Loss and Moving On
Loss is something everyone experiences at some point in their lives. Whether it’s a loss of great or little consequence depends on how the person handles the loss. Once you experience a loss, you must be able to overcome this loss, and move on with your life. In the two poems - “One Art” by Elizabeth Bishop and “Daddy” by Sylvia Plath – both speakers have lost someone close to them, however they deal with their losses differently. In “One Art” the speaker is trying to forget and convince herself that the loss is not a big deal, while in “Daddy” the speaker is holding on to the past.
In the poem “One Art” by Elizabeth Bishop, the speaker is saying that some things are basically made to be lost, and their loss should not be taken so seriously since we lose things all the time. She claims that we get used to losing by starting with losing little things like “door keys” or “the hours badly spent” (5), so that when bigger losses happen, we will be able to handle it. The first three stanzas kind of have a sarcastic tone to them, as the narrator is trying to convince us that losing is not a big deal. It happens every day, and “none of these will bring disaster” (9). However, as the poem goes on the losses grow more and more significant, like losing her “mother’s watch” and her “three loved houses” (10-11). At this point it gets more personal as the speaker is suddenly referring to herself in first person making the first three stanzas look like an intro before getting to her actual point. Losing your mother’s watch and is obviously more significant than losing your car keys, but by saying "And look!" (10) she remains ironic, almost saying that it doesn’t really matter, although the speaker is doing a lousy job of co...
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...ds her, she still misses him and what could’ve been. She spent her life trying to get him back, – by trying to kill herself and by marrying a man that was just like him – and never really letting go of her past, not even trying to, like the speaker in “One Art” clearly was trying to do. But as opposed to “One Art”, the speaker finally let’s go of her father in the end. She realizes that her father was not someone she needed, and she finally took control of her own life. So the two speakers kind of went on opposite journeys, one starting out trying to let go, and convince herself that her loss was not that big of a disaster, and she should easily be able to move on, but in the end we clearly see that she hasn’t. And the other starting out with holding on too much to her past, not wanting to let go, until finally in the end she moves on completely, not looking back.
“Pass On” written by Michael Lee is a free verse poem informing readers on grief, which is one of the most difficult obstacles to overcome not only when losing a loved one, but also in life itself. “Pass On” successfully developed this topic through the setting of an unknown character who explains his or her experience of grief. Despite Lee never introducing this character, readers are given enough information to know how they are overcoming this difficult obstacle. In fact, this unknown character is most likely the writer himself, indirectly explaining his moments of grief. One important piece of information Lee provides is the fact that he has experienced loss twice, one with his grandfather and the other a friend who was murdered by the
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One Art by Elizabeth Bishop is a poem that explores loss in comparison to an art; however, this art is not one to be envied or sought after to succeed at. Everyone has experienced loss as the art of losing is presented as inevitably simple to master. The speaker’s attitude toward loss becomes gradually more serious as the poem progresses.
In the poem “One Art” by Elizabeth Bishop is written in villanelle form and iambic pentameter with some shifts in rhyme scheme. The poem also uses the “Aba” rhyme scheme which repeats words that have the same ending consonance. Bishop did loose many loved ones in her life which inspired her to write this poem. Elizabeth describes the loss of possessions, places and people. Trough out the whole poem, it mentions the loss of small things such as keys and large things such as realms. In this poem it is not so much the “Art” of losing, but rather the “Skill” of losing. Bishop uses refrain in the repeated line: “The art of losing isn’t hard to master” or better interpreted as “The skill of losing isn’t
As the first poem in the book it sums up the primary focus of the works in its exploration of loss, grieving, and recovery. The questions posed about the nature of God become recurring themes in the following sections, especially One and Four. The symbolism includes the image of earthly possessions sprawled out like gangly dolls, a reference possibly meant to bring about a sense of nostalgia which this poem does quite well. The final lines cement the message that this is about loss and life, the idea that once something is lost, it can no longer belong to anyone anymore brings a sense...
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the theme of death. The speaker of the poems talks about the loss of a
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A brief introduction to psychoanalysis is necessary before we can begin to interpret Plaths poems. Art is the expression of unconscious infantile desires and the strongest of these desires is the wish to “do away with his father and…to take his mother to wife” (Freud, “Introductory Lectures on Psycho-Analysis 411).This is what Freud called the Oedipal conflict. For women the desire is of course reversed to killing the mother and marrying the father and is called the Electra complex. Children resolve this conflict by identifying with their same sex parent. Loss of a parent can prevent the normal resolution of the Oedipal conflict and result in a fixation or obsession with the lost object (object is the term used to define the internal representations of others). The desire to have the lost object back is also the desire for what Freud called primary narcissism. ...