The Effects of Divorce on Children Throughout time, people from all over the world have chosen to live together, or “get married”. Marriage is a beautiful thing, but there are some couples who are unable to maintain their relationships, because they choose divorce as a solution to cope with the problems between husband and wife. For a child, it is very difficult to live only with one of his or her parents. Children often cannot adjust well during the divorce of parents because the change can be devastating for them. Although divorce can be a solution to cope with problems between husbands and wives, it may often still have dangerous effects, especially on children.
A lot of parents become very selfish when dealing with divorce and sometimes that can be a good and a bad thing. When you have children it can be a bad thing because parents should do what is best for the children. For example, if a parent is going through physical abuse from the other parent, then that is a major sign that the parent should leave. It will be hard for the child at first, but the parent knows it will be a better outcome. According to Davis (2011), divorce has helped women and children through obstacles like neglect.
It provides the overall understanding of how divorce affects children. When evaluating policy alternatives aimed at improving the well-being of children, the above listed factors need to be considered which has been clearly stated in this article. It is a descriptive article which provides the general view of how divorce lower children’s well-being. Though it has successfully mentioned the important impacts of divorce on children’s wellbeing, but it couldn’t include the other factors which the children need to face in the separation of their parents. They need to face all the queries of society and their friends, regarding the cause of their parents’ divorce due to which they might feel depressed and isolated which has been neglected by this article.
When divorce will affect a child the most is when they are in a serious relationship, they will start to think that it will fail or they will eventually separate. The children will second guess getting married and start to fear the thought of marriage. This is a social issue because their are more people getting divorced, which could cause the marriage rate to go down due to children from divorced parents having issues with marriage. Divorce can cause a weakness in the parent-children relationship. It will cause the children to not be as close to their parents as they once were, because they are angry at their parents for getting the divorce.
The Effects of Divorce on the Children I decided to write on the effects of divorce on children because it touches home with not only me but for many children in the world today. Divorce can have a positive effect or it can have a negative effect on your children.In most case when the parents decide that there is no reconciliation but to separate they do not take into consideration the effect that it may have on the children. There is a sense of uncertainty and fear for the unknown circumstances and the children fear the outcome. They tend to blame themselves for the separation and the arguments of their parents. They also, develop resentment towards one of the parents and in some cases they resent them both because they do not know who to blame.
Research has been done and the effects of divorce differ depending on the current age and stage of life of the children. (Oesterreich) Regardless of the age, many children feels as if somehow the divorce was their fault. Also hoping to save the marriage, some kids strive to improve their behavior. Another commonality of children dealing with divorce is that of rebellion. One might lose respect for either one or both of their parents, acquire a hatred or disliking towards them or, act out to get attention, having not had any, due to the significance of the divorce.
The change the parents do can make a big difference in the children’s life. The parents can communicate with them and also non-verbal actions to help them after the divorce. The child’s age, sex, psychological health, and maturity are other changes that might affect the children with the divorce. According to many studies, the divorce of parents is like losing a parent to death. The divorce can cause problems in the child’s future relationships.
All marriages have their ups and downs, but raising children in an unhappy home can negatively affect their well-being. Because unhappy parents tend to argue quite often, children may start to feel emotionally traumatized. With that being said, divorce should be an option. Children who are raised with unhappy argumental parents are more likely to suffer from depression, anxiety, and emotional issues. When it comes to living with divorced parents, it can be hard on children if their parents have different discipline rules and raise them differently than each other.
Although divorce can be solution to cope with problem between the husband and wife, it still has dangerous effects especially on children. Children with divorced parents are vulnerable to risk. Divorce affects their entire lives. Divorce of parents lead children to have problems in their lives particularly in education, resources, behaviors, emotion, and health. A divorce of parents can lead children to have loss of knowledge, skills, and resources from parents.
This significant shift in lifestyle can cause many effects on various age groups of people. When a married couple is miserable and unhappy, considering divorce seems like the only answer. Some parents do not consider how much the divorce will affect their lives, along with the lives of their children. When a married couple gets divorced, children in the family have trust issues, teens become rebellious, and the couple themselves often go into severe depression or sadness. Effects on Adults The lives of adults who go through a divorce are changed forever.