As the world grows, society is constantly changing people and their beliefs become more accustomed to what was unfamiliar in the past. There were times when old opinions and views clashed with the new, even amongst loved ones. In “Say Yes” by Tobias Wolff, two different views on marriage come to light between husband and wife during a usually insignificant evening at home. Aside from the subject of the argument, the husband’s perspective on his treatment towards his wife portray what their society’s expectations of a man and woman roles were. The contrast between this married couple depicts a few of many controversial issues society has had to approach and eventually “Say Yes” to. Once the wife realized how little her husband knew about her, she slowly creates a distance between them and she doesn 't cooperate with him like he wants and expects her to do.
Marriage was very different in the 1400s than it is today. In the 21st century, it is hard to comprehend what kind of marriage traditions they had in the 15th century. While many people toady marry for love, in the Renaissance Era, marriages were primarily arranged by the families. In addition, when a couple did marry the ceremonies and customs were also very different.
When most people think about marriages they usually think about two people that have decided to take the next step in their relationship by promising each other to love and be faithful to one another until death separates them. That wasn’t how it always was and you’ll find the differences and similarities between marriages now and then quite surprising. Back then a marriage had nothing to do with the union of two people that were in love but with the outcome of this union and weather you’ll be able to benefit from this. In many cases now people have the choice to marry whomever they please and manage their marriage however they want to as well, which is a great change. If more people new how marriages were dealt with back then they will surely appreciate the great privilege they have on making their own decisions. Although here in the United States and in other countries people are allowed to make their own decisions on how to manage their marriage which in other countries they don’t allow this and they have kept their traditions.
According to Stephanie coontz Chapter 17"How the Transformation of Marriage is Changing our lives", in an attempt to point out the change gender role in marriage and cohabitation in the society in the 21st century, it is actually does by strengthening gender roles, rather than destroy them in just the opposite. Although she correctly pointed out that a successful marriage in today's world has greatly changed, there have to consider many factors in the 1950s, she is still perhaps the subconscious mind, insist on some patriarchal stereotypes. She is not completely able to break free of the socialization that every mind goes through while growing up. In this paper, I will try to analysis the assumption of stereotypes gender and and biases present in the study through the analysis of the language used and suggest how a more holistic idea and the marriage is more comprehensive idea is to better the status of men and women in society.
Compare and contrast the variety of attitudes to marriage as expressed
by different characters in Pride and Prejudice.
Pride and Prejudice is one of the most famous novels in the history of
English Literature. Written in the year of 1813 by the very well known
author, Jane Austen, whose novels all examine the nature of love. The
general tone of the novel is light, but serious.
Pride and Prejudice is a story that focuses on the life of marriage,
it is full of love.
When someone thinks about marriage, they imagine a big elaborate party with the bride wearing a white and the groom wear a classic tux. However, around the world this is not the norm for a wedding ceremony. Marriage is much more than just a party and a happy memory; it is a life-long partnership to someone that holds the heart one conceals. In today's society, weddings and marriage do not hold the same significance they once did. Back in the earlier centuries, people regarded marriage is a vow for life, no matter what happened during a marriage, it was the spouse’s duty to make it better and work it out. Back in ancient times, kings and queens would marry their cousins, etc. in order to preserve the bloodline. An example of this is Cleopatra; she married her two brothers to preserve the bloodline of her family. Other uses of marriage in the past were to enforce a union between two countries such as the story of Marie Antoinette and Louis XVI. Different cultures view marriage as completely different ceremonies. In class, we discussed many marriage ceremonies held in Africa as well as Egypt. Marriage has a meaning all over the world.
An institutional approach to marriage provides more security
“‘Til death do us part,” a vow couples often make as they begin their lifelong journey, is telling of the predicted longevity of their commitment. However, many do not approach marriage with a mindset that will increase their odd of marital success. Some approach marriage looking for a soulmate, while others approach marriage looking for a partner that will support as well as a person to be with for the rest of their lives. Although the two can overlap sometimes, one yields better results than the other.
As long as I have known about the practice of marriage, I have also known about the traditional roles associated with marriage. I grew up aware of the belief that woman are usually the domesticated ones, staying home to raise children and tend to the house. While men were known as the providers, going off to work most of the day to take care of the family. This is the type of dynamic I grew up in for most of my life. That all changed once I was an adult, and my father could no longer work his job. My mother went back to school, and eventually back to a fulltime job. My father took over most of her home responsibilities and anything else that needed to be done around the house. Seeing a marriage flip a hundred and eight degrees from traditional to modern definitely changed my views on the subject. I don’t believe that
Should all marriages be based off of traditional marriages? Many people say that in marriages, men are usually the head of the house which is true. But in some cases women have to overrule men because some men are not in their right mind to have authority. Three reasons on why couples should be in traditional marriages are: Men should have the authority, Women should have the authority in certain occasions, and Men and Women should have equal responsibilities and labor in a relationship.
Marriage as an Outdated Institution
Marriage is a bond between two people. Whether the two people enter
into this institution because they are in love or because of other
reasons, it has always been and still is a challenge. Both individuals
carry an enormous amount of responsibility in a marriage. However, for
all the bad times such as money and family troubles or even more
serious incidents of infidelity, there are good times that can also be
recalled. These joyous times are what successful relationships thrive