Moving on and being able to find happiness is very relevant in regards to The Story of Tom Brennan by J.C Burke. You can't live in the past, you have to move on, whether you find happiness is up to you. Also the more time you spend thinking about the bad things there is less room for the good thoughts. Of you can find something to look forward to or something you enjoy doing, just something to take your mind off the past will help you move on.
Before I began reading for this project I asked myself. What do I want to take away from it, and why? To be honest, at first, I didn’t know what I wanted from reading the book When the Hurt Runs Deep by Kay Arthur. After opening myself up to the truth I realized deep within me I sought answers to my life. My heart longed to know the reason behind why certain things occur but an even greater question arose out of my inner thoughts and up to the surface: Have I truly moved past all the hurt that runs deep?
Life as we all know is full of disappointment and filled with disparity. Most of us are able to go through these and learn from and forgive ourselves. Yet, this isn’t always the case. People are faced with traumatic experiences that often take a long time to get over, if they ever do get over it. These experiences brew in our brain popping up at the most random points often bringing our spirits down. Although these experiences may scar us and fill us with regret and guilt, we can’t continue to live in the past and let these regrets haunt us. Self forgiveness is a key to healing and to moving on in life, no matter how hard it is.
“If you’re always battling against getting older, you are never going to be happy, because it will happen anyhow” (Albom, 120). This quote is from Morrie Schwartz who died from ALS. Morrie gradually learned to accept his coming death and aging so he could learn how to be happy. He also decided to share many aphorisms and lessons he learned himself to his friend and previous student, Mitch Albom. In the book Tuesdays with Morrie, Mitch writes his every Tuesday meetings down and explains the lessons he learned from his former coach. Morrie teaches people to live life through showing emotions, learning how to forgive, and knowing love goes on.
Forgiveness is freedom. Forgiveness sets us free. My moments of the perpetual journey of repeated practice and willingness to forgive has created my foundation for long-term change and stability. Understating the act of forgiveness and unconditional love has carried me to the side of life that is kinder, softer and easier to bear which has shifted my perspective of viewing our world and experiencing my inner self. Forgiveness of both self and others is the most powerful tool we have, and it is readily attainable to all of us. If you are convinced and ready to forgive, you may be wondering where to start. One thing we have to keep in mind is that Forgiveness is a process that takes time, efforts and commitment to accomplish. My suggestion is
I had a few people in my life that hurt me so much that I hated them. But, I was so miserable that I was not happy. I prayed to God to help me forgive them, a little by little I learned to forgive myself and then forgive them. The second one, was “Accept the past as the past without denying it or disrecarding it”. In other words, don’t dwell on the past, you will not focus on the present and future, but if you deny or discard the past, you will make the same mistakes made in the previous.
As an individual feels the dread of time and goes through the process of depression, the idea of dissociating themselves comes into play. Stout describes this throughout her essay as leaving the soul or describing it as “flying away”. It may seem as if some individuals are secure with their own identity, however that is never the case for the traumatic events that force each person to fall into a state of desperation and lose their self-conception. Meanwhile in Karen Armstrong’s essay, she describes how through spiritual practices some abolish all the negativity that surrounds everyone just to find meaning. Yet still the idea cleansing your mind from all trauma, to reach a safe harbor, where you feel relaxed and comforted is never the brightest solution. Due to the fact that when you lose a memory, you are short yourself of an experience. In both Stout’s and Armstrong’s essay, the willingness to dissociate yourself from the harsh realities of society with ease comes into question. In the end when one interferes with the interpretation of traumatic events, the meaning behind life turns out be blemished and left
What is forgiveness? Is it forgiving yorself? Is it forgiving the person who hurt you? Tony Robbins the famous life coach once said” Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself”. The quote that Tony Robbins said made me open my eyes and made me realize the mistakes I have done in the past.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Yes you forgive. Do you have to forget the issue as well? Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life. Express the emotion. Let yourself feel hurt and angry. Verbalize the way you feel. Understand why. Was it a misunderstanding? Where was the fault, with you or with the other person? If the fault was with you, you will not get
This book explains all there is to know about the subject of forgiveness. It meticulously explains what forgiveness is, why it can be challenging, the psychological and spiritual benefits to forgiveness, how to forgive, and gives many examples of true forgiveness. The authors express in detail what true forgiveness looks like and how letting go of the pain others inflict upon you can provide a chance at renewing the relationship and healing. The book explains how unforgiveness can spin you into a traumatic cycle of hatred and bitterness and how to break the cycle, even in the most difficult of situations. McCullough, Sandage, and Worthington’s To Forgive is Human: How to Put Your Past in the Past was published in 1997 (InterVarsity Press [Downers
Kathryn, brought in a quote from Lady Macbeth,” Things without a remedy should be without regard; what’s done is done.” Sometimes what people need to know is that they cannot change the past, however they can plan again and avoid the mistakes that were made the first time. Another thing I learned from Kathryn is that as humans, mistakes are bound to happen, when they do, live it behind and move on with your life. Most people go into a state of denial whenever something bad happens. They have a hard time accepting what has happened.