Negative Aspects Of Fidelity

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While the dictionary defines fidelity “the act or fact of having romantic or sexual relationship with someone other than one’s husband, wife, or partner”; my definition would naturally be a bit different (Fidelity, n.d.). In my opinion, there are different types of cheating and is not limited to just a romantic or sexual relationship with another person. An article by Alyssa Siegel explained some types of cheating which I also agree with. There’s emotional fidelity which is when the partner finds someone else for the sensitive aspect of it when they should be sharing it with their actual partner. Physical which is obviously inherently sexual and can be considered as an affair (Alyssa Siegel, 2013). Having “open” relationships such has not having …show more content…

When you have a partner, they should be putting their whole trust and emotions in that relationship. When that does not occur, the relationship will fall apart since there is nothing being given to maintain it. Without the emotional connection between the two partners, one partner will feel neglected and lonely or feel anger due to not knowing what the other partner is feeling at that moment. This type of cheating may develop from a friendship which turns into a person you can “unload” to and has no role in the relationship. The physical aspect is the obvious sign of cheating since it is the act of the said partner seeking someone else to give them sexual satisfaction when their actual partner couldn’t. It could be due to sexual fantasies, stress in the relationships, or the understanding of their partnership between both of them wasn’t established at the start. Having physical attraction to someone else may occur and that’s normal, however, to act upon them when you are with someone else isn’t right and is cheating. In “open” relationships when boundaries aren’t directly established can cause problems of when “cheating” is considered actual fidelity. Some people prefer to be monogamous while others to be polygamous or just not non-monogamous in the general sense. An example of this could possibly be people who are “swingers” whom are allowed to freely experiment with sexual …show more content…

If it was emotional fidelity, I may consider start going to counseling. The reason why is because with emotional fidelity, that may signify an issue that needs to be raised and spoken about. To figure out why that said partner is emotionally detaching and how to fix it. With a counselor, there may be hope of fixing the relationship and figure out how to communicate better on an emotional level since that was the cause of fidelity. If it was the other two options: physical and open, I would leave them. If they act upon their sexual desires with someone else while being in a relationship with me, that says to me how much they do not value the partnership and I am unable to give them the sexual satisfaction they need in order to keep it going. It can be hard to keep each other sexual gratification but with clear communication and understanding, it is possible to make it work without any affairs and fidelity. I would not want to be in an open relationship because I would not want to risk the chance of our partnership falling apart due to being sexual with other people. I cannot imagine going to be with someone else purely for the sexual acts and go back home with my partner while being all right with it. My partner and I have to be fully committed to our partnership in all aspects. If my partner wanted to be in that type of relationship, I would leave

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