The short story “I Stand Here Ironing” by Tillie Olsen is an example of a mother daughter struggle. From what I took from the story, the young mom herself had an extremely rough life. She had her daughter Emily at a young age and it did not end up picture perfect like she might have thought it would. Her mother had to work to support them, so she always sent Emily off to be cared by others. Sometimes she was sent far away and for a long period of time.
The adults we see now that are happy and succeeding in life may have not always been happy growing up, some go through some pretty traumatic events at a young age with either seeing someone they knew be abused or die. Not only that but some grow up with rough parents that were not supportive and were often neglected by the parents. In the book God Help the Child by Toni Morrison, the main character Bride grew up with a tough mother, sweetness. Sweetness gave her a hard time from the day she was born about the way she looked, her skin color, and always questioned her appearance on why she was so different. As well as her husband, Booker who went through a lot of trauma as a child, teen, and even an adult.
During her tough journey through life, Cheryl has truly found herself and becomes the person she knows her mother raised. Cheryl’s journey in life started with struggles at a very young age. From the time she was very young, her parents had a very violent relationship that resulted in her father leaving. In many cases this would be acknowledged as a good thing, and I’m not disagreeing, but that hardship of losing your own father is also a tragedy to deal with. Many times, parental issues lead to children pulling away or rebelling, but Cheryl never did.
Similarly to how Braden was raised, the mother was extremely responsive to Owen’s every needed. I dreaded looking after Owen. Owen was extremely attached to his mother and lacked the ability to self-regulate. When I looked after him, he would be content for approximately 20 minutes but would then look for his mother. I chased him up stairs several times because he wanted to be with his mom.
My friend Sarah although not as close, we were in class together and I would say morning to her everyday. She was having family issues that were outside and the parents were fighting over the fact of them leaving to help the grandparents and did not have the money too. Being an only child like me she thought that everything was about her and what she said was the way things went. When I tried to say morning to her she was quiet to herself and if had the chance avoided everyone. One day she blew up, blaming her parents about how everything was falling.
These early years are the most crucial times in a child’s life, the years that attachment and bonding happen. Emily’s not being able to live with her mother inevitably limited these connections from forming. Emily’s mother recalls a time having to leave her with a sitter while she went to work and when she returned from work; the response was crushing, “when she saw me, she would break into a clogged weeping,” (Olsen). Clogged acts as the visual word here. Emily was unable to cry the tears she should have cri... ... middle of paper ... ...ving to raise a child on her own was not the life she had imagined.
Even though it is important for both parents to be present in a child’s life, if a parent is participating in deviant behavior, then sometimes it is best for the child to be raised by one parent. The slightest dysfunction in a family structure can be detrimental to a child’s development. Children often act out and take part in delinquent activities. In order to increase a child’s chance to succeed in life, they must be raised in a stable environment involving two parents. This helps them to feel included in the family and will help build their confidence and independence later in life.
The War had an effect on all different women. They went from having someone bring home what they needed and taking care of them, to being alone, forced to support themselves and their families. This drove them to a point that they never thought they would be at. Because of all the stress they were under, women started to eventually demand that their husbands come home because they couldn’t deal with the endless amounts of work all the time. When they realized that wasn’t possible, they dealt with the work and became tougher and more determined.
When I was young, my father walked out on my mom. It was difficult not having my father be a part of my life, but I could only imagine how difficult it must have been for my mother. Growing up I did not see much of my mom because she was working most of the time. I spent most of my childhood with my grandmother, and in my eyes, she became my second mom. After long hours of work, my mom always made time for me.
My mother was a stay at home mom, and started to undergo physical and physiological trauma from the abusive relationship she was in. This took a toll within the household, not knowing when my mother would randomly start crying, or my father’s temper outbursts where he fought and threw things. At the time, I of course had no idea the extent of the abuse within the home, but always knew that my family was not like the other’s children were in. I latched onto my mother and sister, wanted to strive to be them, impress them, and protect them. We all latched onto each other as our mother pitted us against our