Personal Attachment: The Personal Aspects Of Lessons In Relationships

This is what I learned from the past six months. One of the primary ways that we learn our lessons is through relationships. We learn from our partners, while at the same time, we act as teachers for them. It is neither our responsibility nor our concern to try and teach our partners. It’s rare enough that we can truly understand what our personal lessons are; it’s nearly impossible to truly understand what someone else’s lessons are.
Sometimes we think we know, in our minds or in our hearts, what needs to happen in a relationship or in the life of another person. Oftentimes we think we know better than the other person does. And whether or not that is true, this is where we run into trouble.
Attachment causes you to treat a person as if he or she were an extension of yourself. Falling in love feels great, but having someone

It’s not about always getting it right. We’re going to screw up. It’s not about beating each other up for our tendency to be prone to mistakes. It’s about committing to operating at a risk-taking edge, which requires a lot of trust and commitment to mutual accountability.

The context for this engagement together is about leaning into our evolutionary edges, where we’re growing and evolving, sharing a mutual interest in our evolving edges. Rather than meeting in our limitations, fears, and doubts, colluding in how we’re failing to show up to our highest potential, and complaining about what doesn’t work, we take a stand for meeting in service to our highest potentials.

Some relationships are based on sharing everything that’s wrong or not working on where we are struggling or fearful. This should be off limits, not that there’s no place to talk about your limitations, but that the relationship is meant to lift up what’s possible, rather than to devolve into a shared bitchfest that drags both parties