Parenting Style And Parenting Styles

Parenting Styles And The Conditioned Mind
One of the most important determining aspects of children 's outcome is the parenting style under which s/he was raised. Because the baby has not established any knowledge about the world or how to interact within it, the parent can be considered the first teacher in developing multiple habits, social techniques and roles, identity, and communication skills. Every step an individual takes, every word one speaks, they learn to control and monitor from the beginning of their life. Behavior is something that is learned, conditioned, and adjusted as needed during the evolution of the learning phase, where the parent holds a great weight in introducing and reinforcing the foundational beliefs a child will

Authoritarian parents expect their children to accept their judgments and expectations with no questions asked, parents with authoritative parenting styles are direct and demanding, but responsive to their children. They are more willing to explain and elaborate on certain decisions and explain why an individual should “do or do not” in a given situation. Most would find this parenting choice unusual, but again, over the years it has taught many children great discipline and control. Parents with authoritative styles may find it has taught their children social leadership skills and communication etiquette. Parenting style has been found to predict child well-being in the domains of social competence, academic performance, psychosocial development, and problem behavior. Research based on parent interviews, child reports, and parent observations consistently finds: Children and adolescents whose parents are authoritative rate themselves and are rated by objective measures as more socially and instrumentally competent than those whose parents are non-authoritative (Baumrind, 1991; Weiss & Schwarz, 1996; Miller et al., 1993). By authoritative parents pursuing and continuing an authoritative and direct parenting style, it

The child may feel the need to perform and excel in every area of their life in order to get recognition. Not only does the child then appreciate recognition when a goal or accomplishment is achieved, but sometimes they feel the need to control the outcome of their accomplishment by continuously seeking new ways to earn recognition. Continuous extrinsic motivations such as these may result in the child feeling that by enhancing their performance and getting recognition from their actions and accomplishments they can control what people think of them. In simplest terms, the danger of becoming a people pleaser is put into play. While an authoritative parent monitors and would most likely intervene to change this developing belief system, unfortunately, a non-authoritative parent may not be the first to take this initiative in their child’s life. This parenting style typically leads to behaviors in the child where they may perform well in school to please their teachers, however they may also feel anxious, withdrawn, and have a general unhappiness. They most likely will have trouble dealing with the frustrations in life, will generally follow traditional roles of social expectations, and will enter into adulthood with a general lack of the warmth, unconditional love and nurturance that children require as they