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ebster’s dictionary defines love in many different ways, “A feeling of intense desire and attraction toward a person with whom one is disposed to make a pair; the emotion of sex and romance. To have a feeling of intense desire and attraction toward (a person) (Webster, love)”. In Great Expectations, Pip is going through maturity, and is always undergoing maturity. We find that Pip is always longing for friends, family, and for love. Love can be a number of things to different people. Love is an emotion, where there is no wrong definition, for it suits each and every person differently, however some characteristics are the same amongst everybody. Pip thinks he is in love, but in my paper I investigate if it’s a real desire of infatuation for Estella, or just a first big crush which lasted through out his teenage years. Pip’s love for Estella is usually a one-way street, at least in his eyes. From the moment Pip meets her, he feels an attraction towards her. At the same token, Estella’s outward feelings towards Pip are confusing and cruel. From slapping him in the face as hard as she can, to making him feel as low as dirt saying he has coarse hands and thick soles and such, Estella is able to crush Pip inside. He feels as though he cannot let Estella know how he really feels besides telling Miss Havisham and Estella her self that she was pretty, yet mean. As time goes on, Pip learns all about Estella from her attitude and appearance. This attitude and appearance is what Pip wanted to attain so that Estella would love him. In chapter 17 Pip tells Biddy “ I am not at all happy as I am” (Dickens, 127). He wants to become a gentleman, a complement to a gentlewoman--Estella. Again telling his feelings to Biddy, he professes. “ the beautiful young lady at Miss Havisham’s. And she’s more beautiful than anybody ever was, and I admire her dreadfully, and I want to be a gentle man on her account” (Dickens, 129). This is the first time we learned about Pip’s love from Pip. Thus far we assume that he likes her, but we never actually hear him say it. The reasons, which he gave Biddy, are his desires, his own infatuation, or a “false love”. Pip has no real ground to like, let alone love Estella since he hardly knows her at all. All Pip knows is a young girl, which was taught to break men’s hearts. Estella is Miss Havisham’s mini me of her self, a heartbroken women who has ...

... middle of paper ... by wishing her the best and wanting the best for her. He will always love her but he knows he cannot have her. In the beginning we think that he isn’t in love, for he doesn’t even know Estella, to the terms of what we think would be the foundation for any loving relationship. She treats him like crap and tries to make him feel like crap 24 hours a day. The saying, “the ones you hate, are the ones you really love”, applies in this book. Deep beneath that hard skin, I think Estella has feelings for Pip-not necessarily the feelings of love, but feelings. Through Pips trials and tribulations, he has learned all about love. Since Estella was his first infatuation, he had nothing to compare his feelings to, but in the future he will always be able to compare. A good guess to how we can imply that he will love someone would be if he thought of her as a queen. Pip learns and figures out love from everything he has been through. He is capable of loving and knowing when love has begun and ended. But, like all good things (like love and this paper) they must come to an end until another good thing comes along; another wonderful girl- a girl which loves Pip for Pip, as he does for her.
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