Is divorce harmful to children?

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A popular belief is that divorce is harmful to children but the evidence show that is not the case. Divorce may be hurtful but most young adults should want their parents to be happy rather than in a marriage of fighting and being distant. I know from my parents being divorced at first it was hard but in the end I realized that it was for the best and my parents are happy again. In a book a young girl, Alma, of divorced parents says “I’ve survived, and I’m actually living a good life (Trueit, p.49).”
Young adults of divorce may be sad without realizing it but some things they could do is talk to a school counselor or a favorite teacher, tell your friends what’s going on and let them support you, and lastly give yourself some time to physically and mentally recover. (Trueit, p.13) Children of divorce may feel they are the reasons of divorce and it’s the parents’ job to let them know it isn’t, that thought could really hurt a child.
The signs of a troubled marriage are frequent and/or intense arguing, physical and/or verbal abuse, the silent treatment, and leading separate lives. (Trueit, p.22) The most common reasons for divorcing is divided into four parts an unfaithful partner, communication issues, incompatibility and abuse.(Trueit, p.25) Two of popular causes are because of financial problems or one parent has a drug problem/ addiction, possibility both.
Young children and older children, closer to the age of 18, have the fear of going to court and thinking a judge is going to make them stand in front of everyone and they are going to have to choose one parent over the other which is false. (Trueit, p.45) A judge may interview you privately to understand more on your lifestyle, activities and preferences but this information...

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...ether for their children. Seeing their parents happy again can change their views on divorce. If the marriage isn’t working instead of holding it out for them they should think about their children first.

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“Divorce.” Current Issues: Macmillan Social science Library. Detroit: Gale, 2010 opposing viewpoints in context Web 13 Feb 2014
Kittleson, Mark J., William Kane, Barry Youngerman, and Amber Barnes. The truth about divorce. 2nd ed. New York: Facts On File, 2011.Copyright
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