Parents’ Violence Towards Their Children

As for others, spanking is wrong because these parents think there can be a future problems from the effect of spanking. Spanking children can lead to emotional, mental and even physical problem as they grow up because the later effects of spanking and abuse caused by the disciplinary action of spanking. While I am against spanking a child, I understand that spanking a child can discipline him/her. Parents control the correction of their children; every parent knows how to make their child listen to them. Some parents threaten to spank their child so the child stops misbehaving immediately because the child does not want to get hit.

What can parents do? First of all parents feel that the children are theirs, and they can spank them when they misbehave. There are many factors that lead to physical punishment: parents were to young and not ready for children, parents are going trough a divorce and need to take out their anger on something or someone, or parents do not know another way to punish their children. These children grow up to be aggressive and often abusive towards others. Although parents think this is the only way of educating their children there are many other alternatives.

In the article, a father named Peterson got arrested because he was trying to spank his daughter. Peterson’s lawyer indicates that Peterson was spanking his daughter for good, but psychiatrist Elliott Barker points out that parents should not use physical punishment because parents are the closest and the most related people to the children. Physical punishment can cause children to lose their trust in parents, and also it can causes family violence for next generations because children are not mature enough to understand the circumstance for physical punishment. Therefore, I agree that by not giving children the correct discipline, parent will cause more negative effects for the children in the future. Even though many of the parents claimed that reasonable and responsible disciplines can be recognized as a good way to take care of a child.

It is a vicious circle. Also, by beating children we are telling them that it is acceptable to smack, which will create more violence in the future, therefore making the matter worse. In dealing with this issue can we ignore the fact that there is no debatable reason why it shouldn?t be made illegal? In everyday life, violence doesn?t need to be used to control children?s behaviour. Most parents say that they use smacking as a way of controlling their children when they are disobedient.

Because of the retardation in the cognitive development, spanked children must spend their entire lives catching up to their counterparts who did not receive such harsh punishment and cannot enjoy a quality childhood. Hitting children can cause back problems (Hunt, 2011). Shock waves travel up the spine and cause nerve damage (Hunt, 2011). If a parent disciplined his/her child out of love, it would not be with an expensive medical bill later on in life. Parents who spank their children argue that spanking gets their children to stop the incorrect behavior quickly.

Parents who are physically abusive may believe that their children need to fear them in order to behave, so they use physical abuse to keep their child in line. However, what children are really learning is how to avoid being hit, not how to behave or grow as individuals, (Child Abuse and Neglect Recognizing and Preventing Child Abuse). Parents may think that by beating a child they are managing the child’s behavior. They are wrong. If they think what their parents did to them worked, they are wrong.

Parents are trying to teach their child a lesson but instead making them fearful. Children will be aggressive and think violence is the answer to everything. The point of spanking is to teach the child what they did was wrong but kids don 't get that message when they get physically abused. It teaches them the wrong lesson and they think that it 's okay to spank kids so when they get older they will probably do the same thing. Corporal punishment of a child by a caregiver is legal in every state, but it crosses the line to abuse when a child is injured.

One common myth/ineffective approach among parents/caregivers/coaches is blaming a parent for their parents styles when a child is aggressive. This idea usually arises in the situation when children are forced to share toys or do a certain task that they wish not to do. A common response to this situation is for the parent/caregiver is to use power assertion, giving a child a time-out, or being physically violent. We have all heard the phrase, “why is your child so aggressive?” or “enroll your child in more sports teams so they can release the anger.” In some, aggression is a problem and it is harder to control than in others. Aggression is a common problem within many children and that if the problem is not addressed early on then it would continue through adolescence and later on in life.

Child abuse is when adults exert physical violence against their own children. Children receive hitting in their body because their parents do not know how to control their anger. Parents are seeing a minimum error of their children to start hitting them. Children are innocent that they do not understand why their parents hit them sometimes without any reason. Parents sometimes blame their children their own problems and justify their actions.

Parents can ruin their children’s life many ways from not giving them enough attention, punishing them the wrong way, abusive environment, friends and teachers. If the society is suspecting children are being mistreated at home, then they should do home check ups. People need to gather together and try to stop bulling before it becomes worse than it already is.