by Edna St. Vincent Millay. The most prominent theme presented in “Love is not all” is that although love is not a necessity of life, it somehow manages to provoke such great desire and happiness that it becomes important.
Growing up, my parent 's marriage was always conflict habituated. Their relationship was mostly intense with commotion and arguments. They never seem to get along well. As a child, seeing my parent 's relationship, I conceptualize that love wasn 't really real nor was it important. As I got older, my parent horrible treatment towards one another became something I carried on as well, due to all the years of the actions being modeled. Although, I told myself that I would not become like my parents, that I wouldn 't mistreat my partner, I would be able to control my anger, and that I wouldn 't emotional abuse my partner, I ended up making all those mistakes because that was all that i know growing up. I didn 't know what real love was like or
“Most of our lives consist of socializing with others, beginning new relationships, and strengthening old ones. Love is all around us, embodied in three main categories. Each of these is experienced in a different way; each of these is approached in a different way (Lemon2x).” However, all of them share one common quality- they are not planned, unpredicted, and developed overtime. In addition, an intimate relationship is harder to develop. “Intimacy generally refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association and belonging together. It is a familiar and very close affective connection with another as a result of a bond that is formed through knowledge and experience of the other. Genuine intimacy in human relationships requires dialogue, transparency, vulnerability, and reciprocity (Wikipedia). A lot of people think intimacy is all about sex. Intimacy is connecting with someone of the same or different sex on levels that ignite sexual interactions. There are many possible reasons why some people are attracted to each other and form relationships. Some of these reasons are personality, physical looks, things in common, and differences. These three things are what a relationship is based upon, besides trust and other things such as attraction.
Some people believe that there is no such thing as “true love” they believe that love is nothing but an illusion designed by social expectations. These people believe that love ultimately turns into pain and despair. This idea in some ways is true. Love is not eternal it will come to an end one way or another, but the aspect that separates true love from illusion, is the way love ends. “True Love” is much too powerful to be destroyed by Human imperfection; it may only be destroyed by a force equal to the power of love. Diotima believed that “Love is wanting to posses the good forever” In other words love is the desire to be immortal and the only way that we are able to obtain immortality is through reproduction, and since the act of reproduction is a form of sexual love, then sexual love is in fact a vital part of “True love”. Sexual love is not eternal. This lust for pleasure will soon fade, but the part of love that is immortal, is a plutonic love. You can relate this theory to the birth of love that Diotima talks about. She says that love was born by a mortal mother and immortal father. The mother represents the sexual love, the lust for pleasure. The father represents the plutonic love that is immortal. Plutonic love is defined as a true friendship, the purest of all relationships. A true plutonic love will never die; it transcends time, space, and even death.
How does 'sexuality' come into being, and what connections does it have with the changes that have affected personal life on a more general plane? In answering these questions, Anthony Giddens disputes many of the interpretations of the role of sexuality in our culture. The emergence of what he calls plastic sexuality, which is sexuality freed from its original relation of reproduction, is analyzed in terms of the long-term development of the modern social order and social influences of the last few decades. Giddens argues that the transformation of intimacy, in which women have played the major part, holds out the possibility of a society that is very traditional. "This book will appeal to a large general audience as well as being essential reading for those students in sociology and theory."(Manis 1)