My Parents Got A Divorce

This research shows many different ways that emotional family transitions affect childhood behavior. The magnitude of difference between youth with no family transitions and those with many family transitions is amazing. One out of every two marriages today ends in divorce and many divorcing families include children. Parents who are getting a divorce are frequently worried about the effect the divorce will have on their children. During this difficult period, parents may be preoccupied with their own problems, but continue to be the most important people in their children's lives.

Dealing with conflicts between parents during divorce causes children to lose their sense of security. Children feel secure when they are with both of their parents. If this feeling of security is diminished, children will have a slight possibility of developing psychological disorders. Children with divorced parents tend to be alone or have fewer friends because of the separation of their parents. Divorce and separation are emotional processes in which the child is affected just as much as are the parents.

Often times though, he would blame his lack of involvement on his low self-esteem. He periodically would have some involvement such as times when my grandma would provide him money to take me for activities so he could get to know the girl I was becoming. However, I never received the same involvement from him, any time I began to self-disclose I would hit a brick wall. This would often resulting in me crying to someone, typically my mother or grandmother, about how upset it made me and further drove a wedge in our relationship because I never would talk to my dad about my frustrations with our relationship but rather other people. Because of the lack of involvement on his end it was very difficult to reach the intimacy stage, however with a little probing from my grandparents and my mother we slowly reached it around the time I was six or seven.

Many parents don’t think about a divorce will affect their young children as they grow older, but divorce affects children even into their adult lives. Children of divorce grow to develop negative relationships with their parents, they tend to have poor self-esteem, and they may even find themselves unable to maintain an intimate relationship in their adulthood. Divorce affects every child differently, but it can cause many social issues into their adult lives. Not having both parents in

The relationship between the child and the parent take a huge impact. Children in divorced families receive less emotional support, financial assistance, and practical help from their parents. Divorce, makes it harder for a child to trust their parents. Therapist Steven Earll states “For a child, divorce shatters this basic safety and belief concerning the parents’ ability to care for them and to make decisions that truly consider their well-being.” During the first year following the divorce, mothers tend to become less affectionate with their children. They often lack the communication that they once had with their child.

My father was our family’s problem. His presence made us all feel uneasy. I do not know what it was, but when I was a little girl, I feared my father. I feared being alone with him; I feared going out with him; I feared him. Around him I felt like I was imperfect because I thought he was perfection.

When it comes to living with divorced parents, it can be hard on children if their parents have different discipline rules and raise them differently than each other. A child who is living with non-biological parents, such as a step father or mother, is also more likely to suffer from physical and sexual abuse. Even though divorce seems like it will do nothing good towards children, there are parents who can still act civil towards each other and agree on certain things which ensures their children will generally be more happy. Throughout high school and elementary school, I have had many friends who have divorced parents and it has affected them positively and negatively. Sometimes when parents get divorced their children feel as if it was their fault and they wonder if they could have done anything to make their parents fall back in love again.

The effects that a problematic divorce may have on children are so strong that it follows them well into adulthood (Gruber). Children are not only affected emotionally but also mentally (Gruber). I speak from experience, having gone through a rough divorce when I was a child. From the arguments down the hall when they were together to having to choose which parent I would spend my birthday with, the stress of it never went away. As an adult now, I can say that on account of what I saw, heard, and went through during and after my parents’ divorce, there are still parts of my life that I struggle with.

This belief is misguided. Children who suffer through their parents’ divorce experience emotional and behavioral problems as well as “sleeper” effects that may break out later on in their lives. Since the 1970s, nearly a million children have been involved in a divorce each year (Zinsmeister 1). Parents believe that divorce is a solution to all of their problems. They think that separating, to stop all of the fighting, is best for everyone, including their children.

I stopped caring because I thought even if I did perfect in my classes, my parents would just brush it off like always. Being surrounded by drugs and keeping it a secret put a lot of unnecessary pressure on me, especially when I was asked what kind of job my parents had. We were on we...