Typically a parent would not endure in such actions, but it varies from parent to parent. When left with the situation of discipling their kids, some parents feel guilty for taking measures into their own hands, and other parents feel no remorse. The whole purpose of discipline on children is to set them in place. By that I mean to help guide the child down the right path to a prosperous life and responsible adult. If it means physical or verbal discipline, then it is all for the greater good.
Yes, the stakes are high: Raise confident, competent, independent children to be productive, happy adults who are able to think and speak for themselves, is the challenge of all parents, regardless of parenting style. Authoritative parents want their kids to make decisions for themselves. They believe effective discipline means simultaneously setting firm limits while treating their children with respect and dignity. An authoritative parent will offer support and lend an ear to encourage positive decision making trying to respectfully guide their children toward working on their own solution. They believe children should have opinions on the rules and they want their children’s input.
This can cause the child never to learn what they should, or if they learn they become authoritarian just like their parents. The kids who go through this can develop psychological problems such as anxiety and depression faster and may develop self-esteem. A survey on authoritarian parenting was done and found that middle-aged Americans ... ... middle of paper ... ...earn and know not to do the same mistake again. In summation, parents decide how they want to raise their children. In either an authoritarian parenting style or a permissive parenting style or any other way they believe is right because in the end it’s their choice.
Baumrind suggests that these parents "monitor and impart clear standards for their children’s conduct. They are assertive, but not intrusive and restrictive. Their disciplinary methods are supportive, rather than punitive. They want their children to be assertive as well as socially responsible, and self-regulated as well as cooperative" (1991). Authoritarian parenting style consists of strict rules.
Permissive parents just want their kids to be happy and do whatever it is they want to do. The children of permissive parents are also dependent just like the children of an authoritarian parent as well as they are moody and lack in social skills as well as self-control. The third style is Authoritative, now these parents are very clear and strict on what they want, however unlike the authoritarian they also are loving and emotionally supportive. They can tolerate a little disagreement and don’t mind explaining to a child why or why not a certain rule has been put in place. These parents want their children to be independent and they generally are.
The most common reason for parents using this method is that they don't want their children being failures. So, parents as such will shame and blames, punish, and tease their child. As sick as this sounds studies show parents using this method are usually successful. When a child is punished or blamed he or she is said to learn what not to do, feel guilty, and avoid from making such mistakes again. Punishments include spankings, timeouts, and taking something of value from the child.
Authoritarian and permissive parenting style Have you ever thought about how your life might be if your parents had raised you in a different way? Authoritarian parenting or strict parenting are formed by parents who are very demanding and lack of responsiveness. Parents do not allow long dialogue with their children, also they expect their children to follow very strict rules and if they do not follow those rules they will get punished by their parents demanding obedience. On the other hand, we have a different type of parenting style called permissive or indulgent, these types of parents are very responsive but they lack demanding, these parents are very nurturing, loving, and lenient. They avoid any type of confrontation with their child
It can be very beneficial to parents to understand that how one raises their children can give them a foundation for good development for years to come. Authoritarian parents, show very little acceptance, have very high expectations of their children and are extremely controlling. These parents are strict, and use a prohibitive and punishment method. According to a research done by Kimberly Kopko from Cornell University, it “reveals that adolescents of authoritarian parents learn that following parental rules and adherence to strict discipline is valued over independent behavior. As a result, adolescents may become rebellious or dependent” (2).
They are nurturing and very open with their child (Baumrind, 1991). Lastly, neglectful parenting style is those parents who have both low demandingness and responsiveness towards their children. These parents are generally detached from their child’s life and in some cases; they may even reject or neglect their child’s needs (Maccoby & Martin,
Parents then base standard rules off of the child’s feelings and assures that the child fully understands why they should follow the rules and what the consequences of breaking them will be. This parenting style creates a strong relationship between the parents and their child allowing the child to mature into an independent person that can make their own decisions. Authoritarian parenting on the other hand requires children to listen to rules without explanation. Parenting of this style requires the children to listen to rules without discussion, and most of the time the parents hardly connect emotionally to their child. The results, as Amy Morin who is a psychotherapist says, “Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much of the time.