Personal Experience: Children Whose Parents are Divorced

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My Life So Far

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Hi! My name is Joh Doe and my life has had its ups and downs before, like any other person has had. I was born at Huntington hospital in Huntington, New York. I grew up in East Northport, New York in Suffolk County. I have always lived in the same house and I like it that way. I had the chance to move but I chose not to. My family consists of five people, my dad, my mom, my two sisters, and myself. My mom and dad were the greatest parents growing up and all throughout my childhood. I thought I had the greatest life and wouldn’t change anything about it. I have become extremely close with my dad, especially as I have gotten older. My dad is more like a friend to me now, I guess because I can relate to him and talk to him about things that interest us both. Not that I don’t see him as a father, its just that he is a friend and a father. My other good friend is Matt who I met through elementary school and through little league because we were in the same class and on the same team. I became best friends with Matt in third grade, when we were eight, and to this day we are still best friends at the age of eighteen. The first way Matt and I hung out outside of school was through doing homework and projects for our class in third grade. I have always struggled with school grade wise. I do fine in class, taking notes, completing what I need to get done, and even homework. But the biggest trouble I had and still have to this day is test taking. Whenever I take a test, I freeze up and can’t remember anything I studied. I think I had a lot of pressure put on me to do so well because my two older sisters always did so good in their classes that I wanted to do the same. I generally like school because its ...

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... make me happy. As far as my friends, I hope, really hope, that we will all still be in contact when we are all older and have families. These guys have been there for me for the last ten years, and I have been there for them. I would hate to lose contact with them and I hope that my kids and their kids will even be friends. Friends truly are one of the biggest things that have influenced my life, and I’m more than grateful to have them.

References

Wyman, P. A., Cowen, E. L., Hightower, A. D., & Pedro-Carroll, J. L. (1985). Perceived

competence, self-esteem, and anxiety in latency-aged children of divorce.

Journal of Clinical Child Psychology, 14(1), 20-26. doi:

10.1207/s15374424jccp1401_4

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