These parents want their children to be independent and they generally are. They can regulate their own behavior effectively because they understand why and when the... ... middle of paper ... ...switching their parenting style it will make for a very confused and unsure child. Although such classification systems are useful ways of categorizing and describing parents’ behavior, they are not a recipe for success. Parenting and growing up are more complicated than that! (Feldman, 2011 pg.
Parental Rights Parents have legal authoritative power over their children. Parents tend to be strict to look out for their child(s) best interests, but others may disagree that strict parenting is morally wrong, for it robs the children of their own rights. In this case, being strict is defined as the parent loving their child so much that they set boundaries for them, and this includes verbal and physical forms of discipline to help the child distinguish morality--what is right and what is wrong. In this paper, I will argue that strict parenting the moral way to look out for a child’s best interest. To begin, parents tend to be strict to look out for their child’s best interest.
However, in this type of parenting style, authoritative parents are more responsive to their child, more willing to listen to questions and more forgiving rather than punishing when their child fail to meet expectations. These parents are more supportive, rather than punitive, also, they focus on making their child confident and socially responsible. (Baumrind, 1966). In authoritarian parenting style, children are expected to follow the strict rules and regulation established by the parents. The parents are too demanding and directive but not really responsive towards their children.
Passive parenting style rarely discipline their children, as they hold low expectations of maturity and self control. According to Baumrind, permissive parents "are more responsive than they are demanding. They are nontraditional and lenient, do not require mature behav... ... middle of paper ... ...gone Medical Center (The Child Study Center) well adjusted children, particularly in terms of social competence (Gurian), have parents that practice an authoritative parenting style. Authoritative parents are able to apply rules and regulations, with emotional responsiveness and respect for their child’s independence. Authoritative and authoritarian parents hold high expectations of children.
Authoritarian and permissive parenting style Have you ever thought about how your life might be if your parents had raised you in a different way? Authoritarian parenting or strict parenting are formed by parents who are very demanding and lack of responsiveness. Parents do not allow long dialogue with their children, also they expect their children to follow very strict rules and if they do not follow those rules they will get punished by their parents demanding obedience. On the other hand, we have a different type of parenting style called permissive or indulgent, these types of parents are very responsive but they lack demanding, these parents are very nurturing, loving, and lenient. They avoid any type of confrontation with their child
Parents then base standard rules off of the child’s feelings and assures that the child fully understands why they should follow the rules and what the consequences of breaking them will be. This parenting style creates a strong relationship between the parents and their child allowing the child to mature into an independent person that can make their own decisions. Authoritarian parenting on the other hand requires children to listen to rules without explanation. Parenting of this style requires the children to listen to rules without discussion, and most of the time the parents hardly connect emotionally to their child. The results, as Amy Morin who is a psychotherapist says, “Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much of the time.
There are so many parenting styles out there but in the end it is the parents choice to choose how they want to parent their children. In Mr. and Mrs. Harsh-Heart’s case on parenting styles they chose to focus on strict discipline, rules and harsh consequences with even resulting to spanking. This is known as authoritarian parenting. Then, we have Mr. and Mrs. Easy- Going and they don’t involve punishment because they believe in natural consequences so their children can learn a lesson on their own here and there. This type of parenting is known as permissive parenting.
Authoritarian Parenting In this parenting style, the parents establish the rules and expect their children to follow them without exception. Children have none or very little involvement on problem-solving situations and obstacles because their parents expect them to never veer away from the rules. These children are usually not given reasons for the rules set in place and there is no room for any negotiation. If the children would challenge the rules or question them, the parents usually respond with, “Because I said so.” Authoritarian parents may also use punishments instead of consequences (Boundless). Although the children follow the rules much of the time, it is possible that they may develop self-esteem problems and become anxious or
This affected me in a negative way as I was expected to follow strict rules unconditionally with absolute obedience, and my parents rarely gave me choices or options as they had very high expectations of what I should be doing. For example, when I was in junior high, my parents selected all of my courses and I had no control over my school schedule. They told me that they were doing this because they knew what was good for me and what career path I should be going into in the future. However, what they did not understand at that time is that their actions lowered my self-esteem and prevented me to act independently; as a result, I never really learned how to set my own limits and personal standards until I entered my sophomore year in high school. I benefited from having authoritarian parents as they taught me about the importance of rules and boundaries, but there are more cons than pros for the authoritarian style.
To begin with, each parent has their approach to parenting. As far as I’m concerned, it is not the strict or the kind attitude that matters. Good parents are not afraid to have their own opinion when they need to give good results at moderate severity, and moderate softness. On the other hand, the strictness emanating from coarseness, or softness emanating from shyness or lack of principle, can lead to poor results (Spock, 1988). Result of education does not depend on the degree of strictness or mildness, but rather on feelings of the child and from those principles of life that parents are planting it.