This mean my emotions are always visible to others, because I get defensive easy and often time is quite needy especially when it comes to my own values. My weakness has impacted on the people who report to me and they fear to approach me with sensitive situation, because they don’t how I might react especially when is from their beliefs. What surprised me about my result and what confirmed that you already know? I was not surprised about my result. As this was the answer I was expecting.
The biggest obstacles to better communication are fear of conflict and lack of trust. These obstacles exist to various degrees between the team and all staff levels; between themselves, IT management and senior management. Trust Some of the lack of trust stems from the behavior of the team in the past and their lack of transparency. Previously the team had broad ability to do whatever they wanted with little oversight. Now, it has become necessary to understand what the team is doing in greater detail and occasionally question their assumptions.
I don’t enjoy having a schedule, I like to be able to get my work done on my own time without multiple deadlines. The bad part about being perceiving is normally I wait until the last minute to do assignments and it can become stressful. Last but not least, I am a mixture of both sensing and intuition. I lean more toward intuition. I am interested in doing things different and new but it also depends on what assignment it is.
Everyday I'm faced with decisions of right and wrong, most of which are easily and correctly dealt with. Sometimes however, decisions need to be made that are not easy or clear-cut. They require thought and often prayer. I like to draw on past experience to make comparisons that help give insight to new problems. Many times, however past experiences cannot be related to present problems and can confuse and obscure possibilities.
Often, this does not happen because people are too stubborn to change. Why I believe everyone is so set in their ideas is because they (Kipnis and I included) are
I am one of them. As I write this now I 'm realizing that I don 't tell people how I truly feel and I tolerate many things, making me passive aggressive and avoidant, which is exactly what bothers me from other people . The truth is, this is about being honest and facing rejection. The fear of rejection is so deeply ingrained in us that it can mask itself as many things, like righteousness, "being concerned", perfectionism, or avoidance, but it hurts people and creates mistrust. I tiptoe around people so much that I created this bubble around me that others see but can 't penetrate.
The other weakness of my personality type is often I can be too sensitive. However, I elect to be receptive when it comes to dissent and criticism. Taking into consideration effective leadership, however, often not able to differentiate between my problems and those that do not belong to me. This has led me to mend obstacles that are beyond my reach, which can spiral into to
The anxiety of what the outcome might be has always hindered my thinking and has thus led to my procrastination. I often feel that the rules that accompany writing is frustrating, like keeping up with the word limit, grammar and time management. However, I feel that the environment where I did most of my writing is mainly responsible for my writing toda... ... middle of paper ... ... hate for writing and others think so too. Fahmy states, “She is not so confident about her writings” (2014, p.1). This statement is relevant.
I’d like to see these examples shown in class. I am also not too comfortable with some forms of directive listening responses like reframe and confrontation. I struggle in my personal life with confrontation so to do it tactfully in a professional setting is a challenge. I think confrontation is no scary to me because I tend so get emotional or defensive when I am confronted. I imagine receiving the same emotions if I had to confront a client, which can rupture rapport.
Hopefully, I can continue to work on having my behaviors reflect my values because I don’t want to look back and wish that I acted differently in certain situations. There is really no excuse for why my behaviors shouldn’t follow my values because if truly value those things, I should be able to recognize that my behaviors might need to be adjusted. I have said that I value helping others but I think I need to find ways to implement this more in my life. Not only do I want to explore ways to help others, I want to be more thoughtful about my comments and how I treat others. I don’t particularly think my behaviors have transformed that much over the last couple of weeks but I am glad that I have been able to see where I need to make changes and have goals for myself.