What can parents do? First of all parents feel that the children are theirs, and they can spank them when they misbehave. There are many factors that lead to physical punishment: parents were to young and not ready for children, parents are going trough a divorce and need to take out their anger on something or someone, or parents do not know another way to punish their children. These children grow up to be aggressive and often abusive towards others. Although parents think this is the only way of educating their children there are many other alternatives.
It is a vicious circle. Also, by beating children we are telling them that it is acceptable to smack, which will create more violence in the future, therefore making the matter worse. In dealing with this issue can we ignore the fact that there is no debatable reason why it shouldn?t be made illegal? In everyday life, violence doesn?t need to be used to control children?s behaviour. Most parents say that they use smacking as a way of controlling their children when they are disobedient.
When parents spank their children are they guiding them or controlling them? Nancy Samalin, author of Love and Anger, believes that spanking is nothing more than a big person hitting a smaller person and it can do damage to your child’s conscious. “A child who obeys because of the fear of being spanked,” she explains “is most likely not to develop a sense of right or wrong without being policed by a more powerful authority figure.” (Samalin, p. 154). She believes that spanking the child you have not set an example that you want your child to follow in the future. New studies have shown that children who are abused by their parents physically, emotionally, or sexually grow up and become abusive parents themselves.
This means that their brains just automatically expect people to be mean to them or spank them. This makes children essentially hostile towards everyone. If someone is coming towards them like they are going to hit them, then they are going to “bull up” and fight them back. Facts prove that spanking your kids makes them more hostile and more defensive towards others. They don’t always have to be in danger or have others being mean to them for the children to get aggressive and dis the payment back out.
Children spanked repeatedly become accustomed and learn to believe it is an acceptable behavior, “…spanking sets a bad example, teaching children that aggressive behavior is a solution to their parents' problems” (Park1). As a result, when they become adults they exhibit aggressive and violent behaviors towards others. An example as adults they are more likely beat their significant other or their children continuing the cycle. Spanking also induces pain and fear and does not get the message across to the child of what he did wrong. Children tend to get worse when spanked ,”… the children who have been spanked were more likely than the non-spanked to be defiant, demand immediate satisfaction of their wants and needs, become frustrated easily, have tempe... ... middle of paper ... ... that children who are spanked are likely to have lower vocabulary compared to a child that has never been spanked.
Parents must use discipline to teach children right from wrong. Some opinions still lean toward spanking being a form of abuse and that spanking a child is unacceptable because striking a young child will not actually teach them to be good. Some say spanking also hurts children mentally and spanking a child is no different from hitting someone else. Parent should have the choice to use spanking
Parents often come through situations where young children often disrupt their parents by ignoring the realism of the verdict they create. At this fact, some parents may select to physically punish their children and show their frustration. Before spanking, parents should consider the use all the other non-violent forms of discipline and if none work then finally the act of spanking can be justified. Parents have to understand that they will have to discipline their children for many ages. A spanking needs to be part of that discipline.
Why treat one with violence, which will eventually lead to one maneuvering their way when treating his parents to avoid the violence against him or her. Not only that, but also one will also use violence against his parents when one grows up to protect oneself from their parents’ violence. Parents Violence against children lead to many negative effects in their children’s life and even leads to crimes. People might think that violence discipline the kids and prevent them from arguing with their parents and following their orders without even asking. I agree that it does discipline the kids only when they are young but as they start to grow up it all turns upon the parents who should have known that a turning point in his or her life would come where they treat their parents the same way they treated him when he or she was young.
Hitting your child, is teaching them that it is okay to become violent when you’re mad, which is not a good lesson to learn. Also, it could result in your child, bringing these lessons to their own children, and maybe even reflect it on their spouse. Why is it seen as correct, to hit a child for hitting someone else? The irony is that you’re doing wrong, just as they are. You need to teach children, that violence is not the correct way to go about things, so they spread that to everyone around them.
As we all know that children are more likely to follow their parent’s actions (Alderson, 2008). Therefore studies shows that it is morally wrong to smack a child, things are beginning to change to protect children. In the UK, parents are allowed to smack their children if it constitutes "reasonable chastisement and does not leave a serious mark," but experts continue to call for the practice to be banned outright. Other problems with smacking children are the fact that children who are smacked have lower self-esteem than those who are not smacked. Therefore these children often develop resentments towards their parents and get angry with them and sometimes seek revenge.