Parenting Styles
explanatory Essay
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Parenting children is probably the most important, difficult, and thankless job in existence. I should know, I am the father of two girls; one is 27 years old and the other is 25, and now a grandfather as well. I have heard many people say things like: “I raise my kids the way I my parents raised me” (while complaining about the things that their parents’ did), “I am doing the best that I can” (then learn to do better), and “children should be seen and not heard” (This was my father’s favorite). Nobody seems to know the perfect way to raise children; is there a perfect way?
When I did a Google search for the term “parenting styles”, I got over 52 million results; the term “parenting experts” gave me over 109 million, and “popular parenting books”, provided more than 32,000 selections. This world is drowning in parenting advice; some of it is good, but much of it is not. There are literally millions of people who think that they know better than everybody else how to raise a child. Because of this people have created thousands of books, hundreds of parenting magazines, and millions of videos. Every one of these people claims to have the answer, but very few actually do, and those few, although they might be correct on a single aspect of parenting, it is like somebody holding one piece of a very large jigsaw puzzle and saying that they solved the puzzle.
Dr. Peggy Drexler (Assistant Professor of Psychology, Author, & Mother) writes in her article “The Uprising of Parenting Experts”:
“There's nothing wrong with seeking out help. Help is great, and for many parents, necessary. But at what point does all this help compromise our innate ability to parent?” (huffingtonpost.com)
The important thing about getting help though, is that you h...
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...ities, growth patterns, outside influences, and situations), you just might be rewarded with the result you desired.
Works Cited
Cherry, Kendra, About.com Psychology. “Parenting Styles: The Four Styles of Parenting” (2011). Pages, 06 Dec 2013, .
Chua, Amy, WallStreetJournal.com. “Why Chinese Mothers Are Superior” (2011).
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In this essay, the author
- Explains that raising children is probably the most important, difficult, and thankless job in existence.
- Opines that the world is drowning in parenting advice. millions of people claim to know better than everybody else how to raise a child, but very few actually do.
- Quotes dr. peggy drexler (assistant professor of psychology, author, & mother) in her article "the uprising of parenting experts".
- Explains that there is no absolute answer on how to raise children; there are misunderstandings and misinformation everywhere; even the "experts" disagree with one another.
- Explains kendra cherry's four parenting styles: authoritarian, autoritative, permissive, and uninvolved.
- Describes how amy chua, a well-respected yale law school professor, raised extremely successful and talented children. she is correct that her method can work, but it can also backfire.
- Recounts how their father was involved in their education, despite having a 'd' in math. chua claims that child rearing is acceptable if you want successful children.
- Opines that western parents are anxious about their children's self-esteem, but they aren't aware of any parents in the 60s and 70s who were.
- Opines that there are no perfect parenting methods, and that if we raise our children with more tough-love, we might produce self-reliant, community-minded, intelligent, skilled adults.
- Cites cherry, kendra, about.com psychology, parenting styles, and developmental psychology.
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- Explains the psychology of parenting styles, describing the outcomes, processes, labor, and techniques in a psychological point of view.
- Explains the first type of parenting style called authoritarian, where the parents are the boss. they make strict rules and enforce them; they use external control on their children instead of taking time to tell them what they did wrong.
- Illustrates how timmy's parents punish him by beating him with a stick. they do not explain to him why they are hitting him or ask why he has arrived home late.
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- Explains that authoritarian parents will not only depend on discipline. they will explain to the child what he has done wrong, and then they will give him a reasonable punishment.
- Explains that uninvolved parents have nothing to do with their children because they work too long, are involved with drugs, or are divorced. this uncaring style doesn't meet the needs of children.
- Explains that neglectful parenting is the hardest parenting style for a child to experience. uninvolved parents love their children more than the neglected parents.
- Advises parents to choose a democratic or authoritative parenting style for their children, so that they are successful socially and academically. the lowest point in marriage is when kids reach teenage years.
- Cites galdwell, malcolm, stahl michael, phillip, phelan, thomas, and reichlin, gail.
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