While Adele wa giving birth, Edna was enjoying her freedom from her children “..she did not miss them except with an occasional intense longing. Their absence was a sort of relief, though she did not admit this, even to herself. It seemed to free her of a responsibility which she had blindly assumed and for which Fate had not fitted her.”(Chopin.25) with her children away , her husband away business , living alone in the pigeon house and her affairs , Edna this very moment was the antithesis of the mother woman. Adele knew of all the things Edna has allowed to suffer for her awakening and was begged Edna to fit the role for her children. But as the audience knows Edna would not give up herself for her children even when she was alone , lonely , and
She went along with the way things were supposed to be, holding her socials and tending to her house until she became aware that she needs more from her life. Edna's marriage to Leonce is safe, but there is no passion or excitement. "She grew fond of her husband, realizing with some unaccountable satisfaction that no trace of passion or excessive and fictitious warmth colored her affection, thereby threatening its dissolution" (Chopin, p. 18). While this lack of emotion is enough to satisfy Edna for the majority of her marriage, after she begins to allow her true self to come forth, she feels trapped and seeks a way to escape. She realizes that she needs intrigue and flavor in her marriage, especially, in her life.
“Edna felt that her marriage would anchor her to the conventional standards of society and end her infatuation” (Skaggs 30). She is fond of Leonce, but he does not incite passionate feelings. Edna represents women in the past that were suppressed. These women weren't allowed to give their opinions and were often seen as objects, which explains the way her husband never really saw Edna as his wife, but more as a material possession. “You are burnt beyond recognition, he added, looking at his wife as one looks at a valuable piece of personal property which has suffered great damage” (Chopin 2).
It seemed to free her of a responsibility which she had blindly assumed and for which Fate had not fitted her.” (Chopin 18) In this quote it is revealed how Edna was not quite fit to be a mother. She would forget about her children and enjoy them not being there. This to her was freedom, she was free of the responsibilities that Fate gave her, she did not have to do anything and was not expected to care for anyone but herself. Addressing boundaries, Greenblatt declares, “…if culture functions as a structure of limits, it also functions as the regulator and guarantor of movement. Indeed the limits are virtually meaningless without movement; it is only through improvisation, experiment, and exchange that cultural boundaries can be established.” (Stephen 5) Here, Greenblatt asserts that without people pushing against the boundaries and testing out the limits there would not be any boundaries or limits.
She allowed her need for love to curtail the love her children received from her. Edna was fine without her children,“Their absence was a sort of relief, though she did not admit this, even to herself. It seemed to free her of a responsibility which she had blindly assumed and for which Fate had not fitted her.” Her choice to end her life, and not return to her children was just purely thoughtless. Different from the other women at Grand Isle, Edna attempted to find love outside of her marriage. As she fell in love with Robert she began to put a halt to her present life.
(Victorian Women, p. 118). Women were supposed to happily accept this position in the home, and be satisfied. It never satisfied Edna, who always seemed out of place when with other women. She was a wife and a mother, but not the typical Victorian wife and mother. With regards to her children, "Their absence was sort of relief...It seemed to free her of a responsibility which she blindly assumed and for which Fate had not fitted her" (p. 18).
They try to make their daughters' lives as easy and problem free as possible. However, the daughters do not see this as an act of love, but rather as an act of control. In the end, the daughters realize that their mothers tried to use their experiences to teach them not to give up hope, and to look at the good of an experience rather than the bad. Amy Tan starts The Joy Luck Club with the daughter, Jing-mei, and mother, Suyuan Woo. Suyuan lived through a hard life in Kweilin during the war and teaches her daughter to keep her head up and have faith, even though things may seem hard at the time.
The longer she stayed in her marriage, the more she realizes that the passion she needed was not there with her husband, nor was the motherly affection she should have felt for her children. Lost in mixed emotion and longing to be free, Edna’s actions not only affect her husband life but also the future of her children. Even though Edna is selfish, in the end she realizes everything she has done will harm her two boys. She is not strong enough to be free without the love of Robert Lebrun and in the end decides she will not go back to the gilded cage of the life she led before. In the thoughts of her children and the life she is not strong enough to keep, she returns to the sea.
Also, the "something . . . which is revealing itself" does not become completely clear to Edna herself until just before the end, when she does indeed give her life, but not herself for her children's sake. Although Edna loves her children she does not confuse her own life with theirs.There is a certain portion of Edna’s identity the "essential" which Edna argues belongs only to herself, and that she would never give it up for anyone, not even her children.
Still, in the end, Edna follows through with what she told Madame Ratignolle she would and would not be willing to do: “I would give up my life for my children; but I wouldn’t give myself” (69). She gives up her life because she is unwilling to give up her self—her desires, her cravings, and her passions to do what she wants selfishly and without regard for any other being’s wishes. She cannot escape motherhood, nor can she ever hope to find her idealized lover. Thus, she leaves these dissatisfactions behind her as she enjoys her final moments of empowerment and solitude wrapped in the folds of the sea, the hum of bees, and the smell of pinks’ musk. Works Cited Chopin, Kate.