Initially, beginning this assignment I wasn 't sure what to expect. My extended family and I are not very close. It was difficult for me to have to reach out to people to find out information for this assignment. When I first began to research my family history it was very difficult for me and brought up a lot of emotions, as I had recently just lost a grandparent on each side of my family. Unfortunately, both of those grandparents who passed had many of the answers I needed for this assignment. When gathering information I sought out family members from my mom 's side and from my father 's side of the family. Upon trying to gather information I quickly realized that communication is lacking on both sides of my family. I actually received some push back and concerns regarding why I was interested in “digging up people’s business”. Unfortunately, with the deaths that occurred a month prior to beginning to gather information for this assignment. I 've found that many family members that I spoke with reverted back to discussing the lives of my grandparents who had just recently passed. It was as if it was all they could speak about. It was difficult for everyone to gather their emotions and see the family as a whole unit. It appeared that they felt that both of these untimely deaths took over the spirit of the family. I also found it difficult for myself to want to discuss my family when everyone was still grieving. I realize that death is an issue that most families choose not to deal with. However, I believe that death needs to be dealt with to get past hurt, pain, as well as anger, to preserve the history of the family. I was not sure what the purpose of this assignment was until I began to find roadblocks in finding out informa... ... middle of paper ... ...if marriage is the right course for me. Although, initially I was not sure what I would gain from this assignment I believe that I gained a whole lot of needed information that will help me personally as well as have a better understanding of how my family operates. Although my mother and my father 's families are different there are many of the same things that occurred cross generationally. Even when it comes to my own relationship with my own parents I have to keep in mind their familial experiences and understand how that impacts them as individuals and as parents. I realize that one day when I become a parent I will need to take into account these familial patterns and find ways to change them for the better. Gathering this information was a cumbersome experience but it was an eye-opening experience the taught me a lot about who I am solely based on my family.
My grandmother, Rokeya Sultana, grew up in the urban parts of Bangladesh, with 2 sisters and 3 brothers. Her father, my great grandfather, was the chief officer of the district. She would go to school or to places by a motorcycle, car, or helicopter. She was living the life of her dreams. But then, my great grandfather had diabetes, and it was discovered one month before he died. It was a great shock for my great grandmother’s family because they had to move from the urban city to a rural neighborhood. My grandmother went to elementary, middle, and high school as a child. She also received a Bachelor’s degree in teaching. She was a good student and a very honest and respectful person. Once she reached the age of 20 to 21, she married Jonab Ali, my grandfather, and moved to Dhaka, the capital city of Bangladesh.
It is common for those experiencing grief to deny the death altogether. Many people do this by avoiding situations and places that remind them of the deceased (Leming & Dickinson, 2016). However, by simply avoiding the topic of death and pain, the mourner only achieves temporary relief while in turn creating more permanent lasting agony (Rich, 2005). In this stage, mourners will begin to feel the full weight of the circumstance. Whether the death of a loved one was sudden or long-term, survivors will feel a full range of emotions, such as sadness, guilt, anger, frustration, hopelessness, or grief. While many of these emotions can cause serious suffering, it is important for the survivor to feel whatever emotions come up and deal with those feelings, rather than trying to suppress any
Although I was unable to find much information through talking to my family members I learned a lot through Internet sources. Through all my research I have gained a much greater knowledge of my families background of why and how it came to be in Louisiana. I feel like I will continue to research this even though the paper will be complete; this paper has really sparked my interest about why my family chose to migrate and where in Germany my family came from. I now feel like it important to know your family history. I was surprised to see how little my family could tell me about our history. I always assumed that they would know all of those kinds of things. I actually look forward to being able to tell them the things that I learned while doing this paper.
My family is like many others in that we have our problems and difficulties as well as our own unique strengths and abilities. Past generations and the environmental context have influenced each individual’s development and growth, mine included. Through a thorough assessment of my family’s characteristics and dynamics, I am better able to understand my own beliefs and behaviors. This concept can also be applied to the families I work with. Through increased self-awareness and understanding of my own history, I am better able to provide competent, effective services as a social worker.
Students also created a family portrait in class. They were responsible of drawing and labeling everyone in their family. Then, they wrote on a piece of paper, how they family was special or important to them. I gave them an example that my family is important to me because they take care of me since I am the youngest one. It was very interesting to hear why their family was special to them. We also compared
Throughout my life I have heard a wide range of stories from my parents. When putting this assignment together I have put these stories into account. Randall Bass, educator of English at Georgetown University, concurs that stories shape individuals ' personalities. Bass expresses that, "People infer their feeling of personality from their way of life, and societies are frameworks of conviction that decide how individuals experience their lives" (Bass 1). Social stories about family history, religion, nationality, and legacy impact individuals ' conduct and convictions. Personalities of diverse individuals originate from their societies. Narrating starts at home. Stories associate individuals to their frameworks of convictions. They shape individuals ' lives by giving them a model of how to live. Individuals get their most punctual learning from distinctive stories. (Bass)
Loss has a strong impact over any human. It creates an overpowering pain that is difficult to cope with. The ability to discuss and tell stories about the departed adds meaning to the death and can affect a person’s grieving process positively. The story telling keeps the person alive in a way and with that a new meaning of the life is brought up for the lost one. Death also grabs the attention of anyone that reads, listens, or watches any mass media coverage.
We might feel sometimes uncomfortable talking about death or deceased but try not to stray away from the subject. Help the person express his feelings and thoughts about the loss in a candid way. Accept the feelings and emotions: help the person express his feelings and emotions. Let the person know that it is ok to cry, it is ok to express anger, it is ok to break down. Expression of these feelings and emotions are required in the process of grief.
Parents go through a wave of emotions when losing a child. They are not only in disbelief and denial, but also feel angry and guilty. Some parents find themselves wanting to talk about it, while others find it easier to talk about the death of friends or other family members rather than their child’s. When a child dies this disrupts the parent’s health and well-being during the hardest phase of bereavement and for long periods over the course of their lives (Hong, Floyd & Seltzer, 2010).
Family history is very important to an individual. By knowing where you come from, you can have a better perspective of your life. Having a clear understanding of your family background allows you to better appreciate the things that you would normally take for granted. The house, the car, and the average clothing may look better when one sees the sacrifices their family has made. They will see that their family has worked very hard just so others in the family can experience the better things in life. A persons roots and origins are some of the most important things to explore. This knowledge can bring you closer to self-discovery. As I have been growing up I have noticed that my entire background has influenced who I am. My family history is present in my values, my personality, because they were the first who taught me how to take my first steps in life. My culture makes me different and identifies me with my birthplace. The environment where I grew up was important too, as it helped me form me as a person of good. All these parts of my background make the person that I am today. The family must have many things to survive and keep the family strong. The basic functions of the family are procreation, socialization, economic support, protection, housing, and clothing. After analyzing my family history, several trends have become apparent to the era they were in.
In the 21st Century, the United States is home to many different types of family structures. Please describe your immediate family, noting its unique or traditional elements. How do you contribute to your family 's
Family history is very important to an individual. By knowing where you come from, you can have a better perspective of your life. Having a clear understanding of your family background allows you to better appreciate the things that you would normally take for granted. The house, the car, and the average clothing may look better when one sees the sacrifices their family has made. They will see that their family has worked very hard just so their family can experience the better things in life. A persons roots and origin is one of the most important things to explore. It alone can bring you closer to self-discovery.
In my life time, I have experienced many deaths. I have never had anyone that was very close to me die, but I have shed tears over many deaths that I knew traumatically impacted the people that I love. The first death that influenced me was the death of my grandfather. My grandfather passed away when I was very young, so I never really got the chance to know him. My papaw Tom was my mothers dad, and she was very upset after his passing. Seeing my mom get upset caused me to be sad. The second death that influenced my life was the death of my great grandmother. My great grandmother was a very healthy women her whole life. When she was ninety three she had
Family dynamics and their structure have gone through many changes in the last 100 years. The development of diverse and unique family styles was very interesting and I was surprised by the many changes over the spectrum of time. In addition, I discovered that I have been a little sheltered by my own environment. I had failed to learn about other cultures, but what I learned from this course and the way we define family was eye opening. Considering the definition of a family unit, it is easy to see how much that definition has changed. People living in the same home and celebrating the same belief system, although not related by blood, are still considered family. From single parents, to grandparents raising the grandchildren, and homosexual
Family structure can greatly impact the day-to-day activities of a family. A family with one parent may have a very different dynamic than one with two parents, or possibly even more parents. It is no surprise that these differences exist and families and that one’s family impacts their way of life. However, does it make a significant difference? Or is it simply a difference in how people react to their situations. That is what I wanted to learn from this assignment.