Parenting Style Of Makayla's Mother

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My best friend Makayla is the oldest of three children. She was the first, the one who made her mom a mother. When she would cry, mom would be there. When friends would fall away or hurt words would be spoken, mom would be there to discuss every aspect of the problem. So in the way of responsiveness, her mom was on top. However, this was not always what Makayla would have wanted. When she would be hurting, Makayla’s mom would come and try and help, talk it through and maybe go shopping to make it all feel better, when really all Makayla wanted to do was be alone for a while. She was always allowed to express her opinion, but when she confronted her mother, and asked to be left alone, she would take it as a personal offence. She could not understand why Makayla would not want to talk to her, why her efforts to make it all better were not meeting her needs. So in the way of warmth, there seemed a lack. While she was always quick to intervene, her presence shone a less However, with this information on Makayla’s mother’s parenting style, it seems to be slightly more authoritarian. There are always times when she is there to offer help, but she is not open to work through things in way different from what is natural for her and many times hurtful things are said without a reason. When Makayla would be upset about something She is relatively responsive when Makayla needs something, but selectively so. Her responses seemed to be on the irregular side depending on what Makayla was upset about and how her mother felt about it. Her expectations for behavior were relatively normal, her mother demanded respect, and sets down rules and reasonable punishments for not meeting those rules. Though Makayla was not always met with warmth every time she was upset, and the way Makayla’s family communicates is not always usual, they are loud and prefer to get all of their thoughts and feelings out vocally and it works for

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