However, studies show that men and women have equal coping skills, but in different ways. Men use distraction as a coping mechanism, where women are more likely to “ruminate” on conflicts (Knobloch-Westerwick, 2007).
The feeling of alienation was amplified by improper interpretation of body language. Men were more likely to misinterpret body language, so therefore they did not rely on body language as much as women did. “Linguist Lynette Hirschman found that women make more listener-noise, such as ‘mhm,’ ‘uhuh,’ and ‘yeah,’ to show ‘I’m with you’” (Tannen 408). Nonverbal encouragement were common practices for women engaged in conversation, whether they talked to their female friends or their spouse. They may not have been as noticeable to men because of their differences of interest and attention span.
These examples are merely a few of the multitudes of changes that have occurred. It has been pointed out that the utilization of language differs with gender. For instance, women have more of a tendency to use finer discriminations than men do in some areas such as color terms. Women would be more at ease using the labels ‘Crimson’, ‘ecru’, or ‘beige’, more than men and men would be found to use the simpler version: “It’s blue, not cornflower.” It’s also been noted that men have a tendency to drop more expletives into a conversation than women, although some women do swear, especially younger fem... ... middle of paper ... ...ten exploited as sexual objects. Women are described by their appearance while men normally are not, the implied message being that looks are more important for women and also the cause of their circumstance.
One of the researchers we took a look at was Deborah Tannen. According to Tannen the reason that men and women do not communicate well is that men and women use language differently. Women take the attitude that conversation is to explore solutions to common problems while men concern themselves more with getting information and hard data from conversation. Tannen states that what women look for in communication is human connection, while men consider status to be most important. They are looking for independence and are constantly looking for higher accomplishments.
She believes men speak when they feel a need to impress or if their social status is in question. The females however, spoke with much more closeness. Tannen says, “For females, talk is the glue that holds their relationships... ... middle of paper ... ...them control power, wealth, and social resources because men think that women do not want them. Another one of Tannen’s critics, Senta Troemel-Ploetz, accuses Deborah Tannen of ignoring the possibility that men and women communicate differently because of differences of power. Troemel-Ploetz contends that the problem goes beyond conversational style.
They do not want women to outshine them. The stereotype of men outshining women is more clearly seen than the stereotype of a woman outshining a man, but they both exist in their own ways. Time has changed the gender gap, and it will continue to change the stereotypes associated with each gender. Works Cited Chabon, Michael. "Faking It."
Though this research remains true in many aspects, not all women fit the "normal" orientation for their gender. According to our book, aggression is generally thought of as a male behavior, although the difference between the two genders is moderate. Men and women react differently to aggression. Men tend to react more physically with aggression, whereas women tend to exercise their aggression in a more covert, relational manner. The book points out that "the best predictor of gender difference in aggression is belief about the consequences of aggression (p.
Men and women are more different than one can imagine. Though the main difference is in physical appearance, another difference is their sense of communication. Women appear to talk more than males, but like to keep their conversations more private. Males, on the other hand, will talk less, but do not mind their conversations being more public. This is just one of many examples of men and women being completely opposite of one another in terms of communication.
Maoz (2009) said women might be more dependable advocates for peace in any conflict situation. Barkacs and Standifird (2008), not all females carry on the same route pretty much as all men don't. Women use discussions as a method for setting up the connection with others, while men tend to view discussion as a way to exchange information or solve a problem. Kray and Thompson (2005) in an extensive review of theories and empirical supports on gender and negotiation, men and women don’t change fundamentally but the negotiating partners hold different expectations about men and women that lead them to be treated differently. Negotiators change their behavior depending on their counterpart gender and they do differently as a result of their opponent behaviors.
She suggests that male-female conversation is cross-cultural communication and that miscommunication results because of intolerance for the opposite gender marked language. While this is true, it could also seem to the audience that both characters have different wants and needs for their future, so perhaps the language isn’t a strong enough factor in the miscommunication. What is certain through the text is that the male American has much more dominance and certainty in his dialogue whereas the female Jig’s dialogue tends to stretch the conversation more rather than have a fixed standpoint. This can be seen through her mentioning the “white elephants” (9, Hemingway) or snapping about how they “look at things and try new drinks” (34). It is clear that Jig’s dialogue is driven by fantasy whereas the American’s dialogue is driven by facts and what is.