Passionate Love And Passionate Love

Passionate love and companionate love, how would someone know if their relationship was truly failing, or if their falling in love peak was simply just fading away? One would then begin to question if they’ve ever loved their significant other, leaving them with millions of questions running through their mind, in effect possibly making themselves believe getting a divorce is the best solution. It’s then when knowing the difference between passionate love and companionate love is essential.

Passionate love is the feelings of high emotions, wild passion, constant excitement, intensity, and the feeling of not caring about anyone else but you and your passionate lover. This passionate feeling usually lasts anywhere between 6 to 30 months and is commonly known as falling in love. While companionate love is more of a strong bond with deep affectionate attachment that activates different parts of the brain and although it’s not as passionate, it’s just as real as passionate love if not even stronger. Many begin to take companionate love for granted simply because the “flame” has gone out. Passionate love quickly disappears, but companionate love lasts a lifetime.

According to Hatfield and other researchers, recent studies have indicated that marriages will begin to seek divorce anywhere between 2 to 4 years in their marriage, which is when the falling in love phase has ended. Studies have shown marriages that overcome this difficult phase are then rewarded with something that lasts a lifetime, which is known as companionate love.

There are many theories that psychologist and researchers have conducted but I’ve decided to write about this particular topic because it hits home. After the breakup between my mother and my father, my ...

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... in finding true love. The idea of genuine love needs to be embedded on everyone, it’s the type of love that is durable companionate love between two united people who are firmly devoted to one another, and if worked on daily it may contain some added passion.

In conclusion to my research and having to witness this situation, I believe people need to realize that passionate love does in fact exist but it can be a struggle to maintain, but keep in mind no one said love was easy. Let’s just say the passion were to completely fade away, it doesn’t give one the right to run away from their potential companionate love and search for passionate love elsewhere, because guess what, that passionate love they’ve found outside of the marriage is going to leave them in the same situation they were left facing in the first place, making this an unending cycle of broken hearts.