Do our relationships with each other really have a psychological impact on our minds? The mindset of a person is very intriguing especially when they are around different types of people. People will adjust themselves in order for them to belong. Alain de Botton challenges the way we view our ordinary experiences in his essay, “On Habit” by. In his essay, de Botton is a traveler that tries to seek the meaning of a traveler’s mindset. De Botton implies that the traveler’s mindset is the idea of thinking that a place can not decide one’s mood. In order for a person to escape that boredom in life, they must find a way to interpret their surroundings differently. The same sense can be brought towards relationships. If a person is miserable in a …show more content…
In order for discrimination to vanish between men and women, Kimmel answers by saying, “To my mind that choice is equality, a way to inspire women to find their own ethical core from which they can act in the world with authenticity and agency ”(263). The idea for women to find a way to become equal they must find out who they are. If a woman wants to be respected, their personality must not be fabricated. The personality should be real when they are alone and when they are around other people. There shouldn’t be a different motive for a woman to succeed in life and have a relationship. A line must be drawn for a woman to become self-respected. Kimmel emphasizes that people must embrace who they are. Both of these quotes relate to each other because people must shape themselves to their ideas to create a better culture within relationships. Equality between men and women can be related to a person who travels alone. A person must realize that traveling to a new place does not just make you happy, and women must be confident that they are authentic. This type of mindset that de Botton explains should be applied in every relationship that Guyland
Whether they are positive or negative, our habits are an integral part of our lives. Because of this, when Professor James VanderMey addressed the 33rd annual Honors Convocation at Mid Michigan Community College, he decided to speak on the topic of habit. In his speech, entitled “Remarks on Habit,” VanderMey (argues against Sartre’s point of view by) discusses the advantages of having good habits, especially the habits represented by the Diploma Qualification Profile, a series of proficiencies that students learn as they are educated at Mid Michigan Community College. First, he shows that good habits lead to creative problem solving. Then, he argues that our habits make us who we are. Finally, he shows how good habits may grow and multiply. Habits, especially DQP habits, are positive and useful, because they allow one to think creatively, become a better person, and find innovative ways of doing.
Everyone views the world with his or her own sense of gender, equality, and mind. Woman today view the world as a one-sided standard where equality does not exist for them. They believe that men have taken away their chances of happiness and opportunity because there are men and we are woman. Even though both men and women share equal hardships some women believe that men still have the final say in their lives. In Scott Russell Sanders essay “The Men We Carry in Our Minds” he believes that women have life made essay in his mind but woman must work just as hard as men for jobs, believe that everything should be given to them just because to who they know and what they do, and that men will always ruin the world and that women are the more dominate
This standard looks at whether or not the theory opens up a new perspective that is uniquely human. When trying to understand the laws that govern relationships, Baxter and Montgomery looked at many relationships and found that there were contradictions, different expectations, and several other misconceptions. This led the...
In a certain degree, because of males’ stereotypical ideas, Cassatt uses this portrait to persuade the males to return to the family. Families are not only about females and children, but also necessary to males.
Women in today’s society seem to be having a very difficult time expressing themselves without dealing with lots of criticism. Common values are standing in the way of women’s drive toward molding themselves into whatever they desire. Our culture has made standards about how should women look, act, and conduct themselves that greatly limits what they can do, and still gain respect. Martin S. Fiebert and Mark W. Meyer state that, “[there are] more negative [gender] stereotypes for men than for women.” This idea doesn’t seem to have a great amount of validity in our present society. Society set certain standards that men are supposed to live up to such as strength and confidence, which are more behavioral characteristics. Women seem to be more trapped than men by societies standards because they are supposed to live up to standards dealing with beauty and size, which are more physical characteristics These specific guidelines have been set by society that are sometimes unattainable for a majority of women. The women that follow the specific criteria are greatly respected, and the ones that try and be innovative usually are criticized if not disliked.
The images that infiltrate our lives appear to focus on maintaining the status quo or the norms of society. They are designed to show what is expected in life. Berger states, "Images were made to conjure up the appearance of something that was absent"(107). Berger argues "images" are "conjured up" or imagined to represent what is "absent" or what the individual wants to see as reality. There used to be a tendency to over exemplify the way in which women were thought to be, but "today, that opposition no longer seems to hold quite as rigidly as it once did (women are indeed objectified more than ever, but, in this image-dominated culture, men increasingly are too)" (156). Regardless of so...
Interpersonal relationships can take many forms and develop from multiple different factors. For example, Pat Solitano and Tiffany Maxwell, two characters from the movie Silver Linings Playbook, seem to have developed consummate love – a combination of all three factors in Sternberg’s triangle of love theory, which are passion, intimacy, and commitment (Aronson, p. 390-91). Their relationship developed over the course of the movie, starting from a little passion or physical attractiveness, growing into a somewhat dysfunctional form of an exchange relationship with hints of jealousy as well as self-disclosure, into the consummate love that is seen at the end of the movie. The two characters start to develop intimacy, passion, and commitment
Women still need to break away from the cult of domesticity. Women, although having made strides to be more independent, are still more or less dependent on men. Society still perceives women to be just housewives or mothers, women are subjected to the same ideas to that in Wollstonecraft’s era. Although women are given more freedoms, such as education, and employment, they are still not on the same standing as men. The role of women has undoubtedly evolved, however, this evolution does not put women in the same standing as men. Society still believes that women are still better off being housewives and mothers. According to Martha J. Cutter society believes that no matter what splendid talents a women might have “she could not use it better than by being a wife and mother” (384). The cult of domesticity still has a grasp on women; women are still bound by the home. Women are still seen as mere servants by society. Society condemns women to the home; it forces them to become dependent on men for their existence. Women must emancipate themselves from the home; they must break the chain that binds them to the cult of domesticity. Women must shatter society’s preconception of them and move towards building their own image. The cult of domesticity must be erased from society in order for women to become free from the home. Cutter asserts that women must
Since time immemorial, social interactions, and the subsequent relationships that bloom from them, have been often explained by the old adage “Birds of a feather flock together”. This refers to a fact of simple human nature: we are most attracted to things that share traits with us. For example, those with a penchant for thrill-seeking behavior and activities will not be attracted to a person of shrewish nature. Our attraction to similar people fosters cognitive synergy, pack-behavior and a need for cohabitation which are just a few deeply rooted predispositions that our early ancestors needed in order to survive. In short, the want for similarity is pure human instinct. However, the equally as old adage “Opposites attract” rings just as true as the aforementioned one. As with most things in life, when there is an up there must be a down. Differences in traits, on a purely biological level, promote genetic stability and increased survivability of a race. Socially, these differences are like shampoo to conditioner; alone they function adequately enough but when used in conjunction, the result far outstrips the sum of its parts. Balance is often the key to having a fulfilling bond. While it is near impossible to discern the perfect ingredients for building relationships, it stands to reason that the presence of similarities (or lack thereof) between two people can have an effect on their initial encounter, future interactions and potential romantic involvement. Whether it has purely physical or social origins, research and the observations associated with it affirm that the role of similarity is not as simple as one mig...
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Just from this short quote, one can see the independence she wanted the women in her stories to feel without having a man in their lives.
How a man acts does not dictate how he actually is. How people behave depends on the prevailing situation and circumstances at the given moment. A woman might be passive and submissive as a wife in relation to her husband and be every active and in charge in relation to her children or a man may be domineering as a husband and father in relation to his wife and children but submissive as an employee in relation to his boss or as a son in relation to his parents(Johnson 62) . Johnson argues that people are not born with autonomous traits. Both male and female are not accustomed to any particular set of traits. They both act differently depending on the situation. In the movie Mona Lisa Smile, Mrs. Katherine showed different and diverse characteristics depending on the situation she was in. When she was in class teaching, she was strong, daring, rational and active (all traits assigned to men) and when she was with Bill Dunbar (the Italian teacher), She was emotionally expressive, weak and shy all traits assigned to women). Masculinity and femininity tell us relatively little about who we are because we are complicated beings who reveal ourselves differently from one situation to another. We are not self-contained and autonomous”personalities” but relational beings whose feelings and behavior are shaped in
As Fuehrer Taylor articulates, “[i]t is Wollstonecraft’s expectation that the improved character of woman would improve not only her private relationships, but also her public stature.” For example, Wollstonecraft states that “public spirit must be nurtured by private virtue,” and “private virtue is the cement of public happiness.” Furthermore, she describes the ideal wife as “an active citizen...But, to render her really virtuous and useful, she must not, if she discharge her civil duties, want, individually, the protection of civil laws...” Thus, men must “snap [women’s] chains, and be content with rational fellowship instead of slavish obedience” in order for women to be “better
In Metamorphosis it shows that if a person doesn’t change their way of life then bad things happen. Individuals who don’t change and don’t learn to grow end up in bad situations. If a person is isolated and doesn’t talk to anyone then they won’t really get nowhere.
The buildup and the possible breakdown, which is known as social depenetration, is explained. My past relationships have begun and ended in this way. I will use my last relationship as an example because it is the most fresh in my mind. It started off with shallow superficial things. There was physical attraction, I like the way she looked and carried herself. I enjoyed the same hobbies as well as the movies she watched. Then we eventually started disclosing more personal information. We had deeper talks such as life goals. I feel that these are the “honeymoon” stages, when it’s all about fun. Things started to get serious, and she implied that we live together. At first I was a little hesitant, because I was afraid that there were things about me that may ruin the smooth relationship we were having. As the theory insists, this feelings of discomfort stemmed from the “Self-Concept” factor. I was worried that the way I lived was not up to her expectations. One example would be my level of organization. In comparison to my Jitchan, I am not the tidiest person. She was, in my opinion, a high maintenance girl, but after living with her for a month, I could see that the way she presented herself in public didn’t correlate with the tidiness of her home. I had mix feeling on that one, I was glad that my tidiness was not a problem, although her untidiness signaled possible future