Introduction
Communication plays a huge role in our society. It allows us to not only get others to understand us, but to understand others as well. While each individual’s ability to communicate and use language is partially based on our families as well as the environment that we grow up in there is a more fundamental aspect to ourselves that impacts how we communicate and use language, our gender. Both men and women communicate differently, these differences can be seen both in our personal and professional lives. It is important for us to understand how we communicate with each other in order to find success.
Man
Short, Sweet, and to the Point
Ever heard the phrase “short, sweet, and to the point.”? Men typically avoid using language as an outlet for emotion. The results are what many would expect, a short conversation that will end with similar results as a long drawn out conversation. Men take the “fluff” out of a conversation and condense it down as much as possible. Typically you will find that men like to use action to show their emotion, making the need for a lot of words less. The communication is still there, but it is in a different form. A man who has a lot of things on his mind may choose to take a jog or another physical activity to work through his thoughts, whereas a woman will likely chose to sit down and talk through what they are thinking about. You’ll find that men communicate as many would consider more efficiently than women, but this may not always be true.
How should you Approach a Man
When talking to a man be prepared to get right to the point. The idea is that the conversation focuses on the main aspects without a lot of extra conversation that may be perceived as unnecessary. Focus on the topic at...
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... that our messages have on one another. To hold the attention of men you need to limit the amount of communication that you're doing. The message that you convey should be short, sweet, and to the point. Whereas women prefer to hear all of the details to better understand what is being communicated. Neither communication preference is right or wrong nor is there a line drawn in the sand stating ALL men must communicate on way as well as ALL women must communicate another way, but a better understanding allows us to find a cohesive way to communicate at home and at work.
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