The reason morality falls into play is because the child may feel that strict parenting is because the parents “hate” the child. Growing up, most children rebel against their authoritative parents while their brains are still developing. The only thing the parent can do is demonstrate to their children that their actions have repercussions. This may result in physical discipline for the child, or verbal discipline for the child. Typically a parent would not endure in such actions, but it varies from parent to parent.
Obviously you should not listen to your parents if they are telling you to do something that is dangerous or something that could harm you because they clearly don’t have your best interests in mind if they are asking you to do that. I know that this may seem like a no brainer to some people but not always. Some kids are trained to do everything that their parents tell them but when they aren’t really thinking of you it is more than ok but even good to disobey them. Your parents are supposed to help you through life and try to raise you as a good person but if they are intentionally telling you to get hurt they ar... ... middle of paper ... ...he situation as well as you and don’t understand the consequences. Obviously you should not listen to your parents if they are telling you to do something that is dangerous or something that could harm you because they clearly don’t have your best interests in mind if they are asking you to do that.
The results, as Amy Morin who is a psychotherapist says, “Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules much of the time. But, they may develop self-esteem problems” (Morin). In other words, the results of this parenting style cause children to lack in confidence as well as not being sure of their own decision-making skills. Neglectful parenting on the other hand is when the parents are not involved in the child's life. The parents take care of the child's basic needs of survive like food and shelter, but they don't comfort the child or try being in their lives.
Because of that, we always having problems when we get along with our family. It cause we lack of communication with our family. In the same time, if parents didn’t take into account the feeling of their children, they may easily lost the trust of their children and lead to disorient. In a democratic society, the emphasis is respect the rights of each person independently and it encourage children to express their own feeling. Because of that, children express their own opinion while they communicating with their parents, challenge the opinion which given by their parents since they are young.
A lot of the time parents are blamed by others for their child’s irresponsible actions, which then causes the parents to blame themselves. Children begin to make their own choices at a very early age, as they grow older the choices they make become more complex. Although parents can be very influential to a child, they cannot control the child’s mindset. The parenting techniques that parents use may play a small role in a child’s behavior, they do not create antisocial children. Parents need to stop blaming themselves whenever their children make bad choices because it is the child himself that makes that decision, not the parents.
Parents still have expectations about their children, but understand that they ... ... middle of paper ... ...esistant to rules set by strict teachers. Because I didn’t grow up with rules, I didn’t understand or respect the purpose of these regulations. To me it all seemed gratuitous. As a reaction to my teenage rebellion, my parents attempted to lay down some rules. By this time though, it was too-little-too-late.
These are strict parents, who know what the child is doing at any moment and who don’t allow kids to make decisions independently. Strictness is manifested in the number of things that the children are allowed to do. Often, these kids are not allowed to play with other kids or visit them at home; they can’t take part in social activities and so on. Such attitude and parenting leave child very intimidated and restricted; he/she doesn’t know how to be independent, hasn’t developed individualism, is awkward with other people and has a hard time developing relationships. Some of the kids stay this way forever and others become very angry at their parents for not allowing them to have a childhood and making decisions.
Healthy family relationships depend on healthy communications. “Good communication helps keep a family running smoothly and prevents misunderstandings from escalating into conflict or from being buried unresolved.” (Feiden, 68) There are many ways and times to practice and teach good communication to children. There are many times that without good communication, the parent-child relationship suffers and sometimes ends abruptly. Allen Schwartz, PH.D., states that he knows of “many cases where children are raised in an atmosphere of dark secrecy about both the matriarchal and patriarchal parts of their families. They grow up with a sense that something must be wrong but fear discussing this with their parents.” (5) Most people have grown up with family secrets, but some secrets can destroy a family.
This may lead to secrets from parents, rebellion, and emotional distress. No matter how this problem is approached, the effects are s... ... middle of paper ... ...e little or no communication with their ex so the child is burdened with two households with different rules and expectations (Zinsmeister). While the parents may not agree on much, they will need to decide and implement a solid and effective parenting style and rules. The divorce of their parents may not be the most damaging thing that can happen in a child’s life, but it will affect them for the rest of their life. The child will experience emotional shake ups, confusion of what is occurring, and hurt feelings that their parents decided not to remain married anymore.
Considering that not all parents are as receptive as others are, one must handle each conversation pertaining to this subject very carefully. Some people may experience some or all the problems listed above. One certainty is that not all of the solutions will work for everyone. It is human nature to want to belong to ones own kind of people, but it is also an obligation on every ones part to educate our young ones so that one day we may end the fear of interracial relationships.