My Father's Parenting Style

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Antonio knows that not finishing school was a large barrier for him thus he does not want his children to suffer the way he did by having numerous, low paying jobs he disliked. Isabella believed that her father’s reason for his parental style was, “because that was how he was raised and he wanted me to follow in his positive footsteps.” However, Isabella points out that she feels like her father’s parenting style gets in the way of her goals when he attempts to imply his cultural believes. Isabella explains, “My dad would not allow me to take extra classes after school or join sports, so when it came time to apply to colleges I was unable to stand out in my application.” She explains it is because of Antonio’s lack of schooling which prohibits …show more content…

This is because he thought me how to be strict with myself in which if I say I’m going to do something I actually follow all the way through till I finish.” The idea to be strict with oneself and not get carried away with things like drugs or gangs is the part where having a strict parent comes in handy. Sticking to something and going all the way through with it is also important and a skill that is needed especially in the human biology field that Isabella has decided to enter. Like any goal there will be obstacles faced but for the most part Isabella thinks her father did an awesome job and showing her how to fight for what she want and believes is right for …show more content…

I wanted to understand the effect of Patty’s mothers parenting style so I asked her to describe her behavior out of home and inside. Patty replied, “I think my behavior outside my house would be pretty much the same as my behavior inside. I am not a crazy person that has a whole different side to them that my parents do not know about. I am pretty chill, maybe when I’m with friends I say more jokes, but other than that pretty much the same.” Compared to Isabella, Patty is aware that her attitude inside and outside her home is the same. Patty is in an environment where she feels confortable enough to act the same with her friends and parents, which demonstrate that her parents are more lenient than Isabella’s. The ability to act the same in both setting allows us to see that Patty was able to express herself freely. Her mother has allowed her to raise her voice when she feels attacked and demonstrate her emotions without being sacred. Similarly to Alexander in Annette Lareau’s article where Alexander is encouraged to question those in authority and letting his voice be heard (Lareau 2013, 110). This action seems to be

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