In America, there are many kinds of families. I decided to research parenting in the case that the Grandparent is a main caregiver. I also want to contrast the difference that parents have being a first-time parent, versus a being a parent as a grandparent. The book says, “In general, skipped-generation families have several strikes against them” but also says, “[the] discussion of grandparents who live with their grandchildren should not obscure the general fact that most grandparents enjoy their role…” (Berger, 486). With this, I am going to interview my sixty-seven-year-old grandma, she was forty-six when I was born and became a primary caregiver for me alongside my dad. I think that my grandma is going to say that she is glad that she was …show more content…
Grandmothers Perceptions of Parenting a Second Time Around”, Grandmothers felt, “more confident, believed they were better parents, and derived more enjoyment from parenting [as a grandparent]” (Dolbin-MacNab, 567). They also say that they feel that, “their increased wisdom allowed them to avoid mistakes they made with their children, parent with less trail and error, and follow their instincts” (Doblin-MacNab, 567). This leads me to the first question that I asked my grandma; What did you learn from yourself the first time around? My grandma said, “I learned that you have to let somethings go, little things won’t matter in the long run. When I was older I realized that kids are not perfect, which lead to better behavior …show more content…
So, I asked my grandma; What do you think was the hardest part parenting as a grandparent? To no surprise she replied, “I am physically more tired.” From there, I thought I would bring up the things that I think would have been the hardest for her based off the list in the study; What about financial issues? As a grandparent she was, “financially a lot better off, she was able to have better Christmas’s, and money for college.” Which was interesting because this contradicts the studies findings. Then I asked, What about your health as you got older? Obviously, being in good health as she got older became more of a challenge, but mentally she said, “Parenting gave me a purpose in life, someone to get up for every
Roberto, K. A., & Jarrott, S. E. (2008, January). Family Caregivers of Older Adults: A Life Span Perspective. Family Relations , 100-111.
Parents who are supported in their caregiving role are better able to nurture their children, who have a better chance to grow up to be productive, contributing members of society. Research has demonstrated that programs such as parenting education, support groups, and home visiting are effective and produce positive, significant results for parents and their children. (p. 75)
For this assignment I interviewed my sister, who is a 48 year-old female that has only 1 child. My sister is a prior member of the armed services. She became a single parent at the age of 27, after her military career. As, she adjusted to the role of motherhood she had to endured several traumatic situations within her personal and professional life but most of all within her parental life. In being a single mother, she stated that she had a lot of regrets and alterations that she wished were in place prior to her becoming a parent. The most prevalent of which is that of having a spouse that supports and encourages her. Since, she was without the support of the father of her child, she was forced to make ends meet on her own. This struggle
There has been much debate about the parenting style called “Free Range parenting.” It allows children to make decisions with minimal parental interference. There were two different articles I read “Kids’ Solo Playtime Unleashes ‘Free-Range’ Parenting Debate”, written by Jennifer Ludden and published February 18th, 2015 and “Maryland family under investigation for letting their kid’s walk home alone.” I do not agree with either of these two articles and do not agree with this parenting style.
Mothers go through all sorts of stress. While parenting can be overwhelmingly stressful, it’s important to consider the possible implications of our actions and how our responses to situations can affect how our children feel physically and mentally. Recent research (2014) has investigated some aspects of how a mother’s physical response to a stressful situation could effect her infant. Knowing that infants can indirectly pick up a mother’s personal reaction can keep a mother aware of her actions and ultimately provide better care for the infant.
Recently there has been a change in the dynamic of the family structure in American. For serval reasons parents are unable to take care of their children. This leads them to rely on their parents for support. Grandparents are now aiding their families by becoming custodial grandparents, which is another name to address a grandparent that has become the primary caregiver of a child. This is different from the traditional grandparent role where an older adult is active in their child and grandparents lives but not to the point where they have taken over the parent role. For this paper will focus on those assuming the primary role of a custodial grandparent.The number of Grandparents that have taken on this responsibility has increased
As an infant, we tend to misconceive the reasons behind our parents guideline and our obedience as to why we should be accepting our guardians ground rule. However, the logic behind their reasoning, is crucial as to why it is significant in our life is questioned, how are we affected by it, the reasons for its importance in our life, in addition, the experiences behind the impact of their unique parenting approach. In this paper, I will be analyzing the process of a parenting style that my parent implemented while I was growing up, it’s relevance to my life, and my understanding revolving around this topic.
As you can imagine, the financial cost and responsibility of caring for an aging parent are not the only demands family members must face. Most of the concerns and hardships these caregivers deal with are ways to address the needs of their parents while making sure they still provide them with the necessities. Eldercare creates a complex situation in which traditional roles of parent/child relationships are revealed. You may already be in that position or soon looking at it of being part of the 'sandwich generation', providing support for your own children as well that of your parents. Physically as well as financially.
Middle adulthood is often a rewarding time for many, however, this period may be filled with several significant life demands. During this time some adults are caring for their grandchildren while simultaneously taking care of their aging and sometimes ill parents. During what is supposed to be a very rewarding developmental age, some are faced with added financial and physical burdens. This can lead to a depletion in money set aside for retirement and can create emotional and health problems for individuals in the caretaking
Single parenting results from the death of a partner, divorce or even a break-up of a couple which leaves one with the responsibilities of being a single parent. According to the American Psychological Association (2017), cases of single parenting have increased for the past two decades, and is seen today more than ever before. The latter ranges from a family headed by a father or mother alone and in some cases a grandparent taking care of the grandchildren. In a single-parent household, life can prove stressful for both the adults and the children, and children in these circumstances are prone to a life of crime.
Caregiving for an elderly person, or family member, can often result in stress for a caregiver (Bevans, 2012; Haley, 2003; Weitzner, Haley, & Chen, 2000; McMillan, 2005; Ugalde, Krishnasamy, & Schofield, 2011). This is a time during the family life cycle that the family often needs to re-arrange their structure, and methods of operating. Characteristic of this stage is the shifting of the relationship between an elderly adult and his/her adult child, specifically because the elderly parent begins to rely on the child for increased support and assistance. This is because in later adulthood, people begin to age and can become ill or frail (Anderson & Sabatelli, 2011; McGoldrick, & Walsh, 2003). As part of caring for an individual, or family member,
Children are the future of the world and need to be nurtured and educated in the best conditions. Thus, parenting is one of the most challenging and admirable responsibilities that people can experience. Parenting plays important roles in the development of children’s characteristics. Some people nurture children depending on their own ways. Others get advice from friends or books. Parenting can be divided into three groups: authoritative, permissive, and democratic parenting.
“For Many in the U.S, Grandparents are a Family Safety Net.” reads an August 2011 headline published by the Press Herald. This has proven true over and over again as grandparents are often considered the “glue “that holds the family together. These patriarch/matriarchs (regardless of age) offer priceless advice, leadership, and comfort in crisis situations. Their life experience, witt, and wisdom make for essential elements of the family unit. These individuals wear a variety of hats. In many situations, grandparents are forced; not by law but by affection and personal moral to take on the role as the primary caretaker of the child. This can be referred to as “kindship care “, a term describing the raising of an adolescent by close
In the mind boggling world of parenting, we discover a variety of parenting techniques. Realizing these techniques usually involves a lunch date with the neighbor and her child, or a lavish birthday party that we were invited to. In these events, we find the parent who is their child’s boss, the parent who has the colossal “Kids will be kids” mentality, and then the one who feels the need to offer an unrestrained amount of discipline. When we become parents for the first time in our lives, we are truly unaware of how much patience and understanding is involved with being an effective parent. As we raise our children, we learn their behavior and they also learn ours. As new parents, we fail to realize that this domino effect soon becomes a mutual agreement between the parent and the child.
She said, “I’m a grandmother, my love for you is just like having another daughter.” I realized that she was my biggest supporter and teaching me how to be independent was something she did from the bottom of her heart. She also felt that since my father wasn’t in my life that I deserved to have all the support from family. My mother is a single mom and my grandmother stepped up to the plate and helped where my mom fell short. I will always have the up-most respect for my grandmother because she went over and beyond for me. I felt as though my grandmother did everything out of love and not because she felt obligated to. She hasn’t missed a beat in my life, every school performance, dance recitals, and band performance my grandmother was there. I am forever grateful for everything that she has done and for things that she has yet to