The protective nature that parents have for their children is one of the most important traits that all parents need to have to raise their child well. However, even too much of a good thing can be poison. This is especially true for the characters in both the novel Mister Pip, by Lloyd Jones, and the short story Saturday Climbing, by W.D Valgardson. In Mister Pip, Delores loves her daughter, Matilda, and is extremely protective of her, so when Matilda starts to become pulled towards the world that Mr. Watts presents through the book Great Expectations, Delores takes action in the fear of losing her daughter to another world, but this overprotectiveness results in terrible consequences. Similarly, in Saturday Climbing, Barry is extremely protective of his daughter, Moira, and is afraid of letting her to have too much responsibility. However, she is soon going to university, and thus need to learn how to support herself. The result is the opposite of what occurs in Mister Pip, as Barry eventually accepts that Moira is growing and has to let go, while Delores continues fighting to hold Matilda to the end, until her sudden death by the Redskins. Through the stories of both Mister Pip and Saturday Climbing, Jones and Valgardson show how a parent, no matter how much they try to deny it, will eventually have let go of their child, and depending on the parent’s acceptance, the relationship can be either continue on, although more distant, or be forcibly stretched and broken through conflict.
In both of the stories, the parent does not accept that their child is growing, and gaining new and different opinions and interests that they potentially do not agree with. One of the similarities between Delores and Barry, the parents from Mister ...
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...ent and child are torn forcibly apart though conflict. There are many similarities between Mister Pip and Saturday Climbing, and the parent-child relationships in them. However, there are also differences, with the main one being how the story ends. In Mister Pip, the conflict between Matilda and her mother results in terrible consequences, particularly the death of Delores and Mr. Watts. In contrast to this, at the end of Saturday Climbing, Barry eventually lets go of Moira, although somewhat hesitantly, as he realises that she needs her freedom to grow and mature unconstrained. He can still stand behind her as protection from falls, but he can no longer stand in front of Moira as her shield. Both of the parents think that they are doing the right thing in trying to protect their child.
Works Cited
Jones, Lloyd. Mister Pip. Toronto: Vintage Canada, 2008. Print.
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