Love And Love: The Importance Of Love

Love ruins our sense of friendship and identity as is seen when one neglects their friends and personal values in order to please their loved one. This obsession is seen to be further destructive as when love is lost, we turn towards bitterness and self-loathing similar to the main character, Tom, in the movie 500 Days of Summer. The idealization of a person due to love also showcases the deadly consequences of our obsession as is seen when friends cannot see the toxicity of their partners and are left naïve and disappointed when something goes wrong. Lastly, the slow unwinding of Heathcliff’s sanity due to the death of Cathy perfectly showcases love’s ability to destroy one’s self-worth, and truly epitomizes how dependent one can become due to love. Humans are so in love with the idea of being loved that they tend to place love where it does not exist in the first place.

Love is set out to be full of happiness, yet it works to weaken us, and drives us to depend on and to be sensitive of others. Love is built on a foundation of trust which can be broken at any time, a thin barrier between formality and chaos. Foolishness is defined as lack of good sense or judgment, putting yourself through all that seems foolish, doesn’t it? True love doesn’t exist in the play A Midsummer Night’s Dream by William Shakespeare. 3 major relationships that are perceived to be true love, that are just plain foolish are Oberon and Titania, Theseus and Hippolyta, Demetrius and Helena.

When love is modeled in an unhealthy, impractical way it is misguided and will result in unrealistic expectations and ultimately unhappy relationships. As a direct result of repeatedly watching telenovelas, Cleófilas has a horribly distorted idea of love. Cisneros writes, “You or no one. Because to suffer for love is good. The pain all sweet somehow.

The different interpretations of love are aimed at showing what being in love could lead to. When you think that you are in love and not really, how easily emotions can be confused and changed. For example, Demetrius's love for Hermia is fake and easily changed in one night to Helena. Hermia and Helena share a platonic love between them; but Lysander, turning to loving Helena by a drop in his eyes, disrupts it. Helena and Hermia fight and feel betrayed by each other because of Lysander talking about loving Helena.

For instance, John Donne’s poems, “Song: Go and catch a falling star” and “The Apparition” both illustrate love as a bad idea to attain; in fact, he forces the reader to understand why love is a bad idea because in “Song”, love is not unattainable because women are not honest or beautiful. For “The Apparition”, the narrator is enraged how his lover, a woman, hurt him and now he is scorned about the decision of her to reject his love. Overall, both poems address different audiences and that their respective speakers make different arguments to those audiences; with these differences in mind, Donne constructs gender dynamics between femininity and masculinity. Using literary techniques, style, diction, and tone in those two poems, he helps his audience understand the views of these two specific poems to buttress his notion that love should not be desired and if you are trying to claim love, then you are going to accept pain as well. For Donne’s first poem, “Song: Go and catch a falling star”, his narrator illustrates how love does not exist because women are not honest or beautiful to give us this ... ... middle of paper ... ...attempting to call men as “passionate lovers” while women are the “rationale lovers”.

Sexual desire can be stimulated by the anxiety of being alone, the wish to conquer, vanity, or the wish to hurt or even destroy someone. Some people mistake sexual desire with the idea of love, they are easily misled to conclude that they love each other when they want each other physically. Fromm states that if a person’s desire for physical union is not stimulated by love, and romantic love is also not coupled with other forms of love, it will never lead to a union more than an "orgiastic, transitory sense." So what will end up happening is the person who gets scarred by love will begin to destroy or sabotage love in the future, in order to avoid the painful feelings associated with love gone wrong or to avoid vulnerability and basically not surrender to love. Fromm asks, is love an art, or is love a pleasant... ... middle of paper ... ...n my mother was.

The mood is tense when we find out that Brabantio is angry that Othello has taken his daughter. He is determined that Othello must have tricked Desdemona into loving him. Othello defends his love for her, and she in turn vows her love for him. This situation of a forbidden relationship is romantic, it makes the reader feel a great deal of respect and happiness for their mutual love. When Iago begins poisoning Othello’s mind with false suspicion of Desdemona’s fidelity, the mood is extremely frustrating.

Firstly, Benvolio has been appointed by Lord Montague to find out the source of Romeo's melancholy. As Romeo and Benvolio are discussing love, Romeo explains, “Love is a smoke raised with the fume of sighs…” (1.1.197). Romeo elucidates how depressed he feels because Rosaline refuses to marry Romeo. This sadness has made him doubt the reality of the world, and, especially of love. Romeo is crying and depressed because his love for Rosaline is not returned.

Ovid constantly tugs at our emotions and draws forth alternating feelings of pity and disgust for the matters at hand. "Repetition with a difference" in these two narratives shows how fickle we can be in allotting and denying sympathy, making it seem less valuable. Both tales begin drawing forth a sense of disgust for the situation in general yet arousing pity for each girl's predicament. Ovid clearly labels the love Byblis and Myrrha pursue illegitimate when he summarizes the moral of Byblis' tale stating, "when girls love they should love lawfully" (Mandelbaum 307) and reveals that "to hate a father is / a crime, but love like [Myrrha's] is worse than hate" (338) before describing Myrrha's tale. By presenting the girls as criminals, Ovid leads us to despise them.

These people, who are experts at the art of being vulnerable and loving others, are presented with their own problem of being susceptible to get taken advantage of and heartbroken by others. To love is to be vulnerable, although that may seem like an obvious statement; the trick is the perfect amount of vulnerability. Love is a great, outstanding creation, but if somebody is too vulnerable or not vulnerable enough, it can come to a screeching halt where people get hurt or worse. Throughout history other pieces of work by various authors portray love to be a questionable thing that is untrustworthy and that vulnerability is a concept with hidden evils. William Shakespeare’s Romeo and Juliet is the perfect example of being vulnerable to another, but perhaps they exceed the idea.