The Toxic Culture of Masculinity This paper will detail the toxic effects that were caused by the hypermasculine attitude our culture has created. It will prove that glorification of masculinity encourages abuse, violence, and gender roles. What do most people think when they hear the phrase “be a man”? They probably think to toughen up and suppress their emotions, because everyone knows men don’t cry. In our society, traditional masculinity is characterized by violence, danger, promiscuity, and a lack of emotions.
There is a general expectation around the behavioural traits expected in gay men; they’re weak, delicate, stylish, and associate themselves more so with women (Engle, 2017). This expectation is harmful, as closeted gay men may want to avoid the gain of this stereotype in avoidance of being told ‘you don’t act gay’ as if it’s an accomplishment. The Journal of Gay & Lesbian Mental Health also saw gay men resenting the ‘gay friend’ label, as if their sexuality was used for personal gain rather than pure friendship. These negative microaggressions can lead to the individual ‘lashing out’. Michael Eagles, a long-term Truckee and openly gay man, faced extreme homophobia and threats from one of his colleagues.
The pressures are so high that if men do not follow these pressures lead them to become outcasts within peers and even their family. I applaud the people in NOMAS that are able to stand out and expand men’s awareness of sexism. Some of their goals are “To sponsor workshops to expand men’s ... ... middle of paper ... ...en in the media is men acting aggressive. This aggression is a common stereotype in that men are aggressive; this stereotype partly has truth to it because the media has such an influence on people. Tough Guise 2 portrays this that boys are taught from a young age how to act such as not showing emotions except for anger.
Male’s naturally become responsible in keeping their peers in check with the strict expectations of masculinity. This is achieved when using such terms like “mama’s boy”, “bitch”, or “faggot”, against a male who acts in a way that is seen to be “un-masculine”. Therefore, it becomes clear that a brutal cycle does exist. Men are consumed with what a “real” man is. They truly believe this criteria is correct and feel that they have to live by it in order to be manly.
However the violation of gender ideology might have negative consequences (Striepe and Tolman, 2013). Male gender role conflict, the social construction of masculinity, and the gender social norms encourage men to suppress healthy attitudes and behaviors that are believed to be contradictory to the norm (Harris, 2008). The traditional masculinity ideology and lack of reference group identify, lack of relatedness and connection with other male, are related to lower quality romantic relationship for every male (Wade and Donis, 2007). Masculinity contributes to sexual prejudice against gay men because of the strong pressure for men to conform to traditional masculine norms (Mellinger and Levant, 2014). One way for men to earn credibility among other men is through conforming stereotypical expectations when performing masculinity (Harris 2008).
If men go against the common standards they risk losing their identity as men. Those who choose to not follow these social norms are seen as a threat by those who are clinging to them. Gay men, for example often choose to stray from these norms. Zeilinger brings up a story of a friend who is gay and must overcome “male and female stigmas”. He often feels displaced as he does not fit in the realm of male or female roles.
This continued inequality and injustice toward the male gender and their descriptive traits is unfair and promotes more feelings of seclusion and isolation in young men in boys and thusly a deeper fall into the “man box”. (Thompkins-Jones 1). Masculinity as anything in this world is only as bad and can only affect as much as you let it. If the world continues to shine men and masculinity in this negative light as they have so well been doing then not only will billions of people feel out of place and ostracized but also shamed into thinking that them being themselves is the worst thing they can do. I hope you do not contribute to this
Males are known to look for trouble, they don’t know why they do it, but it feels right when they do it because it 's the only way they can “earn” respect from friends and outsiders. Every male feels they deserve respect, they will try to get it no matter what, “Respect is linked to violence,” Dr. Marshal stated in the video “The Mask You Live in.” Males are aggressive, it’s like a special trait they’re known to have. IF violence I the only way they can get respect, then that’s what is indeed to happen. Males mask their feelings, and push everything out with actions.
As Allan Johnson states this is related to the fact that “male dominance creates power differences between men and women” (248). So because of the fact that men hold positions of power they seem more superior to women creating these stereotypes about each gender. The reason this is importa... ... middle of paper ... ...n though domestic violence is frowned upon men use it to instill fear in a woman. It is a strange concept but largely in part while domestic violence is performed as I stated earlier. Violence is the way men gain control and they use this in many different areas.
The teachings of masculinity that span many generations can be seen by how men desire to see the fruit of their labor. Men who follow the code do not care for attention from women, but rather solely focus on the respect and acknowledgment from male peers. The practices that embody masculinity clearly have no intention to impress anybody other than men. The fear associated with not being manly is far more when another man is accusing one of such a heinous crime. This introduces that the “Guy Code” is harmful to men, and in turn society.