We always hear the term of domestic violence, but we really know what domestic violence is? Is domestic violence just means a husband hits his wife? Of course not. First of all, the domestic violence not just happen to women, but also can happen to men. Secondly, physical abuse just a type of the domestic violence. We seems familiar with the term of domestic violence and far away from it, but actually, we are not. As the Huffingtone Post shown that the number of women who will experience partner violence worldwide is 1 in 3, which means that 18 of us sitting in this classroom, 6 of us may face domestic violence in the future. How horrible it is! Today, I want to tell you more about the domestic violence from three aspects that what domestic …show more content…
Why victims stay in a violent relationship? The National Coalition against Domestic Violence summarizes several barriers to escaping a violent relationship. And now, I will list some of these barriers, and absolutely not limited to these. Firstly, the victim feeling that relationship is a mix of good times, love and hope along with the manipulation, intimidation and fear. Some of the abuser will say sorry after abusing, and most of victims are kind, so they will forgive the abuser, which makes the domestic violence happen over and over again. Secondly, Fear of losing custody of any children if they leave or divorce their abuser or fear abuser will hurt or even kill their children. This situation sometimes comes up with lacking of financial supporting, so they have to stay in that terrible place. Last but least, lacking of supporting from friends and family. They have no idea where to go, no friends or family to help, shelter programs are full or limited by length of stay. They keep silent because they are afraid of homelessness. These three is the most common reasons that still have large number of victim suffer a violent …show more content…
Firstly, if you are suffering the domestic violence, please no hesitate to get in touch with relative departments or shelter program to protect yourself, and call the police if necessary. Because domestic violence always happen at private space, take some voice recordings or videos as evidences if you can. Also, keep the financial independent. If your intimate partner prohibits your economics independent or limiting you to access the bank account, please be aware of that it might the sign of the financial abuse. Don’t be shamed and afraid of asking help, remember it is not your fault, and believe laws and relative departments can protect you. Secondly, if your family member or your friend are suffering the domestic violent, please give them a hand. They are suffering more than you think. If they don’t leave, there are absolutely some reasons that makes staying is their only option. Maybe because they are worried about their children or other people they loved, leaving cannot solve the problem. Moreover, escaping may enrage the abuser which makes victim getting more hurt or even being killed. So, don’t ask them why they are not leaving, what they need is actual help. Help them to record the abuser’s behavior as evidence. Help them to contact the shelter programs. Help them to
In this paper I will be telling you many different forms of domestic violence. I will include the physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, spiritual abuse, economic abuse, social abuse, and emotional abuse. I will also describe the "cycle of violence", teen dating violence, and why women stay with an abusive partner.
The victims are blinded from the danger they are in because it is all they know in a relationship or feel it is their fault. Another reason victims do not leave their abusive spouse is fear (Rafenstein 6). The Article “How to Plan Escaping From An Abuser” says:
Women will continue to suffer from domestic violence unless there is some sort of intervention to help them. When dealing with this population, it is essential to create a safe environment where the woman can talk freely about the abuse without any retaliation from the abuser. When someone comes into a therapeutic session, everyone deserves to be treated with respect and care. This in turn will create a sense of hope that a different type of life can be possible. Also, knowing that there is a support system can help the woman begin the process of change. Despite this, the process of leaving the abusive partner is slow (Warshaw, n.d.)
Domestic violence can be categorized into different categories. Firstly, is physical violence. Physical violence is physical abuse whereby the abuser will hit, kick, burn, punch, slap, smack and perform any action using body or objects that will hurt and bruise the victim’s physical health. An example of physical abuse is severe burns on the body due to cigarette burns. Secondly is emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is just opposite of physical abuse because the abuser will use harsh, vulgar and negative words to emotionally abuse the victim. The implication of verbal abuse such as yelling, isolation, name-calling and shaming also falls in the same category of emotional abuse. For example, shouting out vulgar words is a form of emotional abuse. Emotional abuse can cause severe depression and also lack of confidence. Besides that, it can also cause decrease of self worth and independence. Thirdly is financial abuse whereby the abuser will financially torture their victims who are usually their spouse or...
Some women refuse to even believe that they are in an abusive relationship. In the book called “The Battered Women and Shelters: The social Construction of Wife Abuse”, the author defines domestic violence as “after a violent event, an abusive man might feel guilty, he might act loving, contrite, and charming to this victim, but wife abuse is about those events where he will return to his abusive behavior”(19) This author’s definition of domestic abuse also explains the reason on why a women might want to believe and hope that one day their abusive partner may get better and change. Unfortunately, the inflictors behavior changing from abusive to loving permanently is a very rare occurrence. Women should know if they are in an abusive relationship and should be able to reach out for help from friends and family or even professionals without any fear. There are many different hotlines or agencies that can help women get out of the miserable situations they are currently living in. Women should be able to rely on anyone to help them get out of the unfortunate situation they could be in. While trying to help women get out of abusive relationships and dangerous situations, we should also be enforcing support groups for abusers and trying to rectify the abusers instead of just blaming the victims for not being able to get out of the relationship fast
Life is filled with many difficulties which affect us all in one way or another. However, we do not all face the same difficulties. If we are to survive we need to first understand what these difficulties or problems are, in order to learn how to deal with them. One such problem is, is domestic violence. It is necessary to determine whether the problem is personal one or due to society (social problems), so that the individuals involved can learn how to deal with their situation.
Domestic violence is a behavioral trait used to establish power and control over a person; the abuser uses fear and intimidation through threats or the use of violence. Other terms for domestic violence include intimate partner violence, battering, relationship abuse, spousal abuse, or family violence. One in four women will experience some type of domestic violence in her lifetime and 4,744,000 women a year are victims to this physical violence (Erez, 2002). Out of all these physical attacks towards women only 25% are reported! When a women is physically harmed by an intimate partner they are known to think it is out of love
Other people often overlook domestic abuse. People generally do not like to get themselves involved in other people’s problems, especially when they believe there might be problems at home. For one reason or the other, the person who is the witness to someone who is being abused by their spouse does not want to report the crime, or get involved at all, because they are afraid something violent will happen to them for trying to help. Inside the relationship, there are many signs of the abuse. The biggest sign is that you completely fear your partner. Domestic abuse does not start the day that you meet your partner. It can start a week, month, or even years after.
There is no simple answer as to why domestic violence occurs (McCue 9). Domestic violence can transpire to anyone, yet the problem is over looked (“Abusive Relationships”). This is especially true when the abuse becomes psychological rather than physical (“Abusive Relationships”). When the abuse becomes emotional, it is minimized, but it can leave perdurable scars (“Abusive Relationships”).
When people think of domestic abuse they usually think about men abusing women but this is not always this case. While more women are abused than men, men can also be abused by women and they are. Domestic abuse is also not only about couples in relationships but can also include children. When a child is abused by their family it is also considered domestic abuse. Even if they are not directly abused, many abusers still attack their victims while the child is present and watching. There are much less options for children because they may not have easy access to computers and phones where they can find help and the adults that they should be able to trust are the ones that are abusing them. This can cause major psychological damage to the child and they can end up being the abusers when they get into
Most people in society are one sided when it comes to domestic violence. Most people automatically think domestic violence as men abusing women. Most people believe domestic violence is associated with gender. For instance, some people associate men with violent, destructive, and belligerent behavior. While women are often seen as innocent, fragile, and vulnerable. For many years men were the ones showing violent behavior, so most people believe men are usually the aggressor. Many people believe men should never abuse a woman, and if he does he will charged and most likely serve jail time. Although, women are not viewed the same way. Over the years women have become just as aggressive and violent as men have been portrayed. Many women who are violent are given a pass if they abuse a man. More simply, their behavior is overlooked, because they are not seen as a threat to society, so they will most likely not be jailed or punished for their behavior. In addition, there are many resources to help women get out of domestic violence situations. For instance, there are hotlines they can call, shelters they can visit, and support
Domestic violence is a serious problem, which occurs in many countries. In recent years, domestic violence or family violence has been recognized as a serious problem globally. Domestic violence is control by one partner over another in a dating, marital or live-in relationship. The means of control include physical, sexual, emotional and economic abuse, threats and isolation. Survivors face many obstacles in trying to end the abuse in their lives such as psychological and economic entrapment, physical isolation and lack of social support, religious and cultural values, fear of social judgment, threats and intimidation over custody or separation, immigration status or disabilities and lack of viable alternatives. Increased public, legal and
This is because the percent of those who are unaffected see this violence as a consequence of the decisions of the abused to stay with the abuser. The women are blamed (Halket). There are so many movies that make this abuse seem like a sick joke. The women (or whoever is being abused) is almost always portrayed as a person who is in-denial and overly connected to the person who hurts them, which is in fact true in some cases but obviously not all. Most cases deal with a person who is involved with a partner who threatens them or their own life if they try to leave, which makes the situation of abuse so much more complex because the victim is at a point of not knowing what to
As professional athletes remind us on a weekly basis, domestic violence is a social problem which continues to plague the nation. Through stricter law enforcement, improved hospital reporting techniques, and nationwide education and counseling, this problem can be reduced. Domestic violence has many different names such as, family violence, battering, wife beating, and domestic abuse. All these terms refer to the same thing, abuse by marital, common law, or a dating partner in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence is not limited to physical beating. It is any behavior that is intended to overpower and control another human being through the use of humiliation, fear, and physical or verbal assault. Domestic violence is a very important issue in today’s society because it has such a profound negative affect on the abused, mentally and physically. Verbal abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse. Verbal abuse is words that attack or injure an individual’s self-image, which eventually shatters one’s self-esteem. In this paper, I will discuss the many kinds of abuses against women, the reasons why women stay in these relationships, and possible solutions to diminish or reduce the problems of domestic violence.
A lack of emotional support may also be a reason to stay, women may need to go underground to flee their batterer. They may be required to re-locate, change their identity and their child's' identity, in the process they may lose contact with their families and thus lose support. A woman may love her partner. She remembers how he used to be, she thinks she can make it work. She believes that if she breaks up the family she has failed as a wife and as a mother. In some religions and cultures it is inconceivable for a woman to leave her husband.