In the beginning, both the narrator and her mother had a delightful time spending time together, trying to figure out the narrator’s talent. Although the narrator soon began to dislike all the test and activities her mother would put her through. After failing each of the tests she was given she would see the disappointment on her mother’s face and “something inside me began to die” (Tan, 96). While the narrator refused her mother by saying that she was not a genius her mother replied by saying “who ask you to be genius? Only ask you be your best.
This past comes back to Jing-Mei when her mother dies and Jing-Mei begins to understand how hard it is to let go of the people you love, which makes her become more open, understanding and mature. She lost a mother she got to share her life with, but like her half sisters, they didn't understand their mother until she was gone to share the experience of being reunited. In a sense, her spirit was there to capture their happiness of finally meeting one another. Although Waverly Jong is perceived in being an intelligent, ambitious, proud, and arrogant, she is constantly struggling with everything that happens in her life. Her unwillingness to adapt to change becomes a major conflict.
Emily has hopes of becoming a comedic actress and making her own path through life; however, this is very unlikely and she will most probably turn out like her mother. Her mother even doubts her, claiming she “has much to her and probably little will come of it” (Olsen 298). Despite Emily’s enormous potential and talent as an actress, the world rarely accepts female actresses or comedians because they believe women are meant to care for children. Society is able to prevent many young women from determining their own fate because traditional motherhood is self perpetuating, meaning children are taught the same gender roles that their parents are taught. Emily is taught that women stay in the house and iron; she is not encouraged enough by her mother early on.
Even though all of the women did not know each other until they met in America, they all share the same horrible memories of their past. The book mainly focuses on the expectations, hopes, and dreams that the women and their daughters have for themselves. Even though at the beginning the mothers and the daughters do not always see eye to eye at the end the daughters start to realize that their mothers just wanted the best for them and not the worst, "The mothers see themselves in the daughters."(Matthews). The relationship between Suyuan and Jing-mei is somewhat difficult because they are both coming from two different cultures that are completely opposite of one another. Suyuan is trying to teach Jing-mei the Chinese culture when all Jing-mei sees is the American culture, that is on television and all around her.
Jing-mei was trying her best on everything her mom asked her to do. She never thought about how much having a talent can make someone so upset when you end up falling. In the story, Jing-mei stated “In fact the beginning, I was just as excited as my mother, maybe even more so” (Tan 221). Jing-mei was happy when her mom wanted her to do the prodigy when it first started. Then when she started having all the yelling from her mom when she did not do something right she was not feeling the fun.
Amy Tan thoroughly defines this issue with her characters in The Joy Luck Club. Through the context and analyzation of “Half and Half”, “Two Kinds”, and “Four Directions”, Amy explicitly develops the theme that mothers care more for their daughters than they realize. While Rose believes that her mother doesn’t understand her convoluting situation, she later discovers that An-Mei affectionately loves her children and believes they can achieve anything that they put their minds into.The chapter, “Half and Half”, starts off with a brief background between Rose and Ted’s intricate divorce. As Rose assumes that An-Mei is still dubious about Rose’s problematic marriage, she believes that her mother still denies the fact that she is getting a divorce with the man she used to consider as her destined soul mate, even though she isn’t. Rose complains about her mother’s presumable repudiation of her annulment by saying, “When I tell her, I know she’s going to say, ‘This cannot be.’ And when I say that it is certainly true, that our marriage is over, I know what else she will say: ‘Then you... ... middle of paper ... ...ries of Rose, Jing-Mei, and Waverly, Amy Tan reveals the message that many mothers’ intentions that demonstrate affection aren’t fully recognized by their daughters.
Because of the world around and the decisions made by her mother, she will not have the opportunity to become more. However, to her mother she is perfect the way she is. She feels she has failed her in a way “my wisdom came too late, she has much to her and probably little will come of it.” (Olsen) Her mother doesn’t want her to settle, “help her to know that she is more than this dress on the ironing board.” (Olsen) She wants better for Emily; she does not have to conform to the world around her.
The daughters are noted to feel equivalent to a failure in their mothers’ eyes, but this is only due to the lack of communication between them. In The Joy Luck Club, generational roles that women play help establish the pattern of relationships between a mother and a daughter. To explain the relationship, this book is divided into mother stories in the first two halves and daughter stories in the last two halves while Amy Chua models her book in chronological order of occurrences. In the end of it all, mothers and daughters learn to accept each other for what they are.
Joy Luck Club The stories of Suyuan and Jing-Mei Woo reveal some of Amy Tan's main themes in the novel. One important theme is that we must get to know and understand our parents in order to fully understand ourselves. June spends the first half of her life believing that she is a disappointment to her mother and has been unsuccessful in life. However, when she learns more about her mother's past and discovers that her mother is proud of her good heart and concern for others, she realizes that she has accomplished something by doing small things to the best of her ability. She learns that one does not have to be famous, or a genius, or greatly wealthy in order to be successful.
Each daughter knows her mother means well, but this does not make the battles any easier. Through careful details Amy Tan shows readers the significance of each of the four mother-daughter relationships in the novel, how each daughter is slowly but surely becoming her mother. Even though Suyuan Woo is not alive her story is told through her daughter, Jing-mei “June” Woo. In the beginning of the novel readers witness June realizing how little she really knows about her mother and her heritage when she joins the other members of the club her mother founded called Joy Luck. Jing-mei struggles with the division between who she is and who her mother wants her to be.