In Karen Horney’s essay, “The Distrust Between the Sexes,” she demonstrates how the expectations we have when we are in love can often lead to disappointment. “An almost unavoidable source of disappointment and distrust in our normal love life derives from the fact that the very intensity of our feelings of love stirs up all of our secret expectations and longing for happiness, which slumber deep inside us (361).” Simply, projecting our desires, expectation and sometimes guilt upon our lover can lead to disappointment. Love, in this way, can be a hugely unsatisfying because our expectations for it can be contradictory in nature and sometimes unrealistic.
Ideally we would want a partner who possesses desirable traits. We want a partner who possesses both strength and weakness, who is pure and wicked, and additionally someone who will love us as deeply as we do them. However, it is very rare that someone will find that perfect partner who fulfills all of their desires. In my opinion, men and women usually project their guilt in ornate behaviors that lead to a breakdown in trust. For example, many people who are unfaithful often accuse their partner of cheating due to their own guilty conscience. Also, we can project our insecurities on our relationships; we do this unconsciously when we feel that we are not good enough or unable to fulfill our partner’s expectations in the relationship, and do this in many different ways.
I once was in a situation, one I’m confident most of us have been in, where my partner accused me of cheating and was very adamant about this. In addition, there seemed to be no way to assure her of any other reality. I later came to find out that she was the one being unfaithful during this period of time. Shortly afterward I came to the conclusion that she was projecting her guilt on our relationship, and that was the reason why she was convinced that I was being unfaithful.
As Horney moves on, she accounts for an almost unavoidable source of disappointment in our love life. It derives from intense feelings of love stirring up secret hopes for contentment. Intim...
John Proctor John Proctor is considered the most significant character in the play The Crucible by Arthur Miller. The play mainly focuses on guilt and the forgiveness of oneself. Miller illustrates this concept through the actions of Proctor. Miller takes John’s guilt as an example and shows in the play how he struggles with his guilt and forgives himself. John Proctor is a well-known farmer and respected person within Salem village, who struggles with his guilt of committing adultery.
Young love , a thrilling time for many . A time in where blinded young-lings cross a field unknown . A field in which one must undergo challenges and temptations . Here we have a young girl that encounters a young man , a typical boy meets girl scenarios , So it would seem . The desire to be loved can drive a person to do the craziest of things ; we are all walking proof of that . As young children one learns to express emotion through every gesture and every facial expression , through that process one realizes ones self hatred with rejection . Living in a world in which we strive to be accepted and crave to be desired . In society each gender faces different experiences ; as a man one expects a provider , a leader , a hunter and as a women
Geoffrey Chaucer's "The Pardoner's Tale," a relatively straightforward satirical and anti-capitalist view of the church, contrasts motifs of sin with the salvational properties of religion to draw out the complex self-loathing of the emasculated Pardoner. In particular, Chaucer concentrates on the Pardoner's references to the evils of alcohol, gambling, blasphemy, and money, which aim not only to condemn his listeners and unbuckle their purses, but to elicit their wrath and expose his eunuchism.
Luck, Moral Guilt and Legal Guilt. The question of whether luck should play a role in our assessment of other people is fundamental to human society. Our judicial laws express the view that we are responsible for our actions; in other words, luck does have a bearing on the determination of legal guilt; since legal guilt is theoretically based on moral guilt, this means that luck is usually considered to have a bearing on moral guilt as well. However, there are serious difficulties with this system of judgment.
The world-renowned novel, The Kite Runner was written by Afghanistan born American novelist Khaled Hosseini. Hosseini was born into a Shia Muslim family in Kabul that later in life decided to move to Paris. Hosseini was unable to return to Kabul due to the Taliban take over, this cause the Hosseini family to seek political asylum in America. The actions that Hosseini witnessed of his beloved home country influenced his novel with the themes of guilt and redemption. “The guilty one is not he who commits the sin, but the one who causes the darkness.” – Victor Hugo. In The Kite Runner the theme of guilt and redemption is shown through the character development of the protagonist Amir. Hosseini used Amir’s guilt of his past to grow the impression that with regret lies a hope for redemption.
The idea of unrequited love is a fear for many that oftentimes becomes true. No one wants to pour their heart out only to have their heart be broken in return. Why is love often unreciprocated? Love itself is often the answer to this question; many people fail to see someone loving them because they are madly in love with someone else. In William Shakespeare’s Twelfth Night, protagonist Viola has the unfortunate luck of falling in love with Duke Orsino who does not reciprocate this feeling of love for Viola because he is infatuated with Olivia. In Taylor Swift’s song “Invisible”, Swift sings about how she is in love with someone, but he is in love with someone else who does not love him back: “And I just wanna show you/She don’t even
Who is innocent their whole lives only to find guilt at the end? Is there a force larger than life that controls a human being from birth to death? What if a person so confident of their position in life, finds a truth to be a lie? The story of Oedipus Rex, tells of a doomed heir of Thebes who is foretold that he will kill his father and marry his mother. The oracle that foretells his future is indeed right, although is thought to be drivel at first. The guilt plays out in the end, with innocence and unknown identity being the cause of Oedipus’s destruction. Sophocles creatively demonstrates the themes of human will versus fate, the nature of innocence and guilt, and the quest for identity in his play, Oedipus Rex.
Love and affection is an indispensable part of human life. In different culture love may appear differently. In the poem “My god my lotus” lovers responded to each other differently than in the poem “Fishhawk”. Likewise, the presentation of female sexuality, gender disparity and presentation of love were shown inversely in these two poems. Some may argue that love in the past was not as same as love in present. However, we can still find some lovers who are staying with their partners just to maintain the relationship. We may also find some lovers having relationship only because of self-interest. However, a love relationship should always be out of self-interest and must be based on mutual interest. A love usually obtains its perfectness when it develops from both partners equally and with same affection.
The study takes into account the numerous negative effects both on the "Would be Lover," and the "Rejector"(p.377). The negative effects on the "Would be Lover" include, Heartbreak, Anger, and Humiliation, whereas the effects on the "Rejector" also include Anger but also Guilt and Scriptlessness. Unrequited love deals with a social relationship between two people many if not all of the eight overarching themes in social psychology are observable in the behavior of the couples.
While true love is treasured when achieved, its rarity can be attributed to the multitude of obstacles lovers must face. Couples often have trouble expressing their love for one another or may face challenges within the marriages. Whether it be disagreements, affection of surroundings, friendships lost, or jealousy, the quest for true love has its consequences. This concept is expressed several times in A Midsummer’s Night Dream, in the cases of many of the lovers. However, it can be argued that although complications ensue, true love is worth a life of trouble.
When looking at the differences of how women and men think about love, a very different point is made. In Steve Harvey’s book Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man, he discusses a woman’s love for her man, “Nothing … can compare with a woman’s love”(19). “A woman’s love it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generou...
Over many years philosophers and psychologists have proposed various aspects of love. Love is wildly varied in its expression and its experience; its study can contribute benefit from both the incisive and rigorous views yielded by psychologists and the wide-angle, social, cultural, and historical views employed by sociologists.
Society’s visual perception of a perfect partner is very different compared to mine. It’s pictured as someone who is without flaws, and makes no errors. While I’ms sure everyone wants someone like this, it just isn’t that possible, all of us make mistakes, we have flaws, and bad days. The truth of it is, that we’re all different people with contrastive mindsets, so everyone is going to have a somewhat unlike perception of the perfect
"You keep lying!" screamed Raskolnikov, no longer able to restrain himself. "You're lying, you damned clown!" And he flung himself on Porfiry, who retired to the doorway, but without a trace of panic. "I understand everything, everything!" He approached Porfiry. "You're lying and taunting me so Ill give myself away-" "You can't give yourself away any more than you have already, Rodion Romanovich, old man. Why, you've gone into a state. Don't shout, I'll call my men, sir!" (Dostoyevsky, 34)