And that was the basis of the mother-daughter relationship between Suyuan and Jing-Mei. Suyuan always had very high expectations for her daughter – wanting her to be a child prodigy. She would give Jing-Mei tests on things she would read in magazines, like knowing the capitals of the states or multiplying numbers. Jing-Mei ev... ... middle of paper ... ...ough the daughters possessed different personalities, and the mothers varied in strength, they all had one important thing in common – they all wanted their daughters to listen to them. The mother’s firmly believed that if you were obedient to your mother you would grow up a good Chinese woman – but that was the problem.
The women played this game in hopes of luck, to bring them joy and happiness. Suyaun was the mother of Jing-mei, Chwun Yu and Chwun Hwa; Chwun and Chwun had to stay in China because Suyaun had to leave them. Suyaun died and Jing-mei had to take care of herself. She became well aquanted with the other leaders of the club: Ying-Ying, Lindo, and An-mei. These women informed Jing-mei that the two babies, in whom her mom had left, were still alive and the location had been found.
Two Kinds In this story “Two kinds” by Amy Tan it shows the great expectations of a mother, who wishes for her child to be famous and a genius. The mother coming from a society that is very hard working and obedient trying to instill the upbringing she had I her life. The child Jing-mei is a typical example of a child rebelling against their mothers wishes no matter how hard the parental figure tries, the child wishes to perform things in their own way and use their own freewill and to do things in there own timely fashion. The mother moves to America after much heartache in China. She has lost everything as quoted “she had come here in 1949 after losing everything in China: her mother and father, her family home, her first husband, and two daughters, twin baby girls.” (pg 1218).
Mother as Villain and Victim in Joy Luck Club In The Joy Luck Club, Amy Tan focuses on several mother-daughter relationships. One of the relationships explored is that between an immigrant Chinese mother and her American born daughter Jing-mei. The mother expects Jing-mei to be a prodigy child - while pursuing this dream she unintentionally creates a serious conflict between her and her daughter. To fulfill her unrealistic expectations, the mother pushes Jing-mei to be the best in anything and everything. At first, the reader may perceive the mother as the villain in the story; however, the mother just wants her daughter to have the life that she never had.
Ironic as it sounds, they are objectifying their daughters and using them as status symbols, no different from flaunting a new car or gadget. On the other hand, American feminist criticism focuses on the victimization of women, a victimization that is apparent in Two Kinds. Though at first glance, Jing-mei’s mother may seem like the antagonist in the story, when one considers her backstory it is apparent that she just wants her daughter to have the life she never had. The mother lost everything when she moved from China to San Francisco in 1949. In China she lost her family, her spouse, and she had to abandon her twin baby girls.
It was through this story that the narrator learned how careful a young woman must be when growing up in the Chinese culture. Years after hearing of her aunt’s misfortune, the narrator realizes that she has carried on this ostracism and is equally as guilty as the others who participated in this punishment of silence. However, the narrator feels an intense connection with the outcast of her family. “My aunt haunts me—her ghost drawn to me because now, after fifty years of neglect, I alone devote pages of paper to her…” (16). Perhaps the narrator feels this bond because she herself feels completely alienated from the family and could never be fully connected to her Chinese heritage.
Chinese parents do not let their children give up, they will make them practice for hours at a time. Chua made her daughter practice over and over on the piano until she got the song right. Chua even threatened her daughter that is she did not get the song by that night then she would never get to celebrate a holiday again and that her toys would be donated to the Salvation Army. After countless practicing her daughter finally got the song correct. Western parents would not push their children like that and let them give up.
By definition purity can mean the freedom to do whatever one wants to do in spite of the standards placed on by society. Jing-Mei’s mother sets her expectations very high. Jing-Mei the daughter protagonist of the mother protagonist goes along with what her mother’s wishes are by acting as if she doesn’t care and just goes a long with what her mother says just to gain her mother’s approval. In the story vivacity represents beauty and attractiveness and also a sense of liveliness that the character is learning to portray. Her mother is a very strict woman with high expectations.
A large abundance of relationships between mothers and daughters can all correlate to a certain time in their lives when they once misunderstood each other’s situations. A growing teenager may view her future and beliefs on life in an utterly different aspect compared to her mother’s perspective. On the other hand, a mother who has already experienced her youth’s hardships would want to guide their daughter’s future in order to prevent her from enduring those emotional complications. The Chinese mothers in The Joy Luck Club have struggles with emotional misunderstandings that leads to their failure in delivering their devoted affection to their daughters. Amy Tan thoroughly defines this issue with her characters in The Joy Luck Club.
Parental Control vs. Guidance in Joy Luck Club The novel, "Joy Luck Club," by Amy Tan describes the struggle between a dominate mother who tries to protect her daughter, Ni kan, from the devastating losses that she suffered by convincing her that she might become anyone she wants to be. Ni kan resents her mother's control and wishes only to be herself. The author clearly illustrates in this novel that parents cannot control their children's lives; they can only guide them in the right direction and let them make their own decisions. First of all, Amy Tan shows that Ni kan's mother attempted to dominate and control her daughter's life.