While sober, he continues to be painfully aware of how much he has hurt others by using, especially his mom. "Sometimes I think she would just prefer it if I was gone completely, so she wouldn't have to deal with me and so her children would be safe. It hurts my feelings, but I don't blame her. I know what I've done." (197, Sheff) Nic's parents feel like they can't trust him after all the lying, cheating and stealing he has done while under the influence of drugs.
Ben lied to her over and over and even stole from her. On several occasions she would call his parents crying because the situation was too overwhelming. After she realised just how dependant and unwilling to quit Ben was, she eventually left him which caused him to sink even deeper into his
He would be a treated very fragile wise by his teachers. He also was a very doubt full person. When it came to his brother’s death, he would wish that he could have done something different. Con would go through the whole scene in his head over and over again pondering on what he could have done right. He also feels isolated from his mother.
Because of the lack of involvement on his end it was very difficult to reach the intimacy stage, however with a little probing from my grandparents and my mother we slowly reached it around the time I was six or seven. We began social bonding, we would go out to movies and he often times ... ... middle of paper ... ...rs I would never self-disclose to my dad and he would find out from other people important information and events occurring in my life, which often hurt or upset him. So, in this case my self-esteem issues as well as his caused major problems within our relationship. As seen through my analysis, my relationship with my dad over the years has not been an easy one. We have both faced personal issues with self-esteem that has affected the relationship, listening barriers that have caused communicate issues rather than facilitate them.
He would often walk out on us without any warning and return at any time. I did not understand, especially as a child, how significant of an impact his vanishing act would bestow upon me. I grew to be distrusting of others, because if my dad would let me down, then so would everyone else. I became bitter at the world and everyone it encompassed. I blamed my father’s mistakes on the world and believed that the world’s influence made my father do drugs, prefer all of the other women to my mom, and spend more time in jail than he did in his own home.
Her crave for attention was the fuel for her desire to make Julie sick. A parent is also more likely to mistreat their children if their spouse has very little, or no, input in the family’s activities which leaves it to the abusive parent to control everything. In another situation where family relationships could be an issue, a woman named “Shannon Hudson had been trying to break up with the boys’ [her sons’ abusive] father when he shot her three times. Then shot himself” (Burling A1+). The abuses that lead up to the husband getting angry and frustrated with his wife caused the violent act that was a result of their relationship failure.
These depressive symptoms led to Charlie having a mental breakdown. Charlie assumed that the death of his Aunt Helen was his responsibility and constantly replayed the night of her death in his mind. After his best friend passed away, Charlie had a hard time of searching for his sense “to be” because he kept repressing everything that was a constant reminder of his pain. Charlie tried to join his sister’s clique, but that did not work because they thought of him being another person and not as a friend. He tried to please everyone, but when he did not succeed, he would blame himself.
His father ended up leaving the family, but his affect on Kuklinski was already set. His father was partly to blame for being apart of the slim population with both antisocial personality disorder and paranoid personality disorder. He got antisocial personality disorder through his genes, but his experiences as a child only increased the symptoms. This is what caused him to be unable to feel nervous or guilt. Having paranoid personality disorder is why Kuklinski was unable to trust anyone, and unable to let his grudges go.
Firstly, his parents divorced in 1990. He was depressed, but as the eldest son, he learnt to be independent and hide his feeling from others, which later turned out to have high self management skills. The relationship with mothers and fathers are equally important in building attachment. However, divorce of parents made him blaming his parents, which made him lose all trust of his parents and the opinions from them (Lee, 2007). On the other hand, his ego personality had led to the lack of friendship so no one knew his plans and could not stop him.
But since the fire, Arnold has carried guilt on his soul, and was using alcohol to suppress the memory, he would constantly intoxicate himself. But as the years grow on, he begins to abuse his family. He runs from the problem, and leaves Victor behind. Since this day, Victor has been mean, and not respectful. The only person he was nice to was his mother.