I grew up with the idea that life was meant to be decided day by day, instead of planning for the future. It’s not that I never wanted to plan out my college graduation celebration, family events with my kids and wife, or my retirement, I just never seen anyone make it past twenty one in my neighborhood and I didn’t think the same for me. It was more of a dream than a reality. When I came into highschool, one of friends, Fernando, had already passed away from gun violence. It took a toll on me mentally, and made the transition from middle school to highschool rough. I needed an escape from my neighborhood and luckily my high school is distant from home. During the program Summer of Service and Leadership, I would love the distance. I made
Fast forward my future to what psychologist Erik Erikson identifies as the Late Adulthood (55- 65 to Death) stage of life in his Stages of Psychosocial Development. There are two options as one reflects on their lives and they include: Integrity vs. Despair. I hope through the choices I make that I am in the Integrity department of happiness and content, feeling a sense of fulfillment and meaning and that I have made a contribution to life. Of course, there may be disappointments in life and we don’t know what the future holds and although I am nervous and anxious of where I will be in the next three months and in the next thirty years, I am also optimistic and excited to see what the future has in store for me.
I spent many years without a plan and there is no question it has adversely affected my life. Recently I have been formulating goals and working out who I am, what I do best, and how to use my strengths to get my life in order first. Without ques...
Older adults reinforce this aphorism all the time when they say things such as “I'm too old for this” which further shows that one cannot know what is in store for them. When accounting for this it is easy to see how it is a big, risky bet that many take can result in a bad ending. Some of the things one might want to do right now they might not be able to do later in life as a result of health problems, kids, and other unforeseen
Ten years from now, I see my Quality World thriving and prospering. I will have graduated from college with my desired major. With my medical degree, I will take up neonatal nursing and be the best at it. The way I think about relationships will change if I can stop being so stubborn with my heart and allow myself to open up. Ethics and morals play an enormous part in decision making. As an adult, making decisions are included in the roles and responsibilities. Acceptance, financial appreciation, and self-control are some of the values I feel, in the future, will be deemed as important. Being 28, I see myself renting a place to live and having my own car. I don’t believe at that age someone would be 100% financially stable.
Society has vastly changed just over the course of the last decade. While becoming financially independent, getting married, and buying a house and settling down are all still goals pursued by young adults, they are no longer always at the forefront of people’s minds as many young adults now set out for more ambitious goals as they aim to truly challenge themselves in changing the world rather than being content with what is considered to be normal by today’s standards. Furthermore, young adults are starting to plan things around their own life rather than the typical American life. The traditional milestones still remain, but are often put in different orders as people prioritize what is most important to them at that point in time. With knowledge
What I found is that if one were to sit down, and think of their future realistically, they could certainly find an approach on life that will not cause one to regret the...
According to Vander Zanden (1997), Erikson says that during each life stage of development, individuals will have to encounter unique life events. These life events enable the individuals to achieve their level of growth through life (Vander Zanden, 1997). Papalia and Olds (1998) say that young adulthood is a can-do period. This is the stage where decision making is important. Exercising their freedom to be independent, and using what they have learnt in their adolescent years. This is the time of exploration, trying things out, and weighing up the pros and cons. This is also the stage where the individual chooses to be away from family, to be independent, make their own decisions, buying their own home, budgeting, finance, accommodation, and day to day living.
Running away from any problem only increases the distance from the solution. That quote helped me a lot and motivated me to be stronger. It showed me that I need to face my challenges.
The morning of August 4, 2016, Juliann woke up excited and nervous. She put on the perfect outfit she picked out the night before. Juliann did her make-up and hair, as butterflies danced in her stomach. She practically ran to the bus stop and impatiently waited for her bus. As the bus rounded the corner, she realized tears filled her eye. Overwhelmed with fear and excitement Juliann boarded the bus to begin her first day as a freshman. During the first three weeks of Juliann's freshman year, she made new friends, learned new procedures, and worked to learn how to use a chromebook.
There are two different but similar stages in a person’s life: childhood and adulthood. I remember when I was a child, all I ever wanted to do was being an adult. Now that I am an adult or semi adult, I wish to be a child again. Looking back at my childhood everything seemed so easy. Now that I’m out in the “real world” everything seems to be ten times harder. As we continue to grow and develop we go through several stages of life. These characteristics can be distinguished by these similarities and differences: our thoughts in each stage, our actions in each stage, and our experiences.
As a child I had the great fortune of watching my mother grow, mature and embrace the constant change that life brings our way.By watching her pursue life this way, she has taught me never to fear the future.I admire her for this, she is always looking for opportunities to better herself, whether it be physically , financially, spiritually or mentally.She never says ‘its to late’ or ‘if i had known sooner’ , there is never a better time than the present time when it comes to setting goals and reaching milestones. And if for some reason, it doesn 't go her way, she just tries
The general pattern for people is that when they becoming older they are less able to vary life. Nikolas Westerhoff in his article “Set in Our ways: Why Change is So Hard” described the connection between humans’ brains and behavior during the certain periods of life. The key assumption is that in 20s people are more hazardous and tend to adventures, while after 30s this trend is less expressed. Author gives an example when the young generation can be even over risky and inconsiderate. The article includes the story about 22-year-old Cristopher McCandless, who gave his money for charity and hitchhiked around the USA and died in Alaska because of famine. When 40s – 60s are coming people lose their appetite for novelty due to the natural process, which reveal that old habits express themselves at those ages. The elder generation wants to feel stability continuing do customary things and taking care of their children or grandchildren. Also they are under the society’s pressure, when it is quite inappropriate being infantile or just make crazy travels instead of making a career and having a family. Author mentioned false hope syndrome, which means that people often procrastinate certain thinks that never be finished. That is why Westerhoff suggests doing everything “on a right time in a right place” because then it would be probably late.
You get out of life what you put in. It is important to understand now and forever if you let life take you to whatever is next, you are very likely not going to live up to your potential. Life will drift you to the next thing and the next thing in progression but it may not be the best place for you. Pick out a point on the horizon and work to navigate the undulating terrain to reach that point. You have an infinitely better chance of success as defined as a happy life when you are intentional in your path. This does not mean you must plan every minute of your life. It does mean you should have a general sense of direction in most things you do. I have heard that setting a goal is scary – you don’t know when you set it if you will achieve it or not. The fact is you will be somewhere doing something at that point in the future so your purposeful input on that direction is vital you ending up in the right place for you. If you know where are you going, it is easier to get there. Don’t let life happen to you. Be
It is easy for society to become self-indulge and live in the day to day not worrying about what tomorrow holds. Especially the young adults that believe they have all the time in the world to plan for tomorrow, but the truth of the matter is the sooner we invest in our future the more prepare we will be. Whenever we talk about the benefits that people have by taking care of them self’s by eating healthy and exercising, achieving a higher education, serving their country; we think of the many opportunities that will open for them, personal and professional growth they will experience during those years, the friendships that will be create inside and outside the classrooms or the skills acquire for a profession in a particular field, among other qualities they will gain.
It’s a cold night. I hear the soft crunching noises of my boots as I walk through the freshly fallen snow and up the steps. My key unlocks the door. I go inside, but I am not home. Life is strange. Most of us don’t really live in our lives, we live in our future lives. It could be in a dream, a financial plan, a child’s future, a partner, tonight’s dinner. Our perspective is towards the future, not the present. We live in the foreshadowed footprints of our future selves. It’s not wrong. Maybe it’s just part of who we are. Maybe it’s supposed to be this way.