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The sounds of tears and yelling is what I would hear from my room most nights “Im so sick and tired of you always putting work before the family” is what I would hear mum yelling “Well what would make you happy then” dad would say. Mum and dad always fought as all couples do, but more so after my baby brother was born. Whenever they had a problem they would fight and then everything would be okay in a few hours or so, but it seemed like this time things were different. I was always very mature for my age and understood a lot more than what mum and dad thought I knew, yes they had issues that they needed to work on, but I never thought that they would get a divorce, I always thought that my parents were stronger and could get through their problems, but maybe they just needed to go their separate ways.

March 2010 I will never forget that day. That was the day that mum would give mum would sit me at the table and give me news that would change my life forever. “Baby girl, I love you so much you know that right?” she said I could see the tears welling up in her eyes “Yes Mum” I replied with a smile “you know dad hasn’t been around much lately” “yes mum” I replied “where has he been?” “Well, dad’s been staying at ma’s (grandma’s) “when is he coming back home?” I asked “Well he’s not” as a saw a droplet fall from her cheek. It suddenly felt like everything in the room stopped and I refused to believe what mum was saying. “Dad and I have decided to live separately for a while” mum said. I really didn't know what to say after that, I just sat their feeling numb, it was almost like their were no words left to say and every emotion had left my body.

The next couple of days I really didn’t do or think about much, I didn’t feel like myse...

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... pa moved in to so that they could help out with us. I always felt like I had to grow up fast so that I could be their to help out with my little brother and be their for mum the best way I knew how.

Life will take you through many challenges like, living in two separate homes will never be easy and is something that you may never get used to but not for a second do a regret the things that have happened in my life, because I would never have had the wisdom and be the person that I am today. Through all of this I feel like I have been the rock to the family and the one that keeps everyone grounded. Being children from divorced parents is just a title and will never define me as a person. Everything that has happened in my life has been a lesson and has meaning to me and I will never be judged on the actions of my parents but rather the person that I am to become.

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