Jealousy In Interpersonal Relationships

Since jealousy can be a major source of conflict in any partnership and "is destructive in even its smallest form…and can interfere with and destr... ... middle of paper ... ...k. "Effects of relationship length on the experience, expression, and perceived appropriateness of jealousy." The Journal of Social Psychology. v. 137 Feb 1997: 23-31 Basset, Jonathan F. "Sex differences in Jealousy in Response to Partner's Imagined Sexual or Emotional Infidelity with a Same or Different Race Other." North American Journal of Psychology. Vol.

In this play, it is clear that jealousy is an important theme. Jealousy is a common feeling which every human has. BBC states that “According to clinical psychologist Ayala Malach Pines, ‘jealousy is a complex reaction to a perceived threat to a valued relationship or to its quality’. Unlike envy, it always involves a fear of loss and requires three people” (“Relationships & Couples” - 1). Ayala Malach Pines basically explains that jealousy is a feeling of wanting control over something or someone and it starts from fear of losing that something or someone.

Jealousy is such an emotion that every human faces once in their life. It often arises when someone wishes to have something someone else does or want to be like someone else because of which many peoples’ personality changes. Jealousy is a corrosive emotion that deteriorates not only one’s character, health, and relationship but it also causes extreme irrationality which can lead to death. This shows that envy/jealousy is more volatile than most people presume and therefore should be prevented whenever possible. Jealousy can make one feel apprehensive about their relationship, questioning their thoughts and decisions.

Both men and women suffer from jealousy on an equal footing . The exact origin and jealousy can be found in a motley of different emotions that are not always irrational to be honest. It is a combination of fear and insecurity of losing priceless possession or person . Many psychologists jealousy refer directly to the lack of self-confidence in the relationship . After a while jealousy , promotes himself and begins to captivate the normal routine of the people , and turns his life into an absolute disaster .

In Shakespeare’s Othello and Khaled Hosseini’s The Kite Runner, Othello and Amir are overcome with the feeling of jealousy towards the people they love. This causes them to commit crimes against the ones they are jealous of. When jealousy corrupts the mind, it results in the individual loosing their true nature. It almost always leads the individual to hurt the ones that they love the most. Almost always jealousy turns into guilt, which explains why jealousy is a dangerous emotion; it consumes the mind and always leads to devastating consequences.

Studies on the presence of jealousy in romantic relationships have been increasingly polarized, with some researchers viewing jealousy as a destructive force in the maintenance of relationships while others view it as a positive measure of commitment (Ammon, 2004). Connected with rejection, jealousy is defined as a combination of feelings, thoughts and actions that arise following a real or perceived threat to one’s relationship (Ammon, 2004). “Sexual” jealousy evocation stimulates angry impulses and approach behaviours that function to maintain one’s relationship by disrupting affiliations between one’s partner and a perceived or real foe (Harmin-Jones, Peterson, & Harris, 2009). Harmon-Jones et al. (2009) designed a controlled and ethically sound method to arouse jealousy in the lab and observe the pattern of neural activity that is elicited when an individual actively experiences jealousy.

At the same time, Millicent Bell states in his essay, “Othello’s Jealousy” that the characters are driven to madness by being allowed to see what really is not so or simply using imagination. Bell also goes on to say the jealousy traits are shown only in a sexual manner. That statement can be argued against. True enough, sexual jealousy is shown in Othello, but it is not the only form of jealousy exposed. According to Medical Dictionary, sexual jealousy is a condition characterized by suspicion of a spouse's infideli...

Researchers agree that jealousy in relationships can have a negative impact, yet also enhance romantic feelings and satisfaction based on how jealousy is initially communicated (Dainton & Gross, 2008; Yoshimura, 2004). “An essential idea behind this study is that the ways in which jealous individuals communicate their jealousy influence how the target communicatively responds. The results showed that targets of jealousy expressions most strongly respond in the style of the initial expression” (Yoshimura, 2004, p. 95). The way jealousy is expressed initially based on attitude and mood can affect the response of the partner and at shaping and guiding the relat... ... middle of paper ... ...e a parallel correlation from offline jealousy behaviors. Groothof, Dijkstra, and Barelds (2009) suggest that “as for offline acts of infidelity, men compared to women are more upset by a mates sexual infidelity over the Internet, whereas women, more than men, are more upset by a mate’s emotional infidelity over the Internet” (p.1126).

Forced-choice/binary measures require participants to select a specific type of infidelity (sexual or emotional) as more upsetting. This method has consistently shown that males respond more jealously to sexual infidelity, compared to females who are more distressed by emotional infidelity (Bendixen, Kennair, & Buss, 2015; Buss et al., 1992). This sex difference is consistent across a wide array of sexual and emotional-related infidelity characteristics (Buss, 1999). Despite these robust effects, the pertinence of forced-choice measures assessing jealousy in response to infidelity has been disputed (Desteno 2010; Harris, 2002; Harris, 2003). Cognitive biases regarding the ability to evaluate which type of infidelity is more distressing arise due to the binary nature (Desteno 2010; Harris,

Whether it be a small, nonessential problem between the characters or a gargantuan, immeasurable issue within the main character, majority of readers would quickly lose interest if these conflicts did not exist. As a result, authors add such conflicts to rise the excitement to their literature. Similarly, enclosed inside every person lies a dark side usually involving something they purposely try to hide or conceal. Deep within me exists my jealous side. Jealousy is known to twist human emotions and is known to lead to harm and revenge towards others.