The reason morality falls into play is because the child may feel that strict parenting is because the parents “hate” the child. Growing up, most children rebel against their authoritative parents while their brains are still developing. The only thing the parent can do is demonstrate to their children that their actions have repercussions. This may result in physical discipline for the child, or verbal discipline for the child. Typically a parent would not endure in such actions, but it varies from parent to parent.
Hitting also promotes anger- in children and in parents. Parents often tend to react more harshly and spank harder while they are caught in an angry moment. Parents who give themselves time to calm do... ... middle of paper ... ...important that we teach our children a system of values, and the difference between right and wrong. Where do we draw the line when it comes to disciplining our children? Spanking isn't necessarily something a parent consciously chooses.
Authoritarian and permissive parenting style Have you ever thought about how your life might be if your parents had raised you in a different way? Authoritarian parenting or strict parenting are formed by parents who are very demanding and lack of responsiveness. Parents do not allow long dialogue with their children, also they expect their children to follow very strict rules and if they do not follow those rules they will get punished by their parents demanding obedience. On the other hand, we have a different type of parenting style called permissive or indulgent, these types of parents are very responsive but they lack demanding, these parents are very nurturing, loving, and lenient. They avoid any type of confrontation with their child
Most people feel as though controlling their children’s every move is what is best for them in the end, but in reality, it causes more harm than good. Overprotecting your child can lead to short-term problems such as being bullied to long-term problems such as depression. Also when you overprotect your child it can weaken your relationship in the future. Your child may feel as though they cannot come to you for things because you might judge them or doubt their abilities toward things. Another big problem most children seem to face with overprotection is a decrease in their confidence.
However, Children raised by authoritarian parents tend to have poor social skills, low self-esteem, and depression in the future. The effects of this parenting style are greatly negative. (“Consistent Parenting Advice.” 2009). Permissive parents have a much laid back approach. The child is encouraged to make his or her own decisions, and the parents are there to support those decisions regardless if they are right or wrong.
These parents blend love and retribution in their parenting techniques. Although this parenting technique is authoritative, the parents may allow exceptions to their rules for what they see as a good reason. The child of the commanding parents has a clear understanding of what they can get away with between their mother and father. Forgetting to complete a household chore may result in the parents saying, “This is your last warning”. After their last warning, the result would be whatever punishment the parents deem necessary.
Parents then base standard rules off of the child’s feelings and assures that the child fully understands why they should follow the rules and what the consequences of breaking them will be. This parenting style creates a strong relationship between the parents and their child allowing the child to mature into an independent person that can make their own decisions. Authoritarian parenting on the other hand requires children to listen to rules without explanation. Parenting of this style requires the children to listen to rules without discussion, and most of the time the parents hardly connect emotionally to their child. The results, as Amy Morin who is a psychotherapist says, “Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much of the time.
If there are not any rules in place to be followed the child will eventually resort to negative behaviors, and may even be insure because of the low discipline from their parents (Cherry, K. 2017, para. 9). Permissive parents should give the child rules to follow and discipline them if broken, to ensure that their child follow the right path throughout
They have high expectations of their children, usually do not respond to them, and will withdrawal love from children. Some parents may engage in psychological control of their children. They will put down the child’s friends, decisions, schooling, and ideas. According to Baumrind, these parents "are obedience- and status-oriented, and expect their orders to be obeyed without explanation" (Baumrind, 1991). Children of these parents are most likely to be obedient and proficient, but they are, also, anxious, unhappy, hostile, aggressive, and have low self-esteem (Santrock, 2012).
It tells the child that you are displeased with what they have done, but it doesn’t tell them how to behave in a way that will be more satisfactory. According to Professor Murray A. Straus “Physical punishment unfortunately is the foundation on which the edifice of family violence rests.” He also states that, “Physical punishment is the way most people first experience violence and it establishes the emotional context of association love with violence.” The child learns early that those who love him or her are also those who hit. Since physical punishment has been used as a method to train children or to teach them about dangerous things to be avoided, it also establishes the moral rightness of hitting other family members. A further unintended consequence of spanking is the lesson that, when something is really important it justifies the use of physical force. Lets think for a minute.