Penny's life was a struggle ever since the tragedy of losing her daughter. In explaining the reason for not being able to let it go after such a long time, she mentioned how she felt responsible for horrible death. After a few meetings of therapy Penny came to realize that her daughter was not coming back, and she began to deal with the real issues that were causing her so much pain. She told Dr. Yalom that the way she handled her daughter's death made her feel extremely guilty. So guilty that she couldn't even remember the actual dying process tha... ... middle of paper ... ....
Beatrice murdering her husband didn’t come out of nowhere like her children thought— it was due to built-up tension, pressure, and abuse until she finally snapped. She couldn’t withstand being a bystander— to her the only way to preserve her status and her children’s lives was to murder her husband. Beatrice clearly displays symptoms of battered woman syndrome, however, some of these symptoms are congruent with post-traumatic stress disorder, such as emotional detachment to life at the end of the novel. Kambili uses words such as “vacuously” (302), to describe her mother. According to her daughter, her mother doesn’t, “ reply to her[Sisi], Mama simply sat and stared” (298).
I was torn by Harry’s negative thoughts. Harry (2010) states, “You are beautiful, but if you’re going to hang around and give me trouble, I’d rather you died (p. 4). In addition, she did not see her daughter for the first 24 hours! A mother’s love for her daughter should always be unconditional. Riding along Harry’s roller coaster of emotions, I was sad and mad at first but then I became understanding of her feelings.
Working with a client to bring down their resistance is a great way to connect with the client, so if they put a wall back up, we should keep pushing the clients to work through their problems. If a therapist moves to fast yes, we should slow down, but as a therapist, we should continue to move forward. If a client asks me personal questions that are relevant to the topic, I do not see a reason why I cannot answer the questions. If we want our clients to open up to us we have to be able to share parts of our lives with them is need be. I agree with the therapist that cares little for the DSM lV.
When Branda was ten one of her best, friends committed suicide because he felt as though no one cared. Again, at age fifteen another of her friends committed suicide after being bullied at school. Branda had a difficult time dealing with the pain that she felt from the loss and she was hospitalized for eight days. At nineteen, her family was forced to move in with her grandmother whom she does not get along with. When Branda began using drugs at nineteen her family attempted to help her.
Poor Emily received little attention when attention was needed, allowing us to condemn the mother for her actions. At the same time we understand her because in the past 19 years there were certain situations that they endured where she had no control, leaving her helpless. What we see in the mother from the beginning is guilt, guilt about neglecting Emily. After a concerned phone call about her daughter, anger caused by guilt buried within herself emerges “who needs help…you think because i am her mother I have a key...there is all that life that has happened outside of me, beyond me.” The mother is defensive and outraged about this phone call at first but shortly after we see the guilt. We find ourselves asking why does she act this way and how is guilt associated with the way she acted?
On top of that, she despised her mother. With her mother starting to think Esther was insane, their relationship started to go downhill as Esther became worse. Her other relationship with Buddy went downhill too. For many years before they dated she dreamed of Buddy. Once they were finally together, Esther soon found out he was a major hypocrite.
The daughter was very hurt and upset because she didn’t know who her father was and why he would leave her. Both families worked to cheer her up but it was only successful when she sat down with her own mother. While others can take the role of family members I think it’s important to have that connect with your blood related family. Those members are the ones that will be able to be there to fix the issues you maybe
Dedé primarily speaks of the good times and what made each sister so unique, but later in the story she gets caught in the bad times. She speaks of her regret in not following in her sisters’ footsteps by asking herself “Why? Why didn’t she go along with her sisters. She could have started a new life” but goes on to remind herself that she “had been ready to risk her life” but not her marriage (177). She also justifies this reasoning earlier by stating “we women followed our husbands… I followed my husband” however her regret for not following her sisters comes back as she questions her actions from decades ago.
Her unwillingness to adapt to change becomes a major conflict. "Bite back your tongue"(89) her mother's harshness on her while growing up may have caused her lack of self-confidence foiled but assurance. Not only that caused her to resent her mother but the way she introduced her to perfect strangers, "This is my daughter Waver-ly Jong"(101) just to tell people or make reference to the TIME article on Waverly cause her to become upset.